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I have been on this site a little while now, and while I have never been one of its more prolific columnists, I do read a helluva lot more questions than I answer. The reason for this is that I feel that a lot of the questions are very similar, so I tend to pick the better worded and/or more interesting ones among them:plus I without fail will answer anything you care to drop in my inbox. But for those of you whose questions I do not specifically address, here are my top five tips to make the world(and advicenators, which is after all the hub of the universe) a better place:
Enjoy!
1)You will generally be happier if you are not
constantly taking your emotional temperature. So much stress is placed these days on FEELING, that people forget that the way to FEEL happy is to DO. So get over yourself and take up skateboarding, drumming(which I highly recommend) "mumblety-peg, if that's where your heart lies". Whatever it is though, just get on with it and you'll be allright.
2) If s/he says "you're too good for me", then s/he isn't interested. End of story.
3)Honour thy father and thy mother, unless they're actually beating the crap out of you, in which case you need to call on outside agents to mediate.In all other cases though, take it easy on your folks-you won't regret it later in life.
4)In 90% of cases, cheating is unaccepatable and inexcusable. If you think that your partner is part of the 10% (or whatever random minority)of excusable cheaters, then ask yourself why. Is it because you're such hell to live with that it's a miracle that anyone would date you, let alone stay faithful? If it is , then you have one of two problems; you either have a personality disorder which makes you undateable, or you have such low self esteem that you believe yourself undateable. In either case, you need help, so go to a counselor, therapist, doctor, whatever, just sort it out.
5) Read self-help books. Just take them with a pinch of salt. Seriously, they make great reading, and can give remarkably sound advice, but you must not believe every word they say, or you will very possibly end up resembling , if not actually becoming , a speed freaked zombie wearing day-glo juicy couture. By self help books, I mean any thing which gives you x number of rules to live by, and suggests that the key to fulfillment lies within these rule(a bit like I'm doing now-book my '07 convention early to avoid disappointment.10% discount for advicenators columnists).Books to approach with caution include "The Rules" and the "Surrendered" series by Laura Doyle. But the jewel in the self help crown has to be the beautiful "The Bitch Rules" by Elizabeth Wurtzel. If you can read this book and not smile, laugh, and just feel unfettered joy at living, you are either the aforementioned zombie, or you are living in some banana republic. In either case, you are beyond my help,but I feel you.
Take care!
Lucretia
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There was this boy we will call him Joe. Last Year Me and Joe used to hug and talk alot. Joe never hugged any other girls only me and he's really popular and I'm not that pretty. Alot of people like him. Then my friends Ally, Jen and Kayla said I was stalking him and he didn't talk to me any more and I felt really unconfortable around him. We used to walk home together and chill. Now we don't. I'm in love with Joe and I want to go out with him I talk to him a little now that I'm friends with him again and I have new friend's Rita,Shawna,and Jessy. I really really want to go out with im but I'm afraid he won't like me anymore. He's nice to me now.
Do you think he would like me anymore?
My advice is to STAY AWAY FROM MEN NAMED JOE. That was the name of my last bf.Y'see, I have a theory that all these Josephs have a complex from all the responsibility of being named after Jesus's stepfather. That's why they shorten their name to Joe in the first place, to distance themselves. Only of course, your boy isn't really a Joe is he?
Jo(e)king apart, however, I think that you're in a good position-firstly, you lost those "friends" who worked to turn him against you. Congratulations! Let's hope that your new posse turn out to be genuine buddies and not jealous backstabbers. Which brings me on to my next point, which is that friends can be more important, at certain times of our life, than lovers. Ideally, of course, your lover should be a friend, perhaps your best friend. But hey, it doesn't always work out that way, which is why you need a few loyal people(or even just one loyal person) to pick you up again.
Having said that, "Joe" sounds like quite a good guy. Perhaps he just cooled off from you thanks to the machinations of your former "friends". (Which in itself makes him weak but not bad). Play it by ear, enjoy him as a friend and see how it goes. One last point(sorry i'm rambling on so much,i'm tired, it's nighttime here in London y'know). You describe yourself as "not that pretty". No guy worth his salt is hung up on how a girl looks. Personality is everything, and you sound like you have a lot. lol Lucretia xx.
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His name ain't Joe!
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