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ok, i am so sure that my mom is convinced that i am having sex with guy. but i am not, adn she is conviced i am kissing all over him, but im not! and she gets annoyed and things and i know for sure that she thinks i am sleeping with him. but it took me like 2 years to get him to poen up enough to hold my hand and things like that, so uh, yeah, even if i did wanna have sex with him, it would take a long time before i could. but how can i convince my mom that we are not sleeping together?

Man..my mom always gets the wrong idea at the wrong times also..offer her to give you a lie detector test if its gettign this far. Tell her your upset she isnt trusting you. You can even get a doctor to verify that your cherry is still there..but thats going to the extreme.
Good luck
-melissa

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As part of my value system, I feel it is necessary for me to save my virginity for whomever might become my wife.
My foresight has not predicted I would be in my early thirties and still not in the position whereby I would be in a deep relationship.
Being without this in my life has detimentally affected my emotional health.
How can I find the best way to cope?

Hey..just hang in there..the wait will be worth it. These are your values..stick to them. Just watch lots of porn, masturbate, whatever lol. Hang in there..and when your married you`ll be happy you waited.

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whats an average size for the ''male sex organ''

I would say 6-8. But if you below that, not to worry..its the motion of the ocean that counts.

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I'm 14..Well me and my boyfriend broke up because we didn't see each other(If you read my last comment you'd understand) But the night we broke up was a night at a local dance. After we broke up my best friend or what i thought was my best friend was all over him..I still really like my ex..Should I still be mad at her for that or should I suck it up and deal with it?

Yes, get mad! Talk to her about how you feel. Your friend shouldnt have moved in like that so soon! Talk to her..dont let your friendship get ruined over this though
-melissa-

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I am a very skinny girl, but sometimes when I am anxious or I have eaten to much or I eat alot of sugar or fatty things I make myself throw up. I don't throw up alot of food, though and I don't think that I've gotten to the point where I am a bulimic. I know that it's really not healthy though, so I haven't done it in about six weeks but I always want to, and I feel like Im on the verge. I really don't want to talk to anyone at home about it b/c I don't want to go to rehab because the problem isn't that serious. What do I do?

Your skinny! Just always remember that..theres no reason for you to make yourself throw up. Talk to a good friend about it. Read up about it online..maybe theres a phone number to call? Talk to someone who is confidential and wont tell. Maybe a counselor or a doctor.
Good luck!

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i dont know wat to do. It seems like everything is falling apart. I jus feel like everyone hates me for sum reason. I used to be friends with one of the most popular kids in the whole grade, but she hardly talks to me anymore. She says i've changed, alotta people say that. Is there anythin i cud do to make them stop hating me?
p.s.wen i stopped trying to fit in and actually started being myself, people started talking to me WAY more then they did b4.) PLease dont delete this. Thank u!!!

Dont worry..maybe THEY are the ones who changed. I think you answered your own question..just be yourself, dont try so hard, and lots of people will start talking to you. :)

-melissa-

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Hey! well i have basketball which takes like most of my time, cuz we have practice from 3-6 N school startin soon N stuff! our games commin up,well i want to be able to go to da football games to cheer on hawks! N to show a guy i'll support him! u kno?Well i like him a lot, N we see eachotha up @ school,but like he doesn't talk to me, but he talks to this otha gurl dat used ta be muh friend, i dont' kno wut me N her is anymore, but like wat makes me so differ form her?I guess he's busy too, cuz of football, da coaches are mostly on his ass cuz of QB! so yea, but i want to call him, N i have, but l8ly no one picks up, or he doesn't return muh calls, i can understand if muh line is busy, but when i talk to his friends((they muh friends too))he doesn't come wit them to tlak to me, he alwayz did b4 but not now!why is this? for da otha gurl he does! i'm so confused*lol*Our lockers are right next to eachotha N i dunno if it's good or bad, cuz everything dat came out of mouth l8ly wuz pretty mean, but i think he wuz juss messin round....please answer da questions sumwherres ^ therre*lol* but herre's sum mores, Wut can catch his eyes? How can i approach him?should i try to see wuts goin on wit da otha gurl? ((we were once best friends but we drifted away!N now she in a differ crew, N i guess both of da ppl we chill wit, don't clique))should i try to talk to him? if i call him, wut should we talk bout, cuz therre's times therres dead silience N i'm da person talkin, but he's tired, N i'm tired too*lol*! wut do i do? i'm sorry it's long, Thanx a bunch! Take care

