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I have been on this site a little while now, and while I have never been one of its more prolific columnists, I do read a helluva lot more questions than I answer. The reason for this is that I feel that a lot of the questions are very similar, so I tend to pick the better worded and/or more interesting ones among them:plus I without fail will answer anything you care to drop in my inbox. But for those of you whose questions I do not specifically address, here are my top five tips to make the world(and advicenators, which is after all the hub of the universe) a better place:
Enjoy!
1)You will generally be happier if you are not
constantly taking your emotional temperature. So much stress is placed these days on FEELING, that people forget that the way to FEEL happy is to DO. So get over yourself and take up skateboarding, drumming(which I highly recommend) "mumblety-peg, if that's where your heart lies". Whatever it is though, just get on with it and you'll be allright.
2) If s/he says "you're too good for me", then s/he isn't interested. End of story.
3)Honour thy father and thy mother, unless they're actually beating the crap out of you, in which case you need to call on outside agents to mediate.In all other cases though, take it easy on your folks-you won't regret it later in life.
4)In 90% of cases, cheating is unaccepatable and inexcusable. If you think that your partner is part of the 10% (or whatever random minority)of excusable cheaters, then ask yourself why. Is it because you're such hell to live with that it's a miracle that anyone would date you, let alone stay faithful? If it is , then you have one of two problems; you either have a personality disorder which makes you undateable, or you have such low self esteem that you believe yourself undateable. In either case, you need help, so go to a counselor, therapist, doctor, whatever, just sort it out.
5) Read self-help books. Just take them with a pinch of salt. Seriously, they make great reading, and can give remarkably sound advice, but you must not believe every word they say, or you will very possibly end up resembling , if not actually becoming , a speed freaked zombie wearing day-glo juicy couture. By self help books, I mean any thing which gives you x number of rules to live by, and suggests that the key to fulfillment lies within these rule(a bit like I'm doing now-book my '07 convention early to avoid disappointment.10% discount for advicenators columnists).Books to approach with caution include "The Rules" and the "Surrendered" series by Laura Doyle. But the jewel in the self help crown has to be the beautiful "The Bitch Rules" by Elizabeth Wurtzel. If you can read this book and not smile, laugh, and just feel unfettered joy at living, you are either the aforementioned zombie, or you are living in some banana republic. In either case, you are beyond my help,but I feel you.
Take care!
Lucretia
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Okay, I'm definitely not in a very good shape and up until a couple of days ago, I had been pigging out and just being normal but now I've started to work out (I'm doing very little cause like I said, I'm very out of shape) and today in gym class we had to run 3 laps. I did horrible, of course, but when we were done.. I could NOT feel my feet at all! I got that feeling like when your foot falls asleep! It was so scary and it took like 40 minutes to go away. I could barely walk.. and now I just got home from my aunt's house and I had to walk.. it wasn't even a very long walk and I got that feeling AGAIN! What does this mean? What should I do? I'm sure we have to run again tomorrow, and my gym teacher won't let anyone sit out. HELP PLEASE! ANYTHING!
First up, don't panic! A lot of people find themselves out of shape at one point or other of their lives- which doesn't incidentally, have all that much to do with weight,some very thin people are also very unhealthy, by which I don't mean anorexic- and get themselves back to normal with just a bit of effort. Where you, perhaps, went wrong was to do too much at once(though three laps are not all that much, running is quite a shock to the system if you're out of shape and out of practice.
Better than running, or even jogging, is brisk walking, which you can anywhere. Walk instead of taking the bus......You know the rest. If, however, you feel yourself to be really unhealthy, you must consult a doctor, who in addition to assessing your fitness level will give you healthcare advice.(They might, of course, also weigh you, but that wouldn't necessarily be bad- remember that what the scales say is no judgement). If the doctor thinks fit, of course, he or she will also give your gym teacher a note saying that you can take things gently until you get back into shape.
Best of luck, Lucretiax.
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