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God, I have a real problem. When I first came to Jr. High last year I was myself 100%. I didn't give a care what people thought about me, or who my friends were. Then in the middle I started changing my looks and the way I talked, and I found myself ditching my old friends (who were kind of geeky) to be friends with newer and more popular ones. And it worked! Some of the popular people hang out with me now. But I feel really bad now. Now that im friends w/ the popular kids, I feel like I dont even need my old friends. I even LIKE my new friends more than my old ones. So tell me... am I a total selfesh jerk for ditching my friends? And am I weird for changing myself?
Hun, your popular friends have just found out about you. What happened before when you were still with your self-proclaimed 'geeky' friends? They were too busy paying attention to themselves, let alone pay attention to you. Your 'geeky' friends were the ones that were with you in the beginning.
Changes happen every day. Everyone changes, even though they say that they'll stay the same way that they are for the rest of their lives. To tell you the truth, you were a little bit rude. I'm sorry if thats not what you wanted to hear. I'm being honest.
If you really want to stay 'popular', then go ahead. But, think about your old friends. I'm not trying to bombard you with guilt. What will happen when your popular friends dump you? Don't say that it will never happen, that you will remain 'friends forever' with them. Half of the time, you don't. Your friends will be the ones there for you till the very end. Think about it.
Hope I helped!
♥ SiMA
(Rating: 5) Thanks it really did help. I guess you're right. If my popular friends dumped me, I probably would come crawling back to my old friends. And if I was them i wouldn't take me back. Then i would just end up with no friends. i have more in common with my popular freinds, but my old have been with me forever, so I guess it wasn't the best thing to leave them. But even though u had great advice i think im still gonna take a chance with the popular kids for a while and see what happens. And if it looks like they start to leave me, I'll leave first back to my old friends and say that im sorry and hopefully never make the same mistake again. thanks again. Becca