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I have sex every now and then maybe once every two months. Every time we have sex it hurts like hell and i can't seem to get past the pain to start off with..so i never end up enjoying myself. Does it hurt everytime because we do not do it enough or is it some other random reason. I just want to be able to enjoy myself with my Boyfriend. (link)
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If lubrication doesn't help it would be in your best interest to see a gynecologist and discuss your problem.
They can give you a pelvic and other exam to see if there's a physical problem making sex painful or not. Horrible pain every time out (if well lubricated) isn't at all normal. One way or another you need to figure out the cause.
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My body has never known physical activity or healthy eating habits, until recently. I've lost 5 lbs in one week and I did it the healthy way, I ate and exercised. I think it's just because my body isn't used to this new lifestyle. Can anyone give me a good work out routine for the gym? We have an arm machine, elliptical, treadmill, weight machines, pretty much everything. I know that doing the same workout routine everyday causes muscle to form instead of burning fat, so if you could tell me two different routines to do that are about 1 and a half hrs long that'd be great. I'm aiming to lose 40lbs+ within the next 5-9 months. I'm 18F/219 lbs. THANKYOU! (link)
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You left out your height. Weight is based on height. If I took your weight plus your height I could tell you your BMI (Body Mass index) and ideal healthy weight not to be below or under. Age has nothing to do with it.
Also, the healthy way of losing pounds is 2 per week. You don't have to be doing the same exact routine you go at the gym every time. If you go intense for 1 hr 30 minutes at one machine or thing you'll soon burn out and not want to go back.
I'm a male but used to be 218 pounds when I was supposed to be 168 lbs. What did I do? I stopped eating fast-food, chocolate, candy etc. and went on a meal replacement in the morning, healthy snacks (fruit/vegetables) and then ate dinner (regular portion) and no desert every day for 2-3 months.
I also spent 1 hr 30 minutes at least two days a week walking to places that take that long to get to and back. That will get you over 90 minutes if you're brisk walking and helps with weight.
Then 3 nights a week for 90 minutes I did kickboxing and believe me when I started... Now, I'm 167-175 tops.
What you have to do is be brutal with discipline and cutting out bad foods and structure a routine so you do walking a few days a week and then the gym a few days a week and different machines at a time.
Actually, I would advise you to find an indoor pool and go 2 or so days a week as that will get you slim as well. Always talk to your doctor and get help with meal plans through them. If you do that you'll succeed.
You need to do your treadmills one day for 90 minutes let say, weights on another visit and so on spacing out your work. Talk to one of their personal trainers (free first session than dump them) about what you "should" be trying and your goal. That will give you an idea on how to structure things so you succeed.
You goal of 5-6 months is realistic but you've got to be driven and ask yourself every time you're tempted to stray whether you want the extra pounds a dessert would add or do you want to stay healthy. That's what's staring you right in the face all the time.
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im dating this guy and i want to bring him to a concert since hes never ben to one and i go to a lot. how do people find a list of what bands are playing at what arenas and the dates and everything, im clueless to that. im practically broke so free are the best and theirs ususally free concerts at the family arena in missouri. how? or does anyone have a list (link)
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livenation.com They own/operate 95% of all clubs and arenas in the U.S. and Canada. They promote all the major artists and are said to be negotiating a takeover of ticketmaster.
As far as theaters and local venues in small towns or even a city not controlled by livenation search for the venue in Google and keep watching their sites for shows you might like.
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When I was a kid, I was signed with a modeling agency. Sometimes, my mom would actually take me to my job offers, where I got to star in movies / tv shows as an extra.
I'm 18 now, and I want to do it again. My question is, does one NEED an agency to hook them up with these jobs? If not, where can I find out about them and what necessary steps do I have to take? (link)
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You need a BACKGROUND TALENT AGENT to be an extra in films. The only time you don't is when it's an open-call for extras.
This agent is the ONLY agent besides one that specializes in kids/teens that can charge a small fee for representing you because people often bail on them when they see that this is 18 hrs work quite often. Run from any other agent who tries to.
All you need is simple snapshots to begin with that they can color copy. You're pretty much set. If anyone tries to sell you on a portfolio or putting photos on the Internet bail. It's a classic scam and NO director or casting director uses the Internet to find talent.
To ensure that you aren't ripped off go to SAG's web site in America or ACTRA in Canada and ask them for a list of reputable agents in your area. If an agency isn't on that list there's a reason and be sure not to sign.
If I were you I would make sure you have a wide range of wardrobe ready including casual, semi-formal and formal as you never know what they want you to wear and often call less than 12 hours before you are supposed to be at set. It's always that random.
