jbdreamer's advice column

my bf had to move to another province for a job two months ago. I was really mad at him because he hadnt emailed me since he moved. I was even angrier on xmas day because I finally decided to make the first move to email him and he never wrote back!! So I phoned him on his cell (it's very hard to get hold of him normally cause he works in the oil camp) and luckily caught him on his break. He sounded really happy to hear from me and that he wished he could be with me. He also said that his internet wasnt hooked up yet and thats why he hadnt sent me any emails.
Although I'm not angry with him anymore, don't you think he should have phoned me weeks ago to tell me about his internet not being hooked up so I wouldn't worry? And why should I always be the one having to do the phoning.? Is this normal behavior, or is he playing some sort of game with me? Oh ya, I also remember HIM saying "I was wondering why I hadnt heard from YOU."
I rate high!

If it has been months and your boyfriend hasn't called, I wouldn't consider him your boyfriend anymore. I think he's brushing you off. If he actually cared, he would have called weeks ago.

And why did you wait so long to call yourself?
If my boyfriend moved, I'd call to make sure he got to his destination ok. I'd be worried if I hadn't heard from him in a few days!

If you both wanted to make this relationship work, you'd be talking everyday. There is no point holding onto the relationship if you only speak once every few months. It doesn't seem as either of you care deeply for eachother. You can find a better relationship than this.

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