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Q: I am a 22 year old stay at home mom to 2 little girls. Ages 3 and 18 months. My house always lookslike a cyclone has just passed through no matter how much I go behind everyone a clean. Lately, I have felt so unappreciated and just don't have the urge or the energy to keep the house clean like I want to. Sometimes I make myself get up and start cleaning, but within a few minutes I'm back on the couch or in front of the computer avoiding the work that needs done. Anyone have any advice on something I can do to motivate myself to get this place spic and span like I want it and keep it that way???

I understand how you feel... The more things that pile up and need to be done, the less you want to do them. It's horrible!

What I did was to start scheduling things with a reminder program, and spread the work out. This is the program I use:

http://www.download.com/VirtuaReminder/3000-2124_4-10153524.html

You can set it up however you like... If you want to mop the floors every Monday and Friday, you can have it pop up a reminder on those days. If you want it to remind you to water the plants on the 1st, 8th, 15th, & 22nd of every month, you can do that. Nearly anything and everything you want, you can set it up.

What I do is set all the reminders for very early in the morning before I wake up. Then when I sit down at the computer, the first reminder is popped up on the screen. I copy the text (like: Water the plants today), and then paste it into a desktop text file of some sort. Then I hit the OK button and the next one pops up, which I copy and paste, etc... I do this until I have them all copied to my text file.

Then as I do the things throughout the day, I delete them from my text file. It gives me a feeling of accomplishment, plus I don't feel as overwhelmed because I only have to do what's on the list for that day. (besides the normal everyday stuff).

This works very well for me, and I HATE housework. Make sure to spread things out as much as possible, don't try to do too many big things in one day. Your day is busy enough with two little ones!

And I agree that your 3 year old is probably old enough to help out a little, with picking things up, etc. Just having things picked up off the floor makes a big difference. ;-)

Thanks a bunch for the download you use. I'm going to give it a try!

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Yes, I do sometimes copy and paste my own answers to answer different people's similar questions. I still personalize/edit them when necessary... but for instance, my advice about diet and exercise it going to be pretty much the same every time, and that's a very common subject for questions here... so there's no point in typing the same thing over and over and over again. ;-)

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Yes, hubby and I were both virgins on our wedding night, at the age of 26. Yes, we are both Christians, but we greatly dislike what "Christianity" (or "Churchianity") has come to represent in many people's minds these days... Hypocrisy, greed, pride... Things which the Bible says we are NOT supposed to do. We are supposed to be a good example, not a bad one. :-(

If you have a Christian acquaintance who is hitting you over the head with "Jesus will bring you peace and joy and happiness" tell them to listen to this:

http://www.dangernerd.com/kirkcameron.mp3

(It's 9 megs, so it may take a bit to download)

If you can't download MP3's for some reason, you can download the zip file.

http://www.dangernerd.com/kirkcameron.zip

If they are an actual preacher/pastor, this one is geared more towards them:

http://www.dangernerd.com/raycomfort.zip

Send them the link, or burn it to CD and give it to them, whatever it takes.

If they really listen to that, they will see how the Bible itself says the way they are annoying you is wrong. :-)

If you are a Christian, please listen to it, even if you aren't beating people over the head with Jesus. I promise you, it will give you a new perspective. It's totally awesome.

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I'm also fascinated by prophesy, and I do think we are living in an age where we are seeing many things come true that were prophesied 1,000's of years ago.

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There has been a lot of hubbub lately regarding my views on the differences between Catholicism and *exclusively* Bible-Based Christianity... Mostly due to my not making myself clear. I did have a big long explanation here, but this time I will opt for the KISS method (Keep It Simple, Stupid). Yes, the following is the simplified version. ;-)

The Catholic Church believes that the Bible is not the only authority. Their teachings include such documentation as Catechisms, and Papal Encyclicals (defined as "authoritative teaching instruments from the Vicar of Christ" (the Pope)) which have been written and added to throughout the years of the history of the Catholic Church.

Because of this, the Catholic Church has many teachings, beliefs, and traditions that are different from a Christian who believes the Holy Bible is the exclusive authority of Christianity.

A Catholic Christian believes in the Catholic doctrines, teachings, and traditions which include, but are *not exclusive to* the Holy Bible.

Most non-Catholic Christians believe the Holy Bible is the *exclusive* authority of Christianity... No other documents.

Much argument comes from this, as quite a few non-Catholic Christians (myself included) believe many of the man-made Catholic doctrines to be un-Christian and not corresponding with Biblical scripture. And obviously, Catholics disagree.

For more information about the differences between Catholicism and *exclusively* Bible-Based Christianity, see the following link:

Roman Catholic Doctrine vs. The Holy Bible

And a final note about that link... That e-book isn't written by Jack Chick, I have a lot of problems with Mr. Chick. Some of his tracts are great, and some of them are way "out there" if you know what I mean. I do not support Jack Chick. This e-book is written by Rick Jones, who was a Catholic for many years, not Chick.



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"This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away. For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts, Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth." (2Timothy 3:1 - 7)

"And there shall be signs in the sun, and in the moon, and in the stars; and upon the earth distress of nations, with perplexity; the sea and the waves roaring..." (Luke 21:25)

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