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Mkay.

I'm dating this guy. Ryan. We have been dating for about three weeks now, Yeah, I know - It's not that long. But this isn't the first time we dated.

My best friend, almost hooked up with the same guy. But we went out one night and she did things with another guy and almost went all the way. Ryan found out and told me about two months ago that he didn't want a girl like that, So we started talking more, My bestfreind hates it with a passion. She claims that she wants him to die and that she hates him and doesn't want anything to do with him ever again, and that she has no feelings left for him what so ever, So I thought - What the heck, I'll date him and give him a chance.

We started dating. My bestfriend found out and told me, it's me or him. Take your pick. Of course, I chose my best friend. Me and Ryan broke up. Then about two weeks later, me and Ryan started talking about, and everything was cool with my bestfriend, We even pledged to not let another guy get between us ever again. Everything was perfect, So I gave Ryan another chance. I told my best friend, but she was too drunk to remember that I said anything.

Last night I hung out with both of them. My bestfriend was a complete ass to Ryan and I felt bad but I couldn't do much because I hate being in the middle of fights, So I just stood there and talked to all my other friends. Apperently everyone but my bestfriend knew that me and Ryan were dating. Well, I didn't want to tell my bestfreind last night either because we were not only with a buncha friends but she was also wasted.. So I didn't say anything.

Somehow, she found out. She called Ryan and completely bitch slapped him and called him on everything. I haven't talked to her yet but I'm not so sure I want to. I don't know what to do because I know it's going to come down to the same thing, Her or Him. I don't want to choose for the sake of myself, but what do I do?

I'll rate 5s.

Your best friend is being extremely immature. Talk to her and tell her 'Hey [name], I shouldn't choose between you or Ryan because you both mean a lot to me, and I really like him, you shouldn't have called him and done that to him, 'cause it made me really mad. I can't choose between you and him, so you'll have to understand that'. If she is a true friend, then she'll understand, if not, then you should forget about it. She is being inconsiderate and does not care about your feelings or his.

Good luck.

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