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13/f, my grandmother used to be okay, never used to get into my way, always feeding us, and helping us. I went to this award banquet, and she didn't like what I was wearing. When she described what I should wear, it was a wedding dress. I explained that for this occasion, you just wear simple things, but she didn't listen. I went the way I looked anyhow. Everyone who passed us, she would say, you see how that person has that... and other what nonsense. She said how my breasts were sticking out. Bra or no bra, of course it would show, I have breasts, wouldn't the shape and size of it show? Now for graduation, she's forcing to dress up in some wedding gown thing. My mom had to tell her no. My grandmother thinks that I'm dressing the wrong way. What's her problem?

I would just pay no attention to her. She doesn't have the authority. Your mom is your sole
guardian; she can tell your grandma that you're not going to wear a wedding gown.

About the breasts. Back in the 20's, girls with completely flat chests and slim, boyish bodies were considered very attractive. Girls had to confine their breasts, so as not to enhance any "sexual parts." That was the culture back then. Ignore her.


Girls had to wear dresses to everything back then. She's old-fashioned, and she can't see that styles have changed. Your mom, fortunately, hasn't sided with your grandmother, and you can wear what you want. No big deal. Just tell your mother not to have your grandmother come along next time you go somewhere.

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