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Boyfriend, Best friend. Uhoh.
Mkay.
I'm dating this guy. Ryan. We have been dating for about three weeks now, Yeah, I know - It's not that long. But this isn't the first time we dated.
My best friend, almost hooked up with the same guy. But we went out one night and she did things with another guy and almost went all the way. Ryan found out and told me about two months ago that he didn't want a girl like that, So we started talking more, My bestfreind hates it with a passion. She claims that she wants him to die and that she hates him and doesn't want anything to do with him ever again, and that she has no feelings left for him what so ever, So I thought - What the heck, I'll date him and give him a chance.
We started dating. My bestfriend found out and told me, it's me or him. Take your pick. Of course, I chose my best friend. Me and Ryan broke up. Then about two weeks later, me and Ryan started talking about, and everything was cool with my bestfriend, We even pledged to not let another guy get between us ever again. Everything was perfect, So I gave Ryan another chance. I told my best friend, but she was too drunk to remember that I said anything.
Last night I hung out with both of them. My bestfriend was a complete ass to Ryan and I felt bad but I couldn't do much because I hate being in the middle of fights, So I just stood there and talked to all my other friends. Apperently everyone but my bestfriend knew that me and Ryan were dating. Well, I didn't want to tell my bestfreind last night either because we were not only with a buncha friends but she was also wasted.. So I didn't say anything.
Somehow, she found out. She called Ryan and completely bitch slapped him and called him on everything. I haven't talked to her yet but I'm not so sure I want to. I don't know what to do because I know it's going to come down to the same thing, Her or Him. I don't want to choose for the sake of myself, but what do I do?
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Hm..you've got a real problem, huh? Well, what I say is that if your best friend was really your best friend, she would be happy for you and Ryan.
It sounds like the only reason problems have been happening is because of your friend. Ryan doesn't fight back to your best friend(Which is good, because that would make more drama.)
It also sounds like your best friend is getting drunk and wasted a lot. Now, who am I to tell you who to hang out with, but I think that you should not hang out with your friend anymore. She seems to be the only problem that goes on in your life. Sure, she's been there for you through thick and thin, but what about guys?
How good of a friend is she?
Best Of Luck,
LoveToLaugh37
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Well chick i think that if your friend was really your friend that she would not make you pick over him or her but as i was always told friends are friends forever but the person you love may leave so make sure you have that one person you need....so if i was you i would try to find a time to sit down to talk to both of them and ask them to please talk to eachother for you and if that dont work then i would take my friend...i hoped i helpped,Travis
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If your friend was a real friend she wouldnt make you pick over her or your bf. You should tell her that. IF u have been friends with her for a long time she shouldnt let some boy that you like get between u guys. She should be behind you 110%. Well g2g bye.
-Sharifa
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Honestly, I am -all- for chicks before dicks but your friend is taking it way too far.
If she really did care for you, she'd want you to be happy with Ryan. But I have a feeling that she's very self absorbed and if there was a guy who came between you and her, she wouldn't give you a second thought.
Tell her that she's acting out of line and immature. Ask her for a good reason why you shouldn't go out with Ryan (i.e. if she really likes him) but if she can't come up with anything better than "I hate him", tell her that she needs to grow up. Make it clear that you're going to be dating Ryan and being her best friend at the same time and if she can't agree to that, she can call you when she's ready to.
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if she is your bestfriend, she should understand that you guys like eachother! let her know that you are her friend and that you dont want to choose. but honestly if i had to choose, i would choose my friend because you know they will be there longer than some boy. hopefully i helped!
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You can date whoever you want. If your friend hates him and whatnot, why does she care if you date him? Tell her that she can't make you pick. What kind of friend is that? If she doesn't want to be your friend then you know what, screw her. She shouldn't have the authority to choose who you date.
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Your best friend is being extremely immature. Talk to her and tell her 'Hey [name], I shouldn't choose between you or Ryan because you both mean a lot to me, and I really like him, you shouldn't have called him and done that to him, 'cause it made me really mad. I can't choose between you and him, so you'll have to understand that'. If she is a true friend, then she'll understand, if not, then you should forget about it. She is being inconsiderate and does not care about your feelings or his.
Good luck.
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You shouldn't have to choose between your friend or boyfriend. Want to know why? Well, let me tell you a little story first, that i've told to people that are goign through the same situation. A while back, my "friend" told me to choose between her and another friend of mine. And I said to her, if you were my friend you wouldnt have a problem with this. DO you know how much pressure that is from a friend to make you decide that? You shouldnt have to brake up with your boyfriend because you have to make a decision. Tell your friends either they take you or leave you, because this whole thing is immature. Hope I helped.
-Brina
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