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Okay my problem is i cant ever come up with anything to talk about on the phone with my boyfriend and i feel really bad about like im boring him and i feel like our relationship is about to end because of it please help!

hey i know exactly what ur talking about. I didnt really talk a whole lot on the phone with my last bf and we lasted a pretty long time...6 months. Mybe phone convos arent for you. its easier to talk about things in person, isnt it? thats what i think..maybe cut down on the phone convos and hang out more..then convos come naturally.
hope i helped..good luck
-melissa

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alrigty...i have a bad habit with cutting my self..and i need to stop...the only problem is...i dont kno how...my life is kinda shakey now b/c my mom is makin me go live with my aunt 4 good b/c of my "problem" and im doin pretty bad in skool with all the stress thats going on...and that makes more stress and just blah...i mean my friends and my boyfriend HATE the fact that i do it and they give me ideas to stop like squeezing an ice-cube until it melts...but that dont help... and i am in cheerleading an i always have to wear my long sleeve shirt so ppl wont see my arms and be like "shes physco" er suttin...but ne ways..i also have a prob with eating...i mean im not fat and i love food...but it just makes me wanna puke...so idk what to do about that either...so if ne one has ne ideas with how to help me with this stuff...please let me kno!

My advice is to talk to your mom about checking you into a sort of rehab..blah i dont know what they call them..but somewhere where you stay overnight of course for a couple weeks and professionals can help you. You tried all the alternatives and they didnt work..so this is the next step. Dont be ashamed or worried...the best of us run into trouble. Im glad you want to get help and you`ve made efforts..this is your next sttep and i think it can really help. If you cant get into the rehab type thing..try going to a psycologist. its nothing to be ashamed of..get help and your gona get right back on track
-best of luck!
-melissa

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Yesterday, me my bff brittany and my family went to burlington for my little brothers hockey tournment. there me and brit spotted these 2 really hott guys and decided to try nd talk to them later. well so we did and it was actually quite fun we spent the whole night hanging out with them and just some younger immature boys. one of the 2 boys we spotteds name was shawn. i flirted with him alott and a few of the other kids kept telling me he likes me and stuff. the hotel was going to be filled with security guards at 11 and it was creeping there and a little before shawn asked for my number. i gave it to him and gave him a hug be4 i walked in my room but my friend keeps sayin guys just ask to make them look cool and its not like hes gonna call or anything. but he acted so nice and mature and everything so i didnt know if this was different or do all guys just like to lead us on.

Not all guys like to lead us on..it sounds like you both had a good time and i really think he`ll call you. And if he doesnt for some reason, dont worry, theres plenty of sweet guys who would never do that.
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my friend lorrin just moved to another state. I miss her so much. What should i do?

hey..friends last forever no matter what the circumstance is. Keep in touch by calling, email, AIM, ...is the new state shes in kinda close to you? who knows..maybe someday you and her can visit. Memories are forever and so is your friendship..remember the good times. Friends come and go..always remember that there will be new friends in the future.
-melissa

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Ok, So i go to this school, and i met this guy, and he just so happens to be a teacher. He's really young, really cute (to me and a few other people)and he is really sweet and funny. Everyone knows that i have the biggest crush on him and that i am head over heals for the guy. Some people question whether or not it is a crush or i have fallen in love. Also everyone tells me that they think that i should go for him and tlak to him and tell him. but get real 10 YEAR DIFFRENCE!
but if you listen to some love songs they always tell you that if you keep silent about something then you will never know what might happen or if they feel the same way about you. And i mean, when i say head over heals for this guys its, i just hear his name or see him, or anything that deals with HIM gets me all exctied and everything and i just feel like im falling more and more for him all the time....What should i do about this?
sincerly,
lostiinhiiseyez

Hey,its a sticky situation and all i can do is tell you my opinion. You have to really think about it yourself and follow your heart. If it was me and i was in your shoes, i would probably have to tell him how i feel. It could make things kinda weird between the two of you, but then again, it ight not. Its unpredictable and you just wont know until you tell him. Think about this though..lets say he likes you back and you get together. You cant let it get around school. Immagine the damage that could be done. This guy could go to jail and would def lose his job! But...........if you rrrrrreeally like this guys which it sounds like u do...and you eventually gather your guts up and you tell him...it just might work. You would have to keep everything on the d/l. This is such a tough situation..i say tell him how you feel,if your dying to tell him and u cant keep it a secret anymore..and take it from there. Be careful though and good luck!

-melissa

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okay, i just started my peroid a few days ago, i`m 13. i found pads are annoying. i tried tampons but they hurt so bad and i can`t even get them in, is there something im doing wrong? i looked at the directions and everything, and i have almost the smallest size, can anyone help?

