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Q: hey, well see there is this guy...and he's really sweet to me on IM. then my friend tried to set us up. like she told him to get to know me, is what i really mean. and then he told her that i sound cool, but he wouldn't talk to me. i still wanna get to know this guy but how can i do that if he won't talk to me?
-can't get him to talk

Hey there! Um, first of all, I would like to say that always be careful in chatrooms, and IMing someone you don't know. Try not to easily trust people whom you've never met before online because sometimes, there may be these stupid people playing games with your mind you know? lol. Hmm.. I kind of think that the guy may be a little nervous to meet you in person..After suggesting it, he kind of stopped talking to you, am I right? Just try to talk to him casually and regularly again before you guys suggested meeting each other, and maybe later, kind of ask it again. But always, always, always be careful online. Try to get to know this person very well before meeting him. And when you do meet him, go with a big group of your friends or an older person. Hope all works out!

Rating: 4

this is good advice. but he goes to another school where my friends know some people. so i know that he's not one of those people that will like turn out to be a 40 year old weirdo. but i think that it would be better for me to get to know him a little bit better on IM before i meet him. thanks so much for the advice!