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I Dont want to hold back anymore
I'm a 15 years old girl, and have had 1 boyfriend, which was a joke. I have been asked out numerous times, but each time I deny them. I allways find something about the guy that doesnt work. I have just come to conclusion that I'm afriad. I'm afraid to fall for someone, that might actually feel the same. I'm afriad to get my heartbroken.
I have helped many of my friends battle through heartbreaks, and from hearing and learning from this makes me wonder why even bother dating if they are just going to end tradgicly? I feel like i'm holding back, and I dont want to hold back anymore.
Can you give me advice on getting over this feeling?
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I don't know if i can help... but i can tell you that you're not alone. it's hard opening up to someone new... or anyone at all. i broke up w/ my last boyfriend because i knew he liked me and all, but i didn't know if he liked me that much. i made out w/ him in a movie theater after we had been going out for about a week and then he didn't hold my hand after the movie or kiss me goodnight or call me. so the next time i saw him (monday at school) i broke up w/ him. even though i still liked him. why? i was scared he was gonna break up w/ me. to get back @ me he made out w/my friend... THE NEXT DAY! but it didn't hurt me at all. cuz i had already closed myself off emotionally to him. it's impossible to feel safe and close to someone when you won't let them in. letting go of your fear of being rejected can't be easy. tell me if you ever figure it out.
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thats bullshit u shouldnt try to find something wrong with every guy u meet!!!!!!!!!!!
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everyone goes through things like that...thats apart of life...experiencing love n getting hearbroken...it teaches you the mistakes you have learned....and thn when you meet someone else you won't make the same mistake...you just have to trust the person your with...and if they hurt you...thn its ok...everyone gets hurt in their life...hope i helped
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love can last swettie!If you see somenthing you sdon't like ina guy give it a chance and he cold be the one! I mean you are 15 and you only have three years untial marrige could be something that you decide to do. Not all guys are mean and crazy. say yes next time someone askes you out that you think you might have feelings for in any way. Don't worry about the future. Yo will get over a heartbrake! Belive me I have had plenty! I hope that you find the perfect guy!
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Try someone new! Hope I helped Please Rate 5!
x3 gRacie
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Hey there. Well, I think how you are feeling is totally natural and actually pretty level headed on one side of the spectrum and to an extent. I can totally relate, and in many way you're right to be the way you are.
There is ALWAYS (even when you find the guy you are going to marry) going to be something wrong that you find with a guy. It is inevitable. They are guys, that's just how it is. But, you aren't perfect either. We all have our flaws. We often like and become more attracted to people over time due to those flaws. You just have to learn to accept them. You have to keep an open mind.
You are also correct in that you probably are going to fall for someone and get hurt. But, that's a part of life's cycle. You can't go through life pushing everyone that you might like or that may like you away. That's not healthy. As weird as it may sound to you, you need to have a good substantial relationship andthen get your heart broken. From that experience, you will learn, and grow as a person. It will teach you what to do and what not to do for the next. It's also a good idea to date around to see the type of guy you like. If you just wait until you find your idea of the "perfect" guy you are in for a rude awakening.
I know that it may be scary but force yourself to at least give a guy a chance next time. I'm not saying get into a haevy relaionship, but at least go on a date. Just trust that this is the best thing and have your friends help you as well. They'll be there to support you through the whole thing. You can't spend your life not knowing and holding back, that's not living. :)
Edit: Keep in mind that you are only 15 you have your whole life so it's that you don't have a boyfriend yet. But just make sure that you are OPEN to the idea and willing. :)
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