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I have studied psychology though I am not a psychologist or a licensed counselor of any sort. I'm an artist and writer and teach both to small private groups. I have worked with counselors by using art and writing projects at workshops to encourage people to open up, and I have been recommended by therapists to their clients to take my classes to help them understand more about themselves and what all is going on in their lives through art and writing. Though I'm not an art therapist, I use many tools from art therapy and my own experiences gleaned from counseling. I have always had the desire to help people and I do it in any way possible. Hopefully I can be of some help to many of you!
E-mail: susana182006-extra@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: Virginia
Occupation: artist & writer/teacher of both
Age: 52
Member Since: November 27, 2005
Answers: 116
Last Update: February 25, 2006
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Thankyou for being so understanding. I don't know why he was so mean to me, but maybe you're right that he might be jealous of me because I don't have to work. I think the thing that hurt me the most more than anything is that he was talking about me to other people instead of just coming to me and dealing with our issue maturely. I think he needs to grow up, he is in his 40's. Sometimes I think he just gets mad because he doenst like his job and he takes it out on me. It makes me mad because I've been a really good friend to him and then this is how he treats me. Well I hope he smartens up, with an attitude like his he'll be lucky to be left with any friends at all. Once again, thankyou for your great advice!

Thanks a mil! By the way, you were right he doesn't have a girlfriend. I'll try to calm down when I speak and maybe I'll find the nerve to tell him how I feel. Thanks again you give great advice! :)

wow! thanks alot i think ur advice will really help

thank you

Thankyou!! I will take your advice and go easy on myself. Great advice!

awe! thank you so much! :) your such a sweetie!! thanks for all the wonderful ideas!!

wow thanks! thats a lot and its very helpful...and to answer your question he absolutly hates me lol

Thank you. You gave some original creative ideas, and your answer was well written and conscientious.

thanks

wow, thanks a lot

Wow! The first ans i read of yours i was a lille like * she doesnt really undersatnd what i am saying!* but this ans ! jus made me realize! that what i thought was right. that i maybe jus grew up a lille faster!i plan on writting that note! :) and my new years resu is to not bitch about anyone ever agian! You asked one question if i really said such bad stuff about her! truth is i had said eveythin to her face in sweeter words! Thank you so much! :) if no body! atleast i can turn to you! :) thank you !! :) keep in touch!! :) Zehra!

Thanks a lot. Your words mean so much to me. I will follow your advice.

Hi, Sorry I didnt rate you right away. I had to work the night shift last night and today from 12 until 5. Well thankyou once again for answering me. Yes, it does seem that we have a lot in common, especially when you said your ex-husband was a chef and that you had been published and he wasnt very supportive. He asked me the same thing too, how much I was being paid for the article!! Oh, it was a Woman's World article published about 18 months ago. I've been thinking a lot lately about my situation, and I think you are right that i deserve a whole heck of a lot better. One of the girls that I work with has her boyfriend pick her up from work, and when he comes in he embraces her. I thought to myself, that NEVER happens with my bf. In fact he never shows any affection ever. He is so stubborn towards me you wouldnt believe it. I can think of many times that he has said mean things just to make himself feel better. For example, about my weight, which is normal, and he tells me I could lose 15 pounds. And he is atleast 30 pounds overweight. He also has said things like "it's all in your head", when I told him I wouldnt want to be a cashier at the store cause it would be stressful. Well how the heck would he know? Anyways, thanks again for the great advice.

thank you sooo much. you helped me a lot. that really does lift my spirits. thanks <3

wow thank you so much

Question rated by L2 moderator Very good answer yg

Thanks SOOO Much! My mom was talking about how I would wear black eye liner. But I have always wore make up. Now on the other hand my sister (28) was always pink, white, blue's and so on in clothes. But I don't want to be like her. You can't tell my mom anything. I just feel like I want to block her out of my life and do my own thing. And the truth is that I have been sooo much happier that I can choose what I* want to wear. Not what she wanted me to wear. She never lets me go to ballgames. I usually stay locked up in my room. She just doesn't understand me. I had a talk with her last night and she was like "There are PLENTY more Bands out there than that Green Day!!" and I said "I know. I just like that band better." and she was like "Well I don't want you listing to it!" and I said "I am going to. Because thats the kind of music that I like. I'm not like my sister." and things went from there. She might be going through Mentopause right now to. Cause she has been acting VERY strange. Around me.

thank you so much...i appreciate it a lot =). we need more people like you in our society

oh thanks your leeter was pretty much right its kinda scary that you knew but i guess your very expeirienced with guys and you seem very wise when it comes to friend ships and relations ships. oh and i am 13 years old. thanks so much for you letter

Thanks, I didn't think about selling it.

thank you soo soo much <3 i was really confused.I didnt really get the whole meaning of the word, but you really helped me out.I dont think i would have sex with him.Id give you a 10 if i could!haha it really is crude when guys say that stuff, thanks again for explaining it very well too. <3

you should im me some time Mirokusbbysango or email me at Lostinmythoughts08@yahoo.com

thanks, i think all u said was right:D wow ur really good at this, thanks again

THe thing is that I did tell my parents but all my dad said was that boys will be boys and my mom didn't say anything. It's like they don't acknowledge that this is hurting me. And I was basically crying when I told them because I had just gotten back from camp. Actually things happened to me when I was younger too. I will go see my counselor tomorrow. Thanks.

No it's an actual bacterial infection inside. Not skin infection. My mom's doctor, only treats people 18+ usually, but my mother talked to her and that's why I'm going there. Thanks for your response.

Its posaris and there is no cure. Umm yes I have been not trested well and I belive I was abused a few years ago? Well Its is occasionaly visable its a very disfiguring sidease and I used to always wear cute skipy clothes but now I cant, after I condracted the disease my self confidence dwelt. I used to be popular everyone used to love me etc I used 2 have guys loving me but when I got the disease i basically disappered Please email me more advice at xxx_x_emma_x_xxx@yahoo.com Thanks

that was really awesome thank you so much if i could, i would give you two fives

I've been looking for it all over, I just couldn't find it. I will tell you how it was though, thanks!

lol.. i rated everyone else 1.. there mean... but seriously thanks!! i think this will work!

thanks a bunches!!!

thank you so much for the advice. i really apreciate you taking the time to help me. your advice really helps. and thank you for caring. ps. you should be a phsyciatrist (cant spell)

Thank you very much.

Thanks!! Yes i think you're right about everything you said! Great advice!

thanks =D it really helped.. thanks again<3

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