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I am 17 years old and have never had a bf. People in my senior class make fun of me behind my back because of this. I even heard one rumour that I was a lesbian. I'm not a lesbian, I do like guys but I'm really shy and most of the guys in my class are really immature and just want sex, not a meaningful relationship. I've also made the decision not to have sex, or make love until I get married. Some of the girls in my class have slept with over 14 guys, and act like it's no big deal. Sometimes I get so depressed I feel like crying. The fact that tomorrows Valentines day is just going to make me feel worse. Do things ever get any easier for girls like me? Or does it just get worse when I go to college and into the work force? I'm beginning to feel like I'm the only person left with values. (link)
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Well first of all, I am the same age as you and I have felt like you. Although I have had a boyfriend, people have assumed I was a lesbian merely for the fact I have values. You should be proud of yourself. Not a lot of girls can say that about themselves. I know tomorrow may be hard for you, but try not to think about it. Focus on something you care about and like. It's just one day that glorifies something. It will pass. As for you being shy, just try to be friends with as many guy as you can. Don't let them intimidate you. They are some really great guys out there. You just have to take a risk. Maybe ask a guy a homework question, or compliment his outfit. Or, if you ever feel brave enough, ask him if he wants to go to Starbucks or something. It's okay to cry, but don't dwell. And I think once you go to college you are going to see how much less shallow people can be and you will find a larger pool of guys for you to choose from. There's nothing wrong with you. Lots of girls don't have their first boyfriend until college. Just keep doing what you love and being who you are. :)
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