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I have ben hurt many times by guys. Too many times! I always seem to fall for the wrong type, and I really mean the WRONG type! They all seem great at first but then the truth comes out. My ex-boyfriends have either been phycos, nymphos, mythomaniacs, cheaters or just plain assholes!! I have lost count on how many night I have fallen asleep crying! I thought I had given up on boyfriends and then my present boyfriend came along and seems really nice and all. Sure, he cheated on me once in the begining of out relationship but that's normal for me now, I guess that's just a thing that guys do so I have him a second chance.
So now we are together and I can't seem to be happy when I'm with him!! I'm just waiting for when he is going to hurt me and how he's going to do it!
When ever I try to picture our relationship in the furutre I see me crying over him because he hurt me really bad somehow....
I have seriously no romance in me anymore! My previous boyfriends have crushed that! They have made me into a depressing person. I used to me known as the "really happy and fun girl" but that was a looooong time ago!
I try, I really try to be happy with my present boyfriend, he is nice and all but I can't seem to get there. What is wrong with me?!?!
They have crushed my spitit, my soul and a few times my will to live :'(
please help!! (link)
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First of all, to your whole situation pretty much, I have totally been there. So I can actually relate with you. It is often times, that because of our past relationships and experiences we have gone through, we carry them--and the scars/impact with us wherever we go, and with whom we begin new relationships. And that's okay, to an extent. It is important to learn from the past and build/grow from it. Falling asleep crying is no way to go to bed at night. Relationships and love are meant to lift you up, not bring you down. Of course everyone makes mistakes. And you are bound to have arguements in a relationship. You should NEVER let someone disrepect you, abuse you, degrade you, or frankly, mistreat you in any way. You have ask yourself: If you had a daughter, would you let her or want her to be with someone that has treated you the way you have been? Of course not. We often forget what's best for us, because we are blindsighted from the perks of just simply being with someone. People deserve second chances, but not when you know there's going to be more times of hurt and pain. Your boyfriend cheating on you isn't acceptable. I know you have already made the decision of still being with him, but if you're not happy there is a reason. The fact that you are just waiting for then next big slip up on his part isn't any good. You shouldn't have to worry about that. You need to express to your boyfriend that you aren't happy. Simple as that. You need to tell him, that his cheating in the past has affect what you think y'alls future might entail. Ultimately, I can't tell you whether or not you should break up with him. Only you will know that. But what I do know, is your shouldn't be feeling like this. Find a guy that's going to make your heart do flips. A guy that is so sweet you almost think he's too nice for you. A guy that 10 years from now you'll say I want to marry him. Think about it. :)
EDIT/ADD-ON: I appreciate the complimentary feedback. Just remember, don't you ever let ANY guy (or even girl) bring you or tear you down. Be strong. Be free. Be you. Your will to live and the spirit that makes you who are is NOT depedent on a guy. :)
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wow....that's like the best advice I have ever gotten, seriously!! I actually got tears in my eyes when I read it! You totally understand how I feel! Thank you, I really mean it!
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