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My printer is INSANE. I have an hp officejet v40.
And lately, it has decided to be a total bitch to me. It has sufficent ink.
It randomly stops printing certain files. If I make it restart the print job, it either prints the full page or randomly stops printing at another part of the page.
This wastes a shitload of paper and time.
I've tried google-ing, but the suggestions like "look in the Help file" or "turn it on and off" dont' help. (link)
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Have you tried uninstalling and re-installing the printer's drivers? That might fix the problem. Try also logging onto HP's site looking for a 1-800 number so you can explain the problem.
They'll tell you what to try. Until then don't try printing anything because it will run the ink out.
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welll hi..>.< 14 f
well after I masterbate..and wash my hands.I stil have the scent of my..vagina..>.< akward..nd it lasts for awhile..well I do it..a lot cuz me nd my bf do..tht stuff on the phone..>.< but idk i just want to know if this is alright? I clean well..i use tht summers eve body wash....sooo >.< i dont know..thanks 4 helping ;p (link)
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I think your problem lies with being afraid that friends, family and others will discover you masturbate.
They can't. Like the other poster said you'll smell your own scent stronger than anyone else would if they can at all.
In fact what you think you're smelling may not even be there but rather paranoia about being caught making you smell it intensely. You need to relax. As long as you washed your hands in soap and water or used sanitizer you have no problem with lingering scent.
Also, your parents, friends etc knowing that you engage in this activity isn't a big deal. Parents know it's pretty much universal with teens of both sexes and likely suspect you do.
As for your classmates they probably all do it of all ages do it and 78% of females. You're fine and nobody can tell just by looking at you nor can they smell the scent you're worried over especially if you washed your hands well afterwards.
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Hi! my name is dezzi im from memphis tn and where sould i hang my flyers for babysitting?
Thanks! (link)
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Your local library should have a bulletin board where you can put one up. Ask them for permission. If they have several branches in your city/town perhaps target all. Grocery stores also have bulletin boards or cards you can pin up on a bulletin board advertising your services.
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i really like this boy in my class but he doesnt no and his mom was my teacher last year and she never found out.. what should i do!? (link)
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Introduce yourself if you haven't and become friends first. If you do well with that then ask if if he would be interested in dating. You won't get anywhere without talking with him. The fact that his mother was once your teacher has ZERO to do with the situation now.
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my best friend has been looking weaker and more pale lately. there was a week i spent with her in the ozarks with her parents and everytime she would eat she would go to the batroom like mintues later and she would put the water on really high and she would like come out twenty mins later and when i asked her what she was doing she would say. "oh. ive been having diarriah lately!" so i just always left it at that. i talked to her mom once and she said she has been noticing it too and she talked to her about it but maggie just refused it and said thats not true. i don't know what to do anymore. i can't talk to maggie becuase she gets really offended when people say "you look anerixic" if it's not true that she is throwing up everytime she eats imagine how mad she would be at me!
signed,
confused and scared (link)
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Neither or us are psychic but it doesn't take a crystal ball for both of us to know something is really wrong with this girl. If it was the runs and vomiting over the course of a weekend it's one thing but if you're seeing this consistently... Who's fooling anyone?
She's defensive because she either has a problem (all evidence suggests) or had a one time issue which judging by what everyone sees isn't the case.
What do you do? You have to tell the truth sometimes even if the situation is icky and can cost you a friend. If she's in trouble you might just save her life.
I would talk to your teacher anonymously and tell her that you think your friend is in a high-risk situation and has been doing x, y, z lately that has her friends and other adults concerned but her parents oblivious or in denial etc. etc.
The teacher will then meet with administrators and deal with your friend and her parents. They won't necessarily know you said a thing because they always go into such talks with multiple teachers etc. who will say they as a whole think this is true. Then it's up for the parents to show they're having it looked into.
She may be upset somebody got the courage to do something but in the end when she gets well she'll know it was out of deep concern. In life there's some icky secrets kids should NEVER keep from adults about the harm of themselves and others. This is just another category under that list as is any self-harm issue.
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Okay, so Im a f/19. My bf is 27. For about a year now ive been wanting to have sex with a girl. But i want it to be really specific. I just want to get F***ed by a girl with a strap-on.
My boyfriend is cool with it, and he wouldnt mind throwing another guy in the mix, but we dont know how to go about finding someone. I would prefer to find a girl who looks a little more like a really pretty guy? If thats possible.
Does anyone know any websites or anything where i can find this arrangement? Please help!!! (link)
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This is the wrong site for such a thing. I wouldn't recommend the Internet or anything with people you don't even know. Bad idea. Sometimes a curiosity needs to stay just that. That's not a judgment on your interest but on the situation as you laid it out.
