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Q: 16 male. I honestly think I am going insane. Things just have been building on me my entire life, and they are starting to just break through to the point where I cannot control my own emotions anymore.
It's like last night, everything inside me just exploded. My mom works on pit crew for my band, and she asked me to help unload the truck. Well, I happen to be the only person who uses the truck that has to unload because she is there. It always makes me a bit upset when she asks, but not like last night. Don't mention this, for it is not the issue. If you do, it is a 1.
What happened to me after scared me. I suddenly had flashback after flashback, showing me how un-normal I am. I have overprotective parents, first off, and began wishing things like they'd stop. I am a quiet person, and I wished that I could speak more. I have not had a girlfriend, I wished I could. I wanted my friends to be a bit closer to me. I wanted somebody to actually be interested in what I say, instead of blatently nodding. I wanted my sister back from her present self where she is dating a guy and is so rebellious that I can no longer stand it.
AKA, I wanted to finally be normal. And it has caused so much depression in me these past days... I feel like my life is going south, and I cannot even look north.
What do I do?

Hey there! I kind of feel like I'm in the same situation too right now, but the best thing to understand is that you are not un-normal. I feel that its the expectations you have for yourself that are really pushing you, and when you feel that you cannot achieve them, you don't feel good about yourself. But the best thing is this: Always give your best and know that everyone is not perfect, so forgive yourself for the mistakes that you do committ while reaching to achieve those expectations. Making mistakes is all a part of living, and if we don't grow and learn from our mistakes, we're not really living. So, although we all have expectations that drive us, it's okay if we fail--all you have you have to do is laugh and pick yourself up again.
Secondly, for all those things you wish could be better can only be changed by one person:YOU. And so, it's time to stand up and work for the things you want, and in this process, do not sit and worry about the past failures you have made. It's all about you, the present and the future. Take care always and God Bless...If you need anything else, you can just drop something in my inbox.