I heard from a few places that using tampons during your first few cycles isnt a good idea..maybe try again in a few months. Its probably just that..it`ll take some getting used to. If your the type whos comfortable about talking to your mom about this kinda stuff..then talk to her. If not..maybe talk to some friends who already started their period.

hope i helped,
meliss

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Do you always bleed on your first time?

its common..but some dont. It all depends on the girl.
hope i helped
-melissa

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ok this is going to be kind of long but... okay i have liked this guy since the beginning of this year and this past week i have finally like starting talking with him and stuff. and im generally really shy around guys so this is like big for me lol. and so the problem is.. i just found out that my other friend kind of likes him too. yeah. but she doesnt know that i like him. and i have only known her since september or october. and i kind of want to tell her but mym best friends don't even know because im just not that kind of person. and so its just like now that he's finally talking to me, she likes him. also shes like really pretty and popular. and i am just okay looking and average popularity. and i really like him and this would be my first like REAL boyfriend. should i tell her? or would it ruin our friendship?

These situations are always tough. Keep talking to this guy. If you tell her ..it might make things weird, being you like the same person. Its ok to "lay low" for awhile. Thats one option. You could continue to talk to him..and if things go right..maybe you guys will hook up!
The other plan is to tell your friend if you want. If your the type of person to want to tell your friends..then go for it. But judging by what you said in your questions..you dont seem to be that type. but..how do you know she likes him? Did she tell you? If she did..and you "go for the kill" and get him..it might hurt her. You could just say "i like him also.." and hopefully things wont be too weird between you guys and whoever gets him first..the other should lay off. I hope i made sense? lol good luck

-melissa

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Alright, my girlfriend just ended her period and we were thinking of sex. I tried to get a condom but with no luck. Now I checked up on it and people say after a period, there is no egg. So I thought, even without a condom, if we had sex and I,"Pulled out early." If there is a chance of pregnancy.

its commonly thought that a girl cant get pregnent but thats not always true. Play it safe..immagine if she did get pregnent? dont make dumb mistakes..always use protection. pulling out def lowers the chance..but theres something called pre cum..its very slight..but it could get her pregnent. play it on the safe side, you`ll be happy u did!

good luck

-melissa

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i was @ my friends house and i stole 40$ should i give it back, because she has no idea it was in her closet.

why would you steal money from your friend?? thats not cool at all. Definately give it back b.c if you dont, your conscience will eat you alive! your supposed to be her friend..its def not cool to steal from friends. when you tell the truth you`ll feel a lot better

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Hey,im 13 f and im 5'6 but i weigh like 146. i try to loose weight but theres just so many temptations all my friends are really skinny. they dont make fun of me or anything but like i just feel so different. . .anything i can do to be on a *safe* diet or workout plan?! thx

hey, your pretty tall so its ok to weigh more. Its healthier for a taller person to weigh more. If someone short weighed as much as you then they would have more of a problem. But, if you still wanna lose a few pounds...
-drink lotsa water
-join sports
-smaller portions..more healthy snacks

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ok wellll.. i have alot of friends, but there all obsessed with me. its not like we all talk to eachother, they just fight over me.. they literally do. Like at lunch they all want to sit next to me and it get's really annoying. I feel bad because if i'm talking to someone or sitting next to someone other people feel bad. ahh they want to be just like me too. Don't get me wrong, i love them, but it's really immature too. I mean it's been going on for a long time and in 6th and 7th grade I could understand, but now we're in 9th. What should i do?

wow this is so immature for 9th graders!Definately dont let them fight over you like this again. Round them all up and tell them all firmly to CHILL OUT!! A circle of friends should be friends with each other..not just one person. If they dont get the picture soon...maybe get closer to another group of friends who are more mature. This is so unfair to you..and it isnt right. Let them know that!
Good luck

-melissa

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i put this under Random Weirdos cause it doesnt really fit anywhere else. every winter i get painful dry skin on my hands. the skin cracks, splits then bleeds. it is only my hands and only in the winter! lotion helps a little, for about 10 min, but then my hands hurt again! what can i do/put on my hands?!

Hey try wearing gloves..this could protect your hands from the cold, which causes your dry skin. I had that problem a couple years ago and its a definate bitch. Lotion helps..but so does coco butter..its soothing. Your hands will get better soon!!
-melissa

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am i fat im 11 128lbs and 4"10"

hey dont get down on yourself. Iv always been a big person also but im bigger than you. (im 15 and 5'3 but still..) If your serious about this then you can fix it so you dont get bigger and bigger. Just be careful about what you eat..and exercise more. Join a team..anything!
Lots of luck

-melissa

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I like this girl and I'm not sure she likes me, she acts weird around me and its always akward when we are together. I heard
rumors about her likeing me and not likeing me. What should I do? We are friends so I wouldnt want our friendship to get weird but i have real big time feelings for her. HELP!!! I'm 15 year old male, 10th grade.