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So for our theater projects this year one of the things we have to do is to perform a monologue in front of everyone. This is my first year in theater and so I have a question there was a list of suggested monologues to practice and everyone was going on and on about the ugly stepsister monologue. There weren't any details and so I don't really know much about it.
Has anyone here ever performed the ugly stepsister monologue? Would it be a good choice for somebody who has never performed one before? Does it go over well in front of a mixed audience? I mean will the parents and the kids like it?
Please help me if you can and thank you very much! (link)
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My advice: Talk to those who have performed it for their opinion. Ask where they found it and how you can get it. If all else fails talk to the prof. about it and ask where you can obtain it. If he/she doesn't know I would be surprised.
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hey, im currently in my sophomore year in college taking up a course i don't actually love. well, here it is.. i want to shift schools to take up a course with travel, media and journalism.. one of my options are international studies, what do you think? can you suggest other related courses to take? please.. -yssa (link)
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If you are looking to become a travel or any other kind of journalist you don't do a degree in business or hospitality. Neither field has anything to do with writing articles about travel.
What you absolutely must need is a journalism degree and to learn how to write, edit, design pages and work on a community or other publication. You need to do that plus work as an intern or volunteer at any publication or even a travel one to gain clippings.
You also want a journalism program with photo journalism courses in it. Much of travel reporting has to do with taking pictures to run with your article or doing that for someone else's piece.
Unless you can minor in international studies or business don't bother but do go after the journalism as a major. Try also to pick up a foreign language or two on the side.
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do you think it's possible for a person to COMPLETELY change who they are? (link)
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No. You can change your clothes, attitude and mental outlook but you can't change your real identity and personality you're born with. You can change certain traits but you can't break away from the core essence of you.
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I want to break up with my long distance relationship. There's no real reason..I honestly just don't feel like being in a relationship anymore. I live in the US, he in the Uk. I'm 19, he's 21. We've never met yet, been dating 8 months. He wants me to visit this summer.
I like him, but I don't love him. He LOVES me, he's actually obsessed. It freaks me out in a way. I tried breaking up with him earlier this week by using excuses about school, and he started crying for about 2 hours. So, I gave in. He told me he couldn't breathe, and that he'd come down here immediately and such. I don't WANT that, I'm scared if I break up with him that he'll show up at my door.
He's a very fragile guy, it took him 2 years to get over his ex, and he still talks about how he never thought he'd love again, blah blah, but then he found me. :/ I do like him, but I want to be free. I hate staying inside all day on the computer to talk to him, I want my life back. I know if I tell him this that he'll have some solution, like: you can go with your friends, or spend less time with me!
Basically, I don't want to be sucked in again. I want to break up with him, not lead him on with false hopes. Can you PLEASE tell me how to go about this? I've been struggling with it for about a month. I want to end it, cut all contact. But, what do I do when he starts crying? I'm not a heartless person, I don't know if I can just hang up on him. Ahh, please help!!! (link)
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If you have never met it's not a relationship. You're free to do what you want and were from the start. It sounds like he's a very disturbed person indeed.
He will say anything to you to get you to give him the attention he wants. What disturbs me is that he said he would get on a plane in an instant to be at your front door. That much scares me considerably.
Look, you don't owe this guy anything at all be it friendship or whatever. He's a bit of a head case. quite possibly he's older than he says and looking to pray on vulnerable women or even teens. He could be really bad news.
What do you do? 1) Archive every single text, e-mail or voice-mail he has ever sent and print those out. 2) Tell your parents the TRUTH about this icky situation and let them deal with it. 3) HAVE ZERO contact with him even if that means your parents control what you do online. Which they should here. You can get in a ton of shit you can't get out of.
4) If he continues phoning, e-mailing etc call your service provider to see what they can do and even police about his threat of coming to your door and let them locate him. File harassment charges if need be.
I think if he sees you aren't responding that he'll give up and move on. We hope that much as some delusional people won't "get it".
The most important thing you need and I'm not saying this to be cruel is professional help from a psychiatrist. You need help if you're on the computer 24/7 with him and not living normally. That's not medically right or good for mental health.
It's the right thing to do to have no contact with him and tell your parents ALL of IT and get help for yourself. It hasn't a thing to do with being heartless as this person will say anything to keep you in his web. You'd be extremely crazy if you did anything less with this situation. It's for your own safety too.
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but..uh.. how do you give head -___- (link)
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We don't give out how-to info on anything remotely sexual due to minors. If so inclined, an Internet search may yield what you seek but you won't get answers here.
