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Q: 13/f
Grr!! This guy I kind of like but kind of don't keeps calling my cell phone and asking me if I want to hang out with him and I really don't want to! I keep bailing on him and I feel really bad!! So anyways, I told him that I lost my cell phone (WHich was a lie.) and he was like, ok just give me your home phone. WTF he didn't even ask! he just like forced me. (Well not really.) so what was I gonna do, say no, you can't have it. He thinks I like him a lot, when I only like him a little bit. (God, I sound so B****y, but I'm really not like this.) So anyways, I really don't want him calling my house phone. Like seriously. And I just gave it to him a few minutes ago and I really don't want him to call me!! Please what should I do!!
P.S.- Please don't tell me to tell him to stop calling, cause I just can't confront guys like that. Last time I did, he cryed the whole day. (I want out with an emo child.)
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Sorry but while you said not to, that is probably the best way to go about it - confront him. If you really really have tried and cannot do it yourself, ask a friend of yours to tell him for you; but make sure that she lets him know you put her up to it.
Honestly though, you can't let something that happened before to stop you from doing it again like that. Put it this way: if a guy broke up with you for a specific reason, does that mean that the next guy will break up with you, or even for the same reason?
You said he thinks you like him a lot. If this is not true, then why would you let him go on thinking that. To avoid making him upset? Trust me on this one - when you do things like that, just to avoid making people upset - things can get messy and usually not work out in the long run. Let him know that you don't want to hang out with him, because if you wanted to hang out with somebody and kept asking them, and for whatever reason they really didn't want to...wouldn't you want them to say so to you and be honest? I think you should tell him the truth, and tell him not to call your house. Tell him about your phone and tell him that you don't want him calling you as much - he should respect that and your privacy. So tell him the truth, and if you can please try to confront him yourself - if you can get through this then it might make things easier for any other time you might need to confront somebody. Besides, it's not guaranteed that you will get the same reaction if that is what you are afraid of; all guys are different. So if you really can't do it yourself, get a friend to...but you need him to know. Hope that helped and good luck.
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Thank you so much!! Now I'm just way scared about telling him :/
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Feel free to ask me any questions or for an alternate way of contacting me through my inbox.
I really like giving advice, so thats why I have a column here. I've been inactive for a long time, but I'm back and will do my best to catch up. Advicenators is a great site and it is what we make it. Having my own advice column helped me learn a lot of new things, even about myself, while giving me the chance to help others along the way. Thanks.
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Gender: Male Location: New York Occupation: Student Age: 18 Member Since: August 10, 2005 Answers: 674 Last Update: July 10, 2009 Visitors: 54786
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