I work as a Customer Laison Complaints Case Officer at a major insurance company, where I have worked for 3 years. I left school when I was 17, as I had some very bad experiences at school and wanted to see what the real world had to offer.
I now live with my boyfriend of 3 years and spend my spare time reading, writing, socialising with friends or just watching some TV.
Times are still hard and I'm trying to cope with various health problems on a daily basis but I'm working my way through things and really want to stop it from getting me down.
I dream of some day going to America and watching a real baseball game (we don't have that at all in the UK) and perhaps finding a job I find creatively fulfilling. Until then, I'm happy trying to be me and making the best of what I have.
Website: My Space
Gender: Female
Location: Dorset, UK
Occupation: Customer Liaison Case Officer
Age: 21
MSN: hottchickie@hotmail.com
Member Since: January 28, 2006
Answers: 1016
Last Update: March 5, 2009
Visitors: 70176
Main Categories:
Love Life
Friendship
Families
View All
Favorite Columnists
karenR
DangerNerd
Razhie
isis
Xenolan
ScratchesOnTheWall
not_your_star34
alisonmarie
HectorJr
BitsandPieces
sassysara
more...
|
| |
|
ok i recently started going out with this guy that i don't like, well actually I just like him as a friend. He is really funnny and sweet a bit cheesy but overall really sweet. He kissed me the other day and one of my friends saw, she thinks it's kinda cruel for me to be going out with him if I don't like him and also cause two of my other friends liked him and one still kina does. What do you think I should do? I don't want to upset him because he is a really great friend and an even better boyfriend (link)
|
I've been in your exact situation so I know where you're coming from but the truth is that if you don't like him in that way then you really shouldn't be going out with him. Not only are you wasting your time but you're wasting his too. If you know that he isn't the sort of guy you can truly see yourself with then there's no point and it would be much kinder to break it off now than to wait until it will be more painful.
Try to meet up with him somewhere and just explain to him that he's a really nice guy and you care about him a lot but you just don't feel any chemistry and you can't be his girlfriend when you don't feel the same way about him as he does about you. Stress that it wouldn't be fair to carry on going out with him when you know he can find someone who can truly care about him the way he should be cared about.
The important point about breaking up with someone is that you're not telling them you don't like them at all and you think they're too terrible to go out with. It's that they deserve someone who can give them what they want and you don't want to take the chance of getting that away from them. This is what you need to get across to him.
Don't worry. He might be upset at first but he will realise that it wouldn't have been right to carry on a relationship and soon enough he will be able to move on and hopefully get the sort of relationship he wants. Equally as important, so will you.
|
|