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I'm a 15 years old girl, and have had 1 boyfriend, which was a joke. I have been asked out numerous times, but each time I deny them. I allways find something about the guy that doesnt work. I have just come to conclusion that I'm afriad. I'm afraid to fall for someone, that might actually feel the same. I'm afriad to get my heartbroken.
I have helped many of my friends battle through heartbreaks, and from hearing and learning from this makes me wonder why even bother dating if they are just going to end tradgicly? I feel like i'm holding back, and I dont want to hold back anymore.
Can you give me advice on getting over this feeling?
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Hey there. Well, I think how you are feeling is totally natural and actually pretty level headed on one side of the spectrum and to an extent. I can totally relate, and in many way you're right to be the way you are.
There is ALWAYS (even when you find the guy you are going to marry) going to be something wrong that you find with a guy. It is inevitable. They are guys, that's just how it is. But, you aren't perfect either. We all have our flaws. We often like and become more attracted to people over time due to those flaws. You just have to learn to accept them. You have to keep an open mind.
You are also correct in that you probably are going to fall for someone and get hurt. But, that's a part of life's cycle. You can't go through life pushing everyone that you might like or that may like you away. That's not healthy. As weird as it may sound to you, you need to have a good substantial relationship andthen get your heart broken. From that experience, you will learn, and grow as a person. It will teach you what to do and what not to do for the next. It's also a good idea to date around to see the type of guy you like. If you just wait until you find your idea of the "perfect" guy you are in for a rude awakening.
I know that it may be scary but force yourself to at least give a guy a chance next time. I'm not saying get into a haevy relaionship, but at least go on a date. Just trust that this is the best thing and have your friends help you as well. They'll be there to support you through the whole thing. You can't spend your life not knowing and holding back, that's not living. :)
Edit: Keep in mind that you are only 15 you have your whole life so it's that you don't have a boyfriend yet. But just make sure that you are OPEN to the idea and willing. :)
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