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Q: there is this guy that i really like. the only problem is that he's too nice. how this is a problem you may ask? because i never know when he is sincere. a while ago my friend liked him, so she had her friend ask him if he liked her. he didn't like her but he said he did anyway because he didn't want her to feel bad. see what i mean? and aside from that, he barely knows i exist. what should i do?
Talk to him! Introduce yourself out of the blue. Weird and unusual? Yes. Is it acceptable? Of course! Talk to this guy, get to know more about him and at the same time let him know more about you. If you feel that after knowing more about him that you still like him, then flat out and openly say: hey I need you to be 100% honest and tell me if you like me or not. Are you sure he is always like that? I mean it could just be he seriously didn't want to hurt her feelings because he wanted to be her friend.

Personally, I find that when most guys do that and try to let things happen or something just so they don't hurt the girl, that usually means they like them more than they don't like them; as in they don't want to harm things and keep it neutral.

So yeah, talk to him and get to know him. At the beginning of the friendship let him know what it is you've heard or seen about him, and ask if he will try to take your friendship serious, regardless of whether or not it develops into a relationship. Hope that helped and good luck.

thanks, you really helped!!♥

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