I have studied psychology though I am not a psychologist or a licensed counselor of any sort. I'm an artist and writer and teach both to small private groups. I have worked with counselors by using art and writing projects at workshops to encourage people to open up, and I have been recommended by therapists to their clients to take my classes to help them understand more about themselves and what all is going on in their lives through art and writing. Though I'm not an art therapist, I use many tools from art therapy and my own experiences gleaned from counseling. I have always had the desire to help people and I do it in any way possible. Hopefully I can be of some help to many of you!
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My boyfriend and I are constantly getting into debates about everything, especially religion and politics. We usually don't get that worked up, but I'm afraid it's going to do our relationship damage in the long-run. Is debating normal? Or should we avoid doing it in case we start fighting and potentially ruin our relationship? Do other people have experience with this...?
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I sure have had experience with this potential problem! Disagreeing about certain issues is certainly normal, but debating them all the time shouldn't be normal. These two subjects are hot ones for friends and couples. I suggest one of three things:
1) agree to disagree without debating the issues; listen to each other's points of view and opinions and respect one another without judging, even if you disagree; learn from each other because this is "welcome to the real world" time and you're just getting started with hearing all sorts of opinions about issues that are important to you;
2) agree to stay clear of these two subjects and then do it;
3) if these subjects are very important to you and you honestly do NOT like your guy's thoughts and opinions (for example, they go totally against your beliefs), then it might be best to find someone else who thinks more like you do.
Good luck. You're right: you don't want this to turn into a constant battle which would definitely strain your relationship.
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