I am a 46-year-old male dating a 34-year-old girl. She has a very peculiar fetish. She enjoys putting and keeping her hand over my mouth as a gag. She loves the way it looks and sounds, and gagging me into muffled speech gives her a sense of dominant power and control. At first, I really didn't mind. Lisa has very nice hands--pretty, soft, sweet-scented. Her handgags are an erotic, intimate way for us to enhance our relationship. As she started to insist on handgags that last longer than an hour, I knew I was in trouble.
But lately, she has decided she really enjoys doing this in public. Lisa says she wants people to see her hand over my mouth. She loves catching me off guard by covering my mouth whenever I am speaking to another person. Lisa loves hearing my muffled speech and sees this as very humorous, so she does it at every opportunity. But she won't take her hand away! And she won't allow me to remove her hand. Lisa insists on doing things like keeping my mouth covered during an entire movie or concert! Or handgagging me when I try to order a meal in a restaurant. Lisa has done this to me in church, in banks, at school, and in stores. I have tried to ask her not to do it in public because it is embarrassing. But she says she cannot stop and is doing it all the more and gagging me all the longer. I love Lisa and don't want to fight over this. How can I reason with Lisa to do this in private when she really wants to do it in public so badly? Is there a compromise to make both of us happy? How can I handle this situation?
If she honestly cannot help it, and can't control it, then you might want to see a relationship counselor, or see if she will go to a counselor by herself.
Perhaps you could try some new fetish things to give her a new outlet.
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