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I have been on this site a little while now, and while I have never been one of its more prolific columnists, I do read a helluva lot more questions than I answer. The reason for this is that I feel that a lot of the questions are very similar, so I tend to pick the better worded and/or more interesting ones among them:plus I without fail will answer anything you care to drop in my inbox. But for those of you whose questions I do not specifically address, here are my top five tips to make the world(and advicenators, which is after all the hub of the universe) a better place:
Enjoy!
1)You will generally be happier if you are not
constantly taking your emotional temperature. So much stress is placed these days on FEELING, that people forget that the way to FEEL happy is to DO. So get over yourself and take up skateboarding, drumming(which I highly recommend) "mumblety-peg, if that's where your heart lies". Whatever it is though, just get on with it and you'll be allright.
2) If s/he says "you're too good for me", then s/he isn't interested. End of story.
3)Honour thy father and thy mother, unless they're actually beating the crap out of you, in which case you need to call on outside agents to mediate.In all other cases though, take it easy on your folks-you won't regret it later in life.
4)In 90% of cases, cheating is unaccepatable and inexcusable. If you think that your partner is part of the 10% (or whatever random minority)of excusable cheaters, then ask yourself why. Is it because you're such hell to live with that it's a miracle that anyone would date you, let alone stay faithful? If it is , then you have one of two problems; you either have a personality disorder which makes you undateable, or you have such low self esteem that you believe yourself undateable. In either case, you need help, so go to a counselor, therapist, doctor, whatever, just sort it out.
5) Read self-help books. Just take them with a pinch of salt. Seriously, they make great reading, and can give remarkably sound advice, but you must not believe every word they say, or you will very possibly end up resembling , if not actually becoming , a speed freaked zombie wearing day-glo juicy couture. By self help books, I mean any thing which gives you x number of rules to live by, and suggests that the key to fulfillment lies within these rule(a bit like I'm doing now-book my '07 convention early to avoid disappointment.10% discount for advicenators columnists).Books to approach with caution include "The Rules" and the "Surrendered" series by Laura Doyle. But the jewel in the self help crown has to be the beautiful "The Bitch Rules" by Elizabeth Wurtzel. If you can read this book and not smile, laugh, and just feel unfettered joy at living, you are either the aforementioned zombie, or you are living in some banana republic. In either case, you are beyond my help,but I feel you.
Take care!
Lucretia
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Last year was my first year at this one school. In one of my classes there was this girl named *Kasey.*
She annoyed me so much. She tried to make me look bad, and make me feel like there was something wrong, or I was doing something the wrong way. But at the same time she tried to buddy up to me. She tried to become my friend and become friends with my bff. My bff doesn't like her(like me) and hse is really getting on my nerves. She is doing it this year to. my bff, her, and i are in the same class. If we do partners she either tries to have me or steal my bff from me and IT IS DRIVING ME CRAZY!
Whatdo I do to get her to bug off? I RATE HIGH!!! :)
I'm afraid that I have bad news for you: I don't think that there's a whole lot you can do about the infuriating "Kasey". I sympathise a lot with your situation-there was a girl much like her in the early years of my highschool, and she drove us all nearly to distraction. By the end of the second year(by which time she had moved schools) all the other class members were in a sort of unspoken pact to avoid her as much as possible, and to ignore her whenever she acted up.
Really, that's all you and your friend can do- you can complain about it to your other friends and suggest that they don't make her welcome in their group: if , that is , you go about in a group of friends. If however it's just you and you and your best friend, perhaps you could go to her, together, and say something like, "We know the sort of games you play, they don't work, and we won't speak to you until you stop". In England, this is called "sending someone to Coventry". Who knows, perhaps if she sees that you mean business, her behaviour might really change. Good luck!
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(Rating: 5)
You definitellly deserve a 5!
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