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Painful sex
18-f
I have sex every now and then maybe once every two months. Every time we have sex it hurts like hell and i can't seem to get past the pain to start off with..so i never end up enjoying myself. Does it hurt everytime because we do not do it enough or is it some other random reason. I just want to be able to enjoy myself with my Boyfriend.
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My first advice is lubricant. Lots of women are too dry to have good sex without it. There are ancient remedies to make lubricant, in fact. It's a dilemma women have faced since the dawn of time.
Second, more foreplay. Ask for more of what you enjoy, and that ought to relax you into it.
Third, believe the two things above will work, because after so much painful sex, you may be psyching yourself up and bracing yourself for pain. That means tense muscles, and that leads to more pain.
If this doesn't work (but I bet it will), make an appointment with your doctor to discuss your options.
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If lubrication doesn't help it would be in your best interest to see a gynecologist and discuss your problem.
They can give you a pelvic and other exam to see if there's a physical problem making sex painful or not. Horrible pain every time out (if well lubricated) isn't at all normal. One way or another you need to figure out the cause.
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I looked up your situation, and it is recommended that you use lubrication (water-based, just as the previous columnist stated for extra prevention) in order to enjoy yourself. Good luck, friend.
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Sex could be painful because you are too dry down there. Do you engage in foreplay? That helps get you wetter so things aren't as painful. If you do and that still doesn't help, there are lubricants you can buy to make things easier. Just remember to use a water-based lube because an oil-based lube (like petroleum jelly) could break your condom!
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