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I just started cutting myself... I wanna stop but nothing helps me feel better. what should I do? (link)
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Hi! I recently stopped cutting myself. It is very hard to stop, and I think it would help if you talked to a therapist. You might have to look around to find one that is right for you.
I'm going to give you a few tips on things you can do instead. You said nothing helps you feel better though, but I'll do my best to help you find an alternative that will work.
First of all, you should try to figure out what situations make you want to cut. Then find something to do instead of following that urge. Here's something else to think about: do you cut to release anger, to express intense emotions, to calm down, or because you feel numb? Knowing this will help you find the right alternatives.
Here are a few things you can do instead of cutting. Some may work and some may not.
- Take a shower -- you can make it super cold or super hot, or just keep it at an average temperature if you just want it to be relaxing.
- Go running. Exercise is a great stress reliever, and the pain in your legs can distract you from the urge to cut.
- Try meditation, breathing exercises, or relaxing yoga poses. It helps calm you down and relieve stress.
- Write in a journal or write poetry to express how you feel, if you're someone who is creative or enjoys writing.
- Call a friend. They can make you feel better or help you get your mind off of things by talking about something completely different.
- Do a hobby or another activity that is enjoyable and will help distract you. Try a puzzle that will challenge you and distract you from the pain you feel.
- Snap a rubber band on your wrist. The pain gives a sense of relief, and it leaves marks that look like scars, but they go away overnight.
- Drip some dark red paint on your wrist -- this helps if the sight of blood is important to you.
- Write out your anger on a piece of paper and rip it up.
- Holding an ice cube or rubbing it on your skin is helpful. You can dye it red if that helps.
- Try the butterfly project. Draw a butterfly on the place where you want to cut. Name it after someone you love, and let it fade naturally. If you cut before the butterfly fades away, it dies. But if you don't, you set it free.
I hope some of these helped you. Remember, you can be creative and come up with other ones.
Do your friends and family members know about this? Find someone you can trust -- whether it's a family member or school counselor or somebody -- and tell them that you self-harm. It takes courage to do this, but you will be able to. I've done it before -- it was hard, but I was relieved when I told someone I trusted. You can always talk to that person when you want to cut, and they can help you avoid self-harming.
Remember, even though it might seem hard to stop now, it is possible. Self-injury isn't an uncommon thing -- several people do it or have done it. But they have gotten through it and found a way to stop, and so can you. I believe in you.
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Thank you for SO much hope! Before I came here and asked this it felt IMPOSSIBLE to ever stop cutting, but you have given me so much to think about and shared some of yourself with me. I feel like you saved my life because I was already looking for ways to end my life but now I see hope! THANK YOU!
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