Maybe the reason why he doesnt come over and talk to you also is because he shy and also confused like you are.Leave him a note in his locker..that will definately catch his eyes.Yea..talk to the girl..approach her friendly. Just ask if shes into him and if he likes her, etc. Its ok that she drifted away..you can still talk to her for a second.Approach the guy..just talk to him in person, online, get a friend of his to ask him what hes feeling, anything. Just go with the flow, dont seem uptight..definately talk to him. If you call him you can just talk about football and basketball..you dont have to talk for a long time, cuz you both are tired. If he has AIM talk to him on there. Talk about:
-family
-friends
-problems
-sports
-your past
-your favorites ( colors,foods,movies,music,)
-the olympics
-video games
-school
-teachers
-funny stories

hope I helped!! :) Write to my inbox if you wannna ask more
-melissa-

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I'm 16 and i know im pregnant. Im starting to gain weight, my family has a good reputation,like no pregnancies below 20 i dont know how to tell my mom what should i do

You hide the baby forever..just take one or two days..gather up your nerves..sit her down and just tell her. Its gonna be hard for awhile...but your a faml and you`ll overcome it. Also think about your chilld...you have to tell ur mom so you can go to the doctors for checkups, etc. Rep. doesnt mean everything..plenty of families with good reps go through tough times. Best of luck hun
-melissa-

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ok well my boyfriend wants to have like alot of sex you know and I'm not ready for that yet but once he pushed me when I said no and he yelled at me and just left I don't know why but I'm scared to say no to him and I'm doing sumthing with him tonight I need serious help

Ok this isnt good..sounds like he just wants sex. Im glad you didnt back down. Its time to break up with him. Who would want a bf like that? He sounds horrible. Dont stay with him! Things will only get worse. Who knows...next time he might rape you..or yell more..you shouldnt have to take that.You should really end it with him right away.Dont even see him tonight..just call him and END IT. You`ll be so much better off. Be strong ! BEst of luck.. and feel free to drop me somethin in the inbox if you wanna ask somethin else:)
-melissa-

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I'm looking for a guy that woud fit me well but each time i go out with the guys i fing something i hate about them right away...what should i do?

Its ok..there might be somethin you hate, but i bet theres a lot of stuff you like, right? Maybe make a list of things you like and dislike. I bet the things you like about him will outnumber the things you dont like! Try and forget about the thing you hate about him and just concentrate on getting to know him. Hope I helped! Drop me somethin in the inbox if you want :)
-melissa-

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ive been dating a guy for six months, and im totally in love beyond belief. so was he. he went to camp and met a new girl that he likes and she likes him. he says he loves me. but notas much as before. he also said hes going on vacation to decide who hes going to choose. he mentioned as well, that if we got back together, he might do this again. omg, what should i do? just when i thought i was over him, i had a dream abouthim. im so lost

aw..I feel for you :( Its ok..guys can be weird . They dont see how good they have it sometimes. If he said this to me..I wouldnt want to go back with him. I mean, whats worse than getting hurt twice? Probably getting hurt three times. I wouldnt subject myself to getting hurt like that..i would tell him "ok..maybe its best if we just end it now" Hes confused right now..i would try getting over him because he said he might do this again. Spend more time with friends..family..sports..just keep busy and with time, you`ll get over him. Stay busy and keep the good times and memories with him close to you.Its hard now, but it will get easier hun. Hope I helped...best of luck. Feel free to drop me somethin in my inbox
-melissa- :)

