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My boyfriend and I have been dating for one and a half years. He still has his exgirlfriend's engagement ring in his drawer. When I ask him what he is going to do with it he just tells me he don't know. He says, "what should I do with it?" I am sick of looking at it. She has caused so many problems for us. I just want the ring to be gone. He says he doesn't want to just give it away because it cost too much money. At this point I am ready to throw the piece of metal in the dump. What would you suggest to do with it. (link)
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I wouldn't like having this ring around either. However, I understand why your boyfriend has been at a loss about knowing what to do with it. Since he's asked you what you think he should do with it, take advantage of that and give him a few suggestions and offer to help him with the following options if you're willing:
1) He can get it appraised at several jewelers and see if any one of them would buy it from him. But beware, I tried selling my engagement ring (unique and with several different stones along with the diamonds) after I was divorced and no "new jewelry" jeweler wanted to take it because it was used. This does not mean your boyfriend won't find a jeweler who will take it, but he might want to know that could happen so he shouldn't give up.
2) There are high-end consignment shops that will take very nice jewelry and other high-end things to sell and the seller (your boyfriend) would receive a consignment percentage upon sale of the ring. We have a very unique shop that advertises as a Fine Arts shop and the things in this shop are "previously owned," exquisite and pricey. (Look under Consignment Shops or Art Galleries in the yellow pages. If you can't find what you're looking for, ask around in the galleries for something like this.)
3) He could have the gems removed from the ring and the metal melted down. One or two new pieces of jewelry can then be made from the metal and gems. I don't know if you'd like to have the new piece(s) of jewelry or not, but if you'd consider it, you might not want it as YOUR engagement ring. You may find that you'd love the results and would forget what it was to begin with. Or, you could always view it as a change of life piece of jewelry, imagining that it is a symbol of a relationship melted and destroyed with the idea that a new, better and beautiful foundation is being built for another relationship - yours. I would suggest that if you choose to go this route, that you have a significant part in the design of whatever piece(s) of jewelry that is to come from these pieces. Perhaps you'll want to add some gems of your own choosing. The other thing is that if you don't want anything that has been made from these pieces, your boyfriend might be able to sell the melted metal and the separate gems easier than trying to sell the ring.
4) An ad in the paper might work. Just be careful about the people who call and sound interested. You don't want some kook showing up who has other things in mind when he/she thinks about expensive jewelry being sold, if you know what I mean.
Anyhow, good luck. If you guys work on this together I would think that it would make you feel a lot better. You then would have some control over what happens to this thing that is hanging over your head.
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Thanks, I didn't think about selling it.
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