I work as a Customer Laison Complaints Case Officer at a major insurance company, where I have worked for 3 years. I left school when I was 17, as I had some very bad experiences at school and wanted to see what the real world had to offer.
I now live with my boyfriend of 3 years and spend my spare time reading, writing, socialising with friends or just watching some TV.
Times are still hard and I'm trying to cope with various health problems on a daily basis but I'm working my way through things and really want to stop it from getting me down.
I dream of some day going to America and watching a real baseball game (we don't have that at all in the UK) and perhaps finding a job I find creatively fulfilling. Until then, I'm happy trying to be me and making the best of what I have.
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Age: 21
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okay...first off i am 20 years old and I am a virgin and dont plan on EVER having sex until after marriage, so any relationship I have will always be innocent. so now my question...
There is this guy, who really loves me, and whenever I am with him I feel great. He is like the perfect guy that every girl dreams of meeting. and I love him very much. The thing is he is only 16 years old. :S so I feel like its very wrong for me to have any type of relationship with him, other than friends.
he keeps telling me it doesn't matter how old I am, and he doesn't care. but i feel like its really really wrong. and i told him that once he turns 18-19 to call me up. i could tell it really hurt him, and i cant stand the thought of not being with him. :( have i completely lost my mind? please give me your opinion and advice. negative or postive, as long as your being honest. and please no jokes. (link)
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I have to admit, I can see why you might feel a little weird about it. A lot of women don't feel comfortable dating a guy who is younger than they are. That being said, one of my Gran is a fair few years older than my Grandfer and they have been together for 51 years!
What I'm trying to say is that yes, it might seem a little weird right now because the age difference means that in comparison, he is still relatively young but that doesn't mean it can't work. If you really care about each other and you aren't breaking any laws, those four years really aren't a huge deal.
It might be worth giving the relationship a try. He already knows how you feel so you can tell him that you want to give it a try for a while and see how things go. If you find it too weird after around a month, you could suggest taking a break.
My only other concern about this is that you say you are both in love with each other. It sounds as though you have a sensible head on your shoulders, so I'm not disputing that, but 16 is still very young and it might be that he's not old enough to sustain a long-term relationship. At 20, you may well be looking more towards settling down with that special someone and opinions, particularly of young men at that age are very different. Before embarking on any sort of relationship, you need to discuss what you both want from it and where it might lead in the future. That way, you both know where you stand before you get in too deep.
I wish the best of luck to you both.
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