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ok well yeaterday at about like 2a.m. I went driving in town with my cuzine and her older bro (he's only 17) he drove us around and well he was smoking pot in the car so I got totally nervous and I didn't know what to do so I just staid in the car worring my butt off and when I got home at around 10 my dad smelt the pot and asked me if I smoked but I didn't pin it on my cuz did I do the right thing? I rate high:D

You didnt say they you were the one smoking pot, did you? I know you dont wanna be a rat or anything..just say someone else was..but you didnt try it. I probably wouldnt have told on my cousin either..but dont take the blame for it.
-melissa-

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hey this is the "i still like him" girl haha .. i already told him i liekd him .. and i even hung out with him at a fair .. but the thing is this party was in like july .. so idk what to do nemore.

Thats ok! Make a move anyway, even though its been a month. Take chances..you have nothin to lose trust me! :) Just maybe call him or talk to him online about it. I know your thinking "o man what if he rejects me..etc" but i really dont think that will happen. You can even get a friend to talk to him or you can talk to one of his friends and get the deal about how he feels. Good luck!
:)
-melissa-

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ok well I have been having problems at school and with friends. Well a couple of weeks ago a girl said she was gonna kick my ass and what not because ppl were telling her that i had been talkin bout her and i hadnt. Well we got everything straight and we became friends and i went out with her one weekend. Now she said that she was gonna kick my ass cause ppl have been telling her that i said i didnt really like her and the only reason i went with her was because I was scared of her and that i needed a ride and that is not true at all. I have never talked bad about her or anything. What should i do.

just tell this crazy girl to beleive you..tell her that people talk shit all the time..and you never said anything and theres no reason for fightin. If she still cant comprehend it..then leave it be , and dont worry she wont do shit to you.
-hope i helped
melissa

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i plan on having this hardcore party at my new house when its done being built. all the people im friends with are into really hardcore music and skateboarding and having fun. but i want the party to be really awesome, not just sitting around the whole time talking. i know i should have music and food, but what else can i do to make it really fun? if the party gets boring, everyones gonna wanna start drinking or smoking and thats not good. all of the "spin the bottle" games are getting old. and i dont want everyone at school talking about my party if its lame...

Build some ramps if you can..all your friends can skate..maybe even have a contest or whatever. If you live by the beach you all can party over there also. If you have some crazy friends..get them to skate while hangin on with a rope attatched to the back of a car..haha. If you can..get a good band..maybe get some people to chip in or somethin. Build a big bonfire..and if any of your friends can play a guitar or somethin have them play at the fire. Hope the party is awsome..
-melissa-

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i am a girl who has a lover it happens that the is in university why i have just finished my secondary sch level.he came home one day and told me he really luv and care well i was very happy and to his honesty, he told me he had a girl friend and not a lover in school and asked if i also have one but to be candid i have no one and he told me i should pls not have one and also he said the girl in her school wish to meet me but i told him i dont want to meet her.so pls should i meet her,and also should i go for a boyfriend too and to that kind of thing is the guy honest?.

I spent about 20 minutes trying to read this..I tried very hard..i still dont exactly know what your asking or what your story is..but I want to help. I also felt bad because nobody answered you..probably because they are just as confused as I am. So you have a boyfriend who told you he cheated on you and has a girlfriend? ANd he wants you to meet her? Is that the story? If it is then hell no why would you want to meet her? Break it off with this guy. Sorry but it was very very hard trying to figure out what your saying. I hope you appreciate that I tried my best to help you out..write me something in my inbox if you want more help.
-melissa-

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Okay, i liked this boy right. And he supposedly "used" to like me too [thats what his friends all told me] cuz we used to flirt cuz our lockers are right next to one another. But anyway, i went to this party with one of my best friends and she was like "are you gunna talk to him??" and i was going to and i could hear his friends all saying when i got there "go talk to her!!" but i dont know what he said. But anyway, later on at the party him and a different one of my friends were hanging out a lot and ontop of one another [not literally] and stuff. And they ended up going out. I didnt talk to him for a while but im talking to him now like normally. But i kinda never gave up liking him. Now him and this girl broke up about 2 weeks later [no surprise there] but i kinda still like him. But i dont know what to do?