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I'm doing TaeKwonDo, and I'm pretty happy with everything, but my right leg is super noticeably more stretched out then my left leg, so, how do I make them equal? i stretch out every day, so if someone could please answer me before another belt test, i would be very pleased! thx guys! (link)
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You should speak directly to your instructor about this concern. They should know why your leg acts in this manner and if you injured it etc.
While the poster below means well he/she should not talk about surgical procedure or mention that you might need it when they aren't a doctor nor have they seen it. That's a BIG rule around here.
Just go up to your Sensei and mention to them if they think there's anything wrong with your right leg as opposed to your left. They understand anatomy and exactly what you're concerned over. They can actually eyeball it where we can't.
Also, I'm concerned about this belt test business. How often are they doing that? If it's every few months and very frequent than theyre only out to grab cash from you for the next level and give you a belt that doesn't mean anything if you went to another dojo.
You might be surprised at who can kick your ass as a result. Belts should come every year and a bit or based on individual progress. They shouldn't be easy to get.
The other thing with taekwondo is that your kicks and punches aren't as powerful as kickboxing, MMA or karate. National Georgraphic measured this on TV. The taekwondo people consistently didn't know how to spar properly or win a street fight. I'm just pointing this out to you so you can be sure you're studying the right method of self-defense to make you secure.
The answer to your question is to talk to your instructor and then see a doctor if at all needed.
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Hi there,
As a moderator I would really like your input on the current changes around here:
http://www.advicenators.com/disc_topic.php?t=1698
... please and thank you!
(Reject this, please, after you have read it.) (link)
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I would reject this but don't know how to. If you're asking my opinion than sometimes is the best option. But, right now if you want me to reject this link better tell me how as my answer's on my column and can't erase it.
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I want to try using tampons but the whole concept scares me! Does anyone know of a site that has a visual instructions for inserting a tampon properly? It doesn't have to be an actual person doing it, drawings are just fine, so long as they are clear enough for me to understand how to do this properly. ;-)
Thank you! (link)
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http://www.wikihow.com/Use-a-Tampon
There's a cartoon scientific video at the end of the page. Hopefully, that will do the trick.
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Okay so My older brother and his best friend want to go to see the Toronto Raptor mascot, and get eaten by him.
He does a skit where he eats the cheerleaders and everything! Its really funny.
Now they started a page on facebook and the raptor said that if they got 500 thousand fans he would have them fly out to toronto and he would eat them during one of his skits.
I want to help him out, what would be the best way to go about getting people to join this fan group? Can i post it on like a homepage on facebook? Or is it going to take a long time? (link)
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Call Air Canada Fan Services at (416)815-5982 and talk to them about The Toronto Raptors and this particular statement and contest about FACEBOOK groups. See if it's true and what you need to do. Also ask them how you can be eaten by the mascot if at a game.
These guys know everything there is to know about how the Raptors and how their mascot's eating habits work as well as every detail about ACC concerts. They'll tell you what you need to do and if there's a way to be a volunteer to be eaten by the dinosaur or not.
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okay so i'm a 16 YO girl and i masturbate haha. i like doing it, it feels great and i orgasm every time i do but i feel like i'm the only girl that does it... i mean i always read that girls do it a lot to but i feel like if i told my friends they'd be totally grossed out.
so my question is, do guys know girls masturbate? like if i was with a guy and i told him i masturbate would he be grossed out or think i'm weird or desperate or something? anywayss let me know what you think. thanks! (link)
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Psst.. Your friends are doing it too. Unlike boys females are discreet and would never admit to doing it to their peers. It's normal and healthy and fine if you like doing it and fine if you don't. Stats state that 78% of all females (various ages) do it and 90% of males (all ages).
You're in good company as this activity is pretty much universal with people your age of both sexes. Relax about it. Nobody will think you're depressed or desperate or any of that junk unless they think that of themselves.
Would people be grossed out if they knew? Hardly, and most guys wouldn't think anything of it except that maybe it's too personal to talk about. And you're not weird either as 90% of the population would be... It's highly common and no need to worry because you like doing it.
It teaches you about your own body and how it reacts so that when you're in a committed relationship as an adult you can communicate what you respond to for your partner.
You can bet if your friends were honest that they wouldn't be grossed out because they probably do it to and are thinking everyone else would think what you thought they'd think if you knew.
I WAS ADDING THIS AS YOU GAVE FEEDBACK:
Masturbation doesn't have to be sexual either. Toddlers often do it because it's comforting or they found their genitals much like they did any other part of the body at that stage of life.
Children may do it out of boredom, because it's comforting or due to stress or other problems bothering them. It's NOT okay to masturbate if it becomes all you ever think about or do and you have zero social life or interests outside of that and or were abused etc.
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