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Q: i babysit for my moms friend. they are awesome and so sweet but their house is a complete disaster. its duscusting! and not only the house but the kids are a mess to! they never wash up when i get there their face and hands are really dirty. there are three of them. and there is food all over the place. it looks like they havent cleaned their house in forever. and the mom doesnt have her priorities in the right order either. she has other stuff more important than her kids. she cant afford gas for her stove or even diaper wipes. and yet she can buy beeer and cigarettes and go to six flags. should i talk to them? if i do i dont know what to say because i dont want to be rude either. HELP NEEDED!
Jesser
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This is tough. I think that if you really wanted to confront them about it, do it in a friendly matter; don't sound like you are condeming them, rather, that you are concerned for their well being.
Maybe you could start off by saying something like: hey it seems like you could use some help with the cleaning that needs to be done in the house. Let her know that you are concerned and are wondering if everything is ok. Instead of going all out and saying: you don't have your priorities straight and you are a mess, be polite and make it seem like you are worried. You aren't being rude by expressing your concern and worries for their well being...at least not as rude as being straightfoward and telling them what they are doing is wrong.
So while you are concerned and want to say something, don't expect too many results or a change...Ultimately the things they do with their kids and money is their decision, and if you go any further than just expressing how you feel about it, they might feel like you are being intrusive. If after you tell them about your concerns they take it well and don't seem offended at all, then maybe you could try asking why it is they do/don't do those things. If they are neutral or a bit offended, don't ask why. But other than that I don't see anything wrong with telling them how you feel, that is, without trying to make them feel guilty or anything. So give it a shot if you'd like, but remember to be polite about it, and not to take it too far. Hope that helped and good luck.
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thank you so much! im gonna try talking to them...because...honestly...if DSS ever came to their house they would take the kids away. and the house is hazardous to their health. thanks!!!
Jesser
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Feel free to ask me any questions or for an alternate way of contacting me through my inbox.
I really like giving advice, so thats why I have a column here. I've been inactive for a long time, but I'm back and will do my best to catch up. Advicenators is a great site and it is what we make it. Having my own advice column helped me learn a lot of new things, even about myself, while giving me the chance to help others along the way. Thanks.
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Gender: Male Location: New York Occupation: Student Age: 18 Member Since: August 10, 2005 Answers: 674 Last Update: July 10, 2009 Visitors: 54867
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