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My name's Jennifer, but I'm more commonly known as Jen or Sporkster. I love lots of things/people including God; volleyball and soccer, my two favorite sports; and cheese. I also love Pi, but that's a story for another day.
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Q: I have been homeschooled since 2nd Grade and I just went back to school for 9th. It's great, I've had no problem adjusting, I have made some wonderful friends so there is thankfully, no problem there. My question is as follows:
All my life I haven't had the oppertunity to go out with anyone & only be friends with guys. Now, I have made a few guy friends, sophmores, and we started out as aqaintences, but over the past month or so, i ound out through one way or another that one really likes me. I think he's a great kid, and in theory I would go out with him, but I don't know HOW to move from friendship to relationship. It's like it's wired into everyone else's genes and they're telling me to go out with him, But I've always been tought to trat guys as just friends.
I want to know how to get over this? Thank's so much.
Sara
A: I congratulate you on actually knowing how to be a guy's friend without being romantically attracted to him. That's a rare thing nowadays. Thank you for understanding that, though.
Now that you're friends with this guy, and you know he likes you, I think you should give it a try.
Going from friendship to relationship is very easy. You just...start dating. There really is no change in the relationship other than the fact that both of you are acknowledging you have romantic feelings for each other. Your boyfriend should be your best friend, not just a guy you think is "hot" or whatever. Those kinds of guys tend to be jerks, while guys you're friends with typically aren't.
Definitely give it a try. You won't regret dating him if the attraction is mutual, I promise.
If you'd like any additional help, feel free to send me another question or ask me on AIM.
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Thanx, I will give it a try but I still have my doubts...