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Hey, I’m usually the one giving advice. I don’t need advice. I just have a question and I want to know your opinion. This question is for deep thinkers. Long answers are encouraged as well as comical ones.
I’ve seen quite a lot of “love” questions, asked by adolescences. What would you call "true love"? Many people have been saying “I have a boyfriend and I REALY love him” and “she said that he loves me” or things like that. I’ve seen these questions being asked by 13 year olds! Teens DO have deep affections for people, but I really don’t think that they are capable of TRUE love. How can there be love if teen relationships only last 2 months or even 2 years! 2 years is quite long for a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, but shouldn’t love last a LIFETIME? I agree that teens think that they are in love (I’ve been there) but I wouldn’t call that love. I would call it more like, “deep affection”. After all, if love between teens is really “love” then they shouldn’t break up, right? I think that teens are too young and “unexposed” to have TRUE LOVE. Even adults. They mistakenly call their relationships “love”. If it was actually love, then shouldn’t there be less or no divorces?
I think I'm going to get a lot of people mad at me for this. I mostly agree with you. I think that teens are capable of "true love," but I don't think that they are ready or able to recognize it and truly express it. I feel that your term "deep affection" is far more appropriate that love. I also think that "infatuation" describes it pretty well, too.
I belive that true love is more than deep feelings. I think it's an ability to aruge about things and still love each other not just before and after the argument, but also during it. It also is made up of trust. I think you can tell your true love ANYTHING that you have done, that you want to do, or that you think and feel, without being afraid of what they will think. I belive that for it to be "true" love, the feeling normally has to be shared by the person.
I don't think a 13 year old can "REALLY love" his/her boyfriend that they've been with for just a few months. I don't think that can really know a person in such a short amount of time, and I think you need to know a little more about a person than that to really develop mature feelings of love for them.
I completely agree with you on your last few points. Yes, love should last a lifetime, and I believe for some people that it does. I think that maybe some adults never outgrow the relationship habits that they form in early teenage years, and therefore aren't able to recognize/develop true love.
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Thanks a lot. I can't see why people would get mad at you for this explanation. Infatuation does explain teen love. Your explanation of love is also good. Very well said!
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