I work as a Customer Laison Complaints Case Officer at a major insurance company, where I have worked for 3 years. I left school when I was 17, as I had some very bad experiences at school and wanted to see what the real world had to offer.
I now live with my boyfriend of 3 years and spend my spare time reading, writing, socialising with friends or just watching some TV.
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I dream of some day going to America and watching a real baseball game (we don't have that at all in the UK) and perhaps finding a job I find creatively fulfilling. Until then, I'm happy trying to be me and making the best of what I have.
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Well my best friend went out with my ex-boyfriend 2 days after i broke up with him, even though i wish i hadent. I only broke up with him because he lived to far away.. But it just bugs me that she did that, and i dont know what to do. I told her that i didnt care because i dont want to let some guy (no offence) get between me and her- but it is! Any help would be great, and i do rate.
-cj (link)
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There are really two ways that you can look at this.
The first way to look at it, from an impartial perspective, is that you had broken up with him. Unless you had said to your friend that you wished you hadn't broken up with him, you can't make too much of a fuss because he was 'on the market', to put it crudely.
However, the alternative is that there is an unwritten rule between friends that you NEVER date guys that you both like or ex's because it makes matters very complicated in the friendship and basically puts people in the position you are in now.
The bottom line of the situation, really is that you are upset about this. You did basically give her permission to go out with him when you didn't really want her to so you can't be too upset with her. At least she spoke to you about it rather than going behind your back.
I really think you need to speak to her about this and tell her how you feel. You can't backtrack on what you said because she's already going out with him, but she needs to be aware that you aren't as comfortable with it as you first made out. Be calm about it and reasonable and just say something along the lines of "I know I said I didn't care if you went out with him but the truth is, it bothers me more than I wanted to let on. I don't want a guy to come between us and I meant it when I said that but I'm just uncomfortable with it."
After this, you have to resign yourself to the situation and just hope that she is sensitive about it, rather than telling you all the gory details.
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Ok, Ill do that! Thank you so muchas!
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