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I am a 46-year-old male dating a 34-year-old girl. She has a very peculiar fetish. She enjoys putting and keeping her hand over my mouth as a gag. She loves the way it looks and sounds, and gagging me into muffled speech gives her a sense of dominant power and control. At first, I really didn't mind. Lisa has very nice hands--pretty, soft, sweet-scented. Her handgags are an erotic, intimate way for us to enhance our relationship. As she started to insist on handgags that last longer than an hour, I knew I was in trouble.
But lately, she has decided she really enjoys doing this in public. Lisa says she wants people to see her hand over my mouth. She loves catching me off guard by covering my mouth whenever I am speaking to another person. Lisa loves hearing my muffled speech and sees this as very humorous, so she does it at every opportunity. But she won't take her hand away! And she won't allow me to remove her hand. Lisa insists on doing things like keeping my mouth covered during an entire movie or concert! Or handgagging me when I try to order a meal in a restaurant. Lisa has done this to me in church, in banks, at school, and in stores. I have tried to ask her not to do it in public because it is embarrassing. But she says she cannot stop and is doing it all the more and gagging me all the longer. I love Lisa and don't want to fight over this. How can I reason with Lisa to do this in private when she really wants to do it in public so badly? Is there a compromise to make both of us happy? How can I handle this situation?
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I think you need to have her seek some professional help. Really, she is out of control.
It's embarrassing for you, and no offense to her intended, but probably makes her look pretty stupid. She needs help getting this fetish under control. She's taking it way to far. Good luck :)
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wow...umm thats really really weird...ahem...ur gf has problems and maybe a mental hospital could help??? just a suggestion....
oh and why do u insist on saying Lisa in every sentence?
hmm..
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If she honestly cannot help it, and can't control it, then you might want to see a relationship counselor, or see if she will go to a counselor by herself.
Perhaps you could try some new fetish things to give her a new outlet.
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If this question is on the level, then your friend Lisa has some serious problems. Do you see any other couples doing that? Have you ever? I never have. Lisa is trying to tell you something with these actions. I think she is imitating something that happened to her that she was never able to deal with appropriately. Think of it, abused kids grow up to abuse. Kids who are sexually molested grow up to be pedophiles. I think Lisa was mouth gagged as a child, and Lord knows what else happened to her. You must tell her, very firmly, that under absolutely no circumstances is she to do that again, and that if she finds that difficult to comply with she needs to get some help, and be honest about her habits. Don't try to help yourself, you are too close to help, but be there for her is she opens up about these issues.
I hope this helps
Michele
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