Hey..dont be shy..it definatelyy sounds like he likes you! If his friends were encouraging him to talk to you before...its probable that he told them he wanted to talk with you..he flirted with you in the past, which is a great plus! I think now is a perfect opourtunity to move in..he`ll be yours in no time!
hope I helped out...feel free to drop me one in the inbox. :)
-melissa-

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Hey, i hope someone can help me out. I'm gonna try and make this as short as i can. I'm 17 and me and my boyfriend just recently became sexually active the 17th of July. We had sex about 3 times and used protection all 3 times. The condom did not break and i'm pretty sure about that because we checked. My last period was on the 6th for like 3 days and i normally have a full 7 day period. It was a little weird. I had sex "after" my period and it was my first time. Anyway, today is the 15th and i still haven't started my period. I have had irregular periods before but i'm just really worried. I have taken two pregnancy test in the past two weeks and they both have came out negative. They weren't cheap tests either.. (E.P.T Certaincy) I've been really.. stressed out about this situation. I've lost sleep and i think about it day in and day out. The only time i never really think about it is at work when i'm busy. Could i be just stressin my self out and causing my period to be late? I'm really confused.. some people say that when you first have sex it can cause your period to be 2 or 3 weeks late. Is that true? I would like to hear from someone about this please. Thank you.

Hey..I think your just stressing and thats the reason for your irregular period. Yes, i have heard from somewhere that when you first have sex it can cause your period to be 2-3 weeks late..its commonly due to stress because girls worry about being pregnent just like you are. Its a good sign that your tests came out negative. Give it a little while longer, if your period is still kinda weird and your still worried, talk to your doctor. Its all confidential with your doctor..mom and dad will never know. Thats the best way to go. I think when you hear from the doctor that your fine..you`ll stop stressing finally.
good luck, and im glad to hear you used protection! :)
-melissa-

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2 nights ago i went to the mall with my boyfriend and my mom let me go with just him and she was happy because "for once i told her the truth and she trusted me". she just told me i couldnt go outside. but that was what me and my bf were planning to do all along, just sit out and get some air and everything. so it was going fine and we ended up going outside and had an awesome time. but i had gotten some grass and stuff on my shirt and my mom noticed. she asked if i went outside, and i told her no. tonight she told me she knew and wa yelling at me and said that i lost her trust and i am not going to be allowed to do anything for a while. i cant use the pc, phone, and she said untill i regain her trust i wont be going anywhere like that again. so for one thing, i have no contact with him. 2, i cant stand my mom i am not going to listen to her if i did i would have no fun in my screwed up life 3, everything is hard enough already and she makes everything worse. i am so messed up and i am ready to just run away or die or something. i dont know what to do, and i cant stand anyone. help me

Hey..I think you should talk to her and explain you werent thinking and if you can take it back you would..etc. Tell her you didnt want to disappoint her so you froze up and lied about it. Say you learned your mistake and that telling the truth is better. Say it wont happen again and ask her to trust you.
If this doesnt work, try and tough it out..when she finally lets you do something again dont blow it for awhile. Ive been in your situation before..thats what i did and i got her trust back in no time!
Good luck,
-melissa- :)

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My parents payed for me and my brother to go to a private school. It was really expensive but thank god we got insurance so some of the money will come back to us if we deside not to go. Well my brother and i ended up going to public school where it's free, the thing is that the private school won't let us get the money back unless we go there for 15 school days. I have been arguing with my parents saying that i just started to make friends at the public school, and things are really going my way. Going to the private school for 15 days will make it really hard to go back to the public school. I really dont know what to do cause it's a lot of money we will get back, yet i am really startin to fit in at the public school.

since this is long I will rate high!!!!!!!!!!

hey..i think you should go to the private school. Its only 15 days. You can keep in touch with your friends until you come back. You dont want your parents losing all that money, right? Its cool that they are letting you go to private school..a lot of parents who had kids in private school wont even let their kids go to public school.
-hope i helped
melissa :)

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