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I cant belive she did this!
14/f
Well my best friend went out with my ex-boyfriend 2 days after i broke up with him, even though i wish i hadent. I only broke up with him because he lived to far away.. But it just bugs me that she did that, and i dont know what to do. I told her that i didnt care because i dont want to let some guy (no offence) get between me and her- but it is! Any help would be great, and i do rate.
-cj
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What you should do is let it go for a few weeks and if they are still dating and you are still haveing problems with it then talk to her don't tell her to break up with him or anything just tell her how you feel and you both can work it out together. You don't want a guy to become friends but sometimes it just happens. But what you really need to do is tell her how you feel so you both won't stop being friends over it.
Good luck,
Hope I helped
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OMG that same thing happened to me, just wait it out part of it mite b jeaulousy, and u mite not lik,e him as much. I think that wat ur friend and my friend did was really mean, my friend is reall really emotional tho so i decided not to really say anything. I hope i've helped
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first off let me say that shouldn't be your friend she should be more sensitive to the fact that you like him still and that you just broke up with him becaus eof long distance. i would talk to her about that because i'm sorry... but that is not an example of a friend that is an example of a backstabber. tell her how you feel hun. tell her how you feel about him and how you feel about her going after you broke up with ex 2 days before they got together. good luck!
-Bess
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There are really two ways that you can look at this.
The first way to look at it, from an impartial perspective, is that you had broken up with him. Unless you had said to your friend that you wished you hadn't broken up with him, you can't make too much of a fuss because he was 'on the market', to put it crudely.
However, the alternative is that there is an unwritten rule between friends that you NEVER date guys that you both like or ex's because it makes matters very complicated in the friendship and basically puts people in the position you are in now.
The bottom line of the situation, really is that you are upset about this. You did basically give her permission to go out with him when you didn't really want her to so you can't be too upset with her. At least she spoke to you about it rather than going behind your back.
I really think you need to speak to her about this and tell her how you feel. You can't backtrack on what you said because she's already going out with him, but she needs to be aware that you aren't as comfortable with it as you first made out. Be calm about it and reasonable and just say something along the lines of "I know I said I didn't care if you went out with him but the truth is, it bothers me more than I wanted to let on. I don't want a guy to come between us and I meant it when I said that but I'm just uncomfortable with it."
After this, you have to resign yourself to the situation and just hope that she is sensitive about it, rather than telling you all the gory details.
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Well, sorry if I'm dissapointing, but YOU'RE the one that broke up with him. Maybe your friend thought 'oh she probably moved on already'. If you wish that you didn't break up with him, then it's a little too late. You can't really do anything at this point, so the best thing that you can do is just move on.
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your friend did something mean to you and its great that you dont want it to come between you two but if she hurt you you need to tell her. You did break up with him but even though you regrt it you need to get on and have fun being single. Flirting w/o getting in trouble, hangign out with the girls + just enjoying yourself. Who cares if thir togethr now wht matters is that your njoying yourself
hope i helped
hug and kisses....
claire
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