I've been in your situation before and i know a lot of people who go through the same thing. Its very possible that your friend likes you. People are saying she does..and some are saying she doesnt..so the only real way to find out is to ask her. If you really like her i say go for it. friends make the best couples..and when you guys break up..you should be able to go back to friends...but nothing is guarenteed. If you dont wanna take this gamble..then dont do it. Go with what you feel and you`ll be fine!
-melissa

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Alright, well I was wondering if anyone had any ideas on a Christmas gift. My friend, he is 14 and he loves video games. He plays them non-stop. And I don't have enough money for a game. What would you all suggest I get him as a gift?! Something $30 or less. Thanks

Well...i dont know if they have it by you..but by me we have EB Games..which sells pre used video games. A lot of these games are pretty recent and in good condition! You might be able to find a game for him for $30 or under!
If that doesnt work out..maybe get him a gift certificate to somewhere that sells video games. He`ll definately appreciate that!
Hope i helped

-melissa

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Okay usually i don't mind when my boyfriend does stuff with me but not in class! i already am failing that class and i have to get my work done..plus i don't want people talking about me in a bad way like i think they were today. Today i was sitting by my boyfriend in class and he kept going down my pants and rubbin my back and ass and shit and trying to make out with me but i kept telling him no not now! But he wouldnt listen and it was really buggin me i couldnt get him to stop even when i moved my chair away he'd pull it right back by him it was annoying. So my question is: What do i tell him when i don't want him to do that kinda stuff to me? Because obviously telling him to stop doesn't work. He's usually really respectful but i don't know what to do. Thanks so much!.

Definately talk to him about this! IF hes not usually like this, then something is up. Find out. Maybe its just hormones..but thats not excuse because he sexually harassed you. It doesnt matter if hes your bf or not..its still sexual harassment and you might want to consider breaking it off with him if he doesnt stop. Dont allow him to do that to you again.

-melissa

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my dad is such a jerk. i'm not going to try to make this sound any worse than it is. ok well he, i guess, "verbally abuses" me. he doesn't treat me like a daughter. the other day he called me a slut, which i'm not, and he cussed me out because he doesn't trust me. i haven't even done anything. he thinks im a druggy too. he tells me that i'm just a mistake. it hurts so bad. i want to run away, but i'm trying to stop myself. im just really afraid he's going to hit me. he jerks me around, but not too bad. i need advice. dont tell me to talk to him about it.

If you dont want to talk to him about it...maybe put your feelings on paper. Do you live with your mom? if so talk to her..if you dont..maybe you should move in with her. If it gets real bad with ur dad..maybe even ask a close friend to spend a week at their house to kinda cool down from him. Talk to a guidance conselor. They will keep things confidential if you want.

-best of luck

-melissa

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hi i just typed a 72 worded thing out explainign most of my problems but i accidently deleted it all. o well it would not work too long anyways

okay do here are some of my problems
im a freshmen in a catholic high school and im failing almost all my classes and im a loser who gets made fun of, im in between living with my mom at my grandpas and my mom and dad at my dads house; they both suck because my parents are opposites, my dad even tried killing my mom before after throwing a freaking tv at me, im losing weight profusely and im already VERY very very very anorxishly skinny, and every time i eat i get sick and i dont even hardly eat, and im going to the hospital in a couple days to get a brain scan because every time i try to go to slep i go into this episode where i can move, feel, hear, touch, see..well the only thing i can do is breath about 30 seconds about 10 times every night and im really scared becausei think they have to stick me inside a black tunnel thing for 2 hours or something, and that is impossible i get deathly scared, i just feel so abnormal, along with my family. they sleep 20 hours a day in our small dark (grandpa's) house. its like a vampires house. well anywyas someone please give me advice on what i should do, ANYTHING will help. thanks.

Aw, sweety. Stay strong! It must be hard right now..but vow to yourself that your gonna make your life a better one. Hang in there..get your education and make your life the best it can be so your children will never go through what you are. Talk to a guidance counselor..they're there to help you! Maybe you can even get a therapist through the school. Go to the sessions...your gona do fine

stay strong!!

-melissa

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ok well my best friend is goin out w/ a boy ive nown 8 years and every time he comes over we make out and other stuff and wen he asks for it i give it to him...and i dont want to give that up but she keeps gettin mad at me??but me and him have gone out wen we were younger and all that jiz..its just ive only nown her for a year and ive nown him my whole life and i like him alot..but she goes out w/ him wen she nos i dont like it wen she does so i dont no wat to do.can u give me some advice plz????????ty..

what your doing is wrong..and i think you know that. I understand that you like this guy..but how bout you sit down with him and talk to him about maybe breaking it off with this girl. Dont push him into it..just suggest it and see what he thinks..if hes not being faithful to her..then he might consider the idea, right? A friend is a friend..regardless of how long or how close you guys are. You dont wanna see her hurt do you? Maybe think about stopping the cheating with him....wait til they break up..it seems like their relationship isnt so hot..so they'll probably end it soon anyway. Its all up to you..my advice is just to think about what i said

best of luck

-melissa

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