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help me now please
2 nights ago i went to the mall with my boyfriend and my mom let me go with just him and she was happy because "for once i told her the truth and she trusted me". she just told me i couldnt go outside. but that was what me and my bf were planning to do all along, just sit out and get some air and everything. so it was going fine and we ended up going outside and had an awesome time. but i had gotten some grass and stuff on my shirt and my mom noticed. she asked if i went outside, and i told her no. tonight she told me she knew and wa yelling at me and said that i lost her trust and i am not going to be allowed to do anything for a while. i cant use the pc, phone, and she said untill i regain her trust i wont be going anywhere like that again. so for one thing, i have no contact with him. 2, i cant stand my mom i am not going to listen to her if i did i would have no fun in my screwed up life 3, everything is hard enough already and she makes everything worse. i am so messed up and i am ready to just run away or die or something. i dont know what to do, and i cant stand anyone. help me
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just wait til u regain ur trust back from ur mom... and try telling the truth from now on so u dont loose ur trust again...
xo shannon ox
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u dont have to run away or kill urself or anything like that...i mean u finally just regained ur trust with ur mom...and u went behind her back and went outside anyways...so i mean u may be upset with urself...but u cant blame ur mom for feeling that way...she finally let u do something cauze she trusted with u and u lied to her...if i was ur mom i'd be pretty pissed to...but i guess u just have to wait..and work really hard to gain that trust back...good luck
<3josie
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miss help me now,
i would say... just earn her trust back. thats what i have to do. when my mom puts me on restriction. and she forgets about everything. n stuff. soo thats my point of view.
xox Manda xox
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well first of all odnt kill yourself .. i mean i cut before and well it wasnt worth itand well whatever your going through will allways get better..... and with your boyfreind well my mom grounded me for 2 weeks form him and well i allways found ways to get around it like when she was sleeping iwould sneak the phone and when she was out iw ould too and jsut lil things like that .. but jsut dont do someing you'll regret it will allways get better... just trust me
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Hey..I think you should talk to her and explain you werent thinking and if you can take it back you would..etc. Tell her you didnt want to disappoint her so you froze up and lied about it. Say you learned your mistake and that telling the truth is better. Say it wont happen again and ask her to trust you.
If this doesnt work, try and tough it out..when she finally lets you do something again dont blow it for awhile. Ive been in your situation before..thats what i did and i got her trust back in no time!
Good luck,
-melissa- :)
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um well first try to talk to your mom and tell her why you went out side and how you feel...just try to be calm around your mom and just have a talk with her...try to gain back her confidence and explain why you went outside like say we got bored and chose to go out or sumthing you know...
lots of love x0 hope it goes well
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Everyone goes through this kind of situation with a parent. I understand how you feel, but think about this...
Your mom let you do something when you told her the truth about what you wanted to do.
When you lied, you got punished.
You seriously should have just told her the truth about going outside. She definately wouldn't have been as upset if you had told her the truth. Now, she is always going to be wondering if your lieing about any situation. If she can't trust you, then she's never going to give you space. You need to show her that she can trust you, and that your responsible enough to do the things that you want to do.
Just be honest with everything you say to her, no matter what. She will learn to trust you eventually.
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