My boyfriend and I have been going out for a year and a month, on Decemeber 15. We are always together, and I think that I love him. I know it's like, oh your a child you don't know what love is, but I really do believe that I am in love. We were laying on my bed on each other and I was thinking about how I love him, and I was about to tell him.. I asked him what he was thinking about, and he said, "I love you." It was like so strange though because I was just about to say the exact same thing, but anyways.. Wow, totally off topic. I'm 13, and whenever we are making out.. We get a little too into it, I suppose. Where it gets to the point when it's "dry sex", or having sex with your clothes on.. Yes, I know it's weird.. But, I feel the erge to want to have sex with him, and go farther, sexually. I am only in 7th grade, so of course I don't want to go that far.. All I have done with any guy is "feel up", because I refuse to go farther.. He was trying to finger me and I wouldn't let him. Basically, I am trying to ask..
Would it be wrong if I had sex with him?
I don't think I am ready, at all.
I could be wrong? Maybe, I am.
But - I am scared that next time we hook up that it will go a little too far.
And it's not like a 10 second hook up, it's more like 10 minutes.
Really, how far is "too far"?
I believe feel up is far enough for 7th grade.
But I'd love your views.
In answer to your first question, I think whether it's right or wrong is so incredibly personal that it would be wrong for me to try to answer it. However, when I consider the next line ("...don't think I'm ready..."), I think that it would be wrong. If you think that you are not ready, then you are not. Think about it when he is not around and when you are feeling calm and level headed. If, at that time, you still feel that you are not ready, then you should really wait. Don't force yourself into it, or don't let yourself go father than you are ready to go.
When it comes to your body and choosing not to have sex, you can't be wrong. Your boyfriend is very important, but your choice and your feelings are just as important, if not more so. If you feel that now is not the time to have sex, than you cannot be wrong.
Since you are worried that it might go too far, then you should talk to your boyfriend. It sounds like you care deeply for each other, and you need to be able to talk about things like this. Tell him how you feel, ask him how he feels, and set limits together. It will make your intimate times together so much more special if you don't have to worry about going too far, and you know that he is ok with the limits you have both set.
I agree with you, feeling up is plenty for someone in 7th grade. You are smart to try to keep it slow. The way you asked your question, and the mere fact that you _are_ asking this question, show that you are very intelligent and responsible. Just stay the way you are, and you will make the right decision all on your own (some people can't!). Good luck!
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Thank you for that long thing, wow.
Yeah - I just wasn't thinking when I was writing that question.
Sex at 13, I must be insane.
I know I'd never go through with it.
Thank you, love.
That was amazing.
Best answer.
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