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My name's Jennifer, but I'm more commonly known as Jen or Sporkster. I love lots of things/people including God; volleyball and soccer, my two favorite sports; and cheese. I also love Pi, but that's a story for another day.
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Q:
I have this friend who likes me but I like another girl. I want her to know that without her felling bad so can you help?
from Pola_Bear
A: Well, you have to be completely honest with your friend no matter what. It hurts to be let down, I'm sure, but it hurts even worse to lead someone on.
One of my guy friends really liked me. We were extremely close at the time, and he told me pretty much everything. Well, I didn't like him as anything more than a friend, but he didn't see that. He asked me to be his girlfriend, and I didn't want to hurt his feelings so I said yes. Bad, bad mistake.
I had no romantic interest in him whatsoever. He would try to touch me and I'd almost recoil in disgust. He would ask me out on dates and I'd make up lame excuses for why I couldn't go. It only made him sad and bitter, and in the end it wasn't worth trying to save his feelings from being hurt. They'd been hurt even worse by me leading him on. He practically hated me for a year or two before we became friends again. I felt like crap.
While I can completely understand not wanting to hurt your friend's feelings, it would save her alot of pain to tell her now than let her think you like her when you really don't. The truth is a million times better than a lie, and lies are always more painful.
Just explain that to her. Tell her gently how you don't want to lead her on or hurt her feelings. She may be upset now, but later she'll thank you. Believe me.
Think long and hard before you act. I hope my advice helped you out. If you've got any more questions, feel absolutely free to ask, 'cause I'm here.
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