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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
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I will be blunt this guy sounds like a real asshole. Who creates a Facebook group, sets it to private and discusses details about you or intimate details on your relationship with others?
Then he has the nerve to deny it and deny you access to it. A normal person doesn't do that kind of shit to someone they are dating and let other people see this.
What to do? There is a process with Facebook where you can have it removed for harassment or slander etc. But, it's easier to tell your parents what he is doing and embarrassing you with and have them confront his parents or go through your school telling them students or a student in particular created the group about you.
You should be pissed off at him. You NEED to tell him that you know what he's done aren't happy about it and that personal details about your life aren't for the world to see on Facebook. Then, as much as you may have liked him find someone else.
You have no idea if these people are mocking you behind your back or how broad a range this has but maybe he's a sick type that gets off on supposedly dating someone while doing this online for laughs with friends for their/his amusement/benefit.
You just don't know but you do know enough from your trusted friend that he's been saying a bunch of inappropriate shit about you online.
Next, I would use your network of friends and be brutal but truthful about the kind of person he is, what he did etc and make it difficult for him to find a girlfriend in the future. Don't do it as a vengeful thing or for revenge but as a watch out for this jerk kind of thing.
He's hiding the page because he somehow knows you viewed it, are pissed off and knows he's up the creek if you ever see it again to confirm what your BFF saw that you didn't see etc. No legs to stand on.
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I just gotten married I have 3 1/2 months married, my husband is extremely jealous he wouldnt let me go anywhere alone. At the beginning he did but now he takes more control, I have spoken about it to him and he say: 'ok hunny I will let you goto wherver you say' but I think he doesnt really mean it.What should I do?
Im 20 he is 27 years old.
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Jealous types like him who try to control your movements and actions can turn violent and even deadly in an instant. I doubt him seeing a professional about it will do much good but that's about it.
Aside from that your only other option is to realize that he won't change and that the marriage wasn't right and move on.
Hard as that is I would recommend it to you. These relationships only get worse and more intense and impossible to handle.
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I always have a best friend every year, and the same always happens. She betrays me. And we're not friends anymore. Now I'm trying to avoid that to happen again. Please give me advice on how to do that! (link)
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I'm not being a jerk but one would think the problem lies with you not them. If every single year results in you losing a friend it's not all their fault. What constitutes betrayal in your mind? Maybe it's little shit or too high standards, demands on people that lead to this.
I would talk to a professional about this and how your relationships are always getting destroyed. There's something you need to work on or understand that you haven't which leads to this.
You have to learn what causes your friendships to end ugly in order to avoid this problem. Until you are willing to do that and be brutally honest wit your own self nothing will change. A counsellor will help you see what causes this pattern that always lands you with a friend.
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where does chloe the movie with amanda seyfried and julianna moore take okace/filmed? (link)
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A lot of the film was shot in the Yorkville district of Toronto where all the trendy shops are located and the doctor's office Ms. Moore has is located there. Other locations include the Rivoli which is a well-known Toronto club, Cafe Diplomatico which is in Toronto in the College St. Area in Little Italy district,
Allan Gardens is a pretty tough place that you don't want to be in at night. There's some of the film that was shot at Bathurst and Bloor near Honest Ed's. Almost all of it was shot in Toronto or its suburbs. They shot on Queen Street West and feature TTC vehicles in the background.
I remember seeing them shoot scenes where Moore and Seyfried meet in a former nightclub now up for lease at John and Richmond in the entertainment district. To answer your question it's completely shot in and around Toronto, Canada.
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One night at a party, and I was running around outside with my friends until i tripped and i lost my necklace. I asked a boy to help me look in the woods for it, because that's where I lost it. While we were in the woods, he said "What do I get if I find it?" and I said, you'll find out when you find it! And sure enough he found my necklace, then he asked for his "reward" and I said he gets nothing but a thank you.
So school started this week, and today a boy walked up to me and said "HEY, if i find your necklace will you give ME head?" and I was really confused. Until one of my close friends came up to me and asked me if i blew a kid who found my necklace at a party. Of course I said no.. because i didn't! And people in school keep bringing it up.
I guess I'm just asking if you have any tips on how to cope with it? Ignore it? Etc.
Thankssss. (link)
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Find the kid and dump him on his ass. In the meantime try and ignore it. It will go away that way when people see you aren't phased by it or even dignifying it with a response. But, if you get your chance to hit him in front of others that will go a long way too.
I don't condone violence but when someone has something coming to them like he does they deserve it. Sounds as though he's pretty desperate and a blabbermouth and once you can illustrate that he is the rumor will stop and people won't believe a word out of his mouth.
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How does it feel?
And What can i do to get one?
Okay well i'm 18/f and i'm not even sure if i ever
gotten an orgasm.
I've only had sex with one guy we dated since i was 15 and have been dating since. We started having sex after six months of going out and we did it at the park cause we had nowhere else to. And afterwards we just had sex and stuff it kinda hurt but felt sort of good.Then we would have sex at his house and stuff and it would feel good but i don't know if i ever had an orgasm. Someone once told me it was like a climax feeling, but i've never felt that. My friend told me she first got hers when her boyfriend went down on her. But i'm traumatized because one time at the park i told my boyfriend to do that and he was about to go down and had one look at my vag and didn't do it:(. My vag is not dirty or anything i always clean it and its not hairy or anything like that. And i always go down on him all the time and i tell him how it's not fair and he never said anything until recently he said he would do that but i think it's just because i bring it up. Is it possible for him not to like the thought of eating a girl out? I mean he loves sex and everything else but i don't know i feel bad i wish he did that. But how can i have an orgasm is that the way to make most girls have an orgasm? how exactly does it feel? And what can i try to have one?
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All it amounts to is a series of involuntary muscle contractions or spasms if you will in the pubic region of varying intensity causing smaller to larger amounts of pleasure. Most women won't experience it through sex alone. For many it takes clitoral stimulation.
As far as your boyfriend goes perhaps he has no clue what to do and that has him stopping or maybe he's insecure about it or has some hang up unrelated to you ie it being messy or something or that he can hurt you or anything irrational. Best thing to do is to either ask him directly about it or refuse him certain things until he reciprocates.
Either way, he'll get it or tell you what's up. As long as you're clean and no sign of infection or smell and are taking care of yourself as you noted than it's with him not you. You have to figure out what's stopping him and I would suspect it's no experience or inexperience or a bad episode with someone else.
Talk to him. You have to communicate on this and sexuality in general especially if you're engaging in such activity. This happening may be a good thing as it forces you to do that.
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Am wanting to find the best and painless way of commiting suicide. (link)
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You won't find that kind of answer here. Listen, no matter how big your problems may seem everything and anything can be resolved without something permanent like this. Suicide solves NOTHING and is a selfish act that harms others left behind.
What you need to do is walk into a hospital emergency room and explain to them that you are severely depressed and suicidal and require professional help. They'll assess you to see what the problem is and how to treat it.
Then, with time you will be free of it and will receive the help you need to deal with things and lead a productive life. That's a lot better than death isn't it?
You're not thinking with your head screwed on here because the depression and mental health issue is controlling you and your decisions. make the right one and get some help. You won't regret that. You're young and have a lot to give and reason to live even if you don't comprehend it right now.
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i have so many red spots on my face, i think they are acne scars but i'm not really positive. its almost impossible to cover it up so i look gross all the time. i use a toner/astringent from clean &clear every night because i heard that was supposed to even out the skin tone but it doesnt. i use st. ives green tea scrub in the morning because its supposed to reduce redness but it doesnt. i just dont know what to do and it makes my self esteem go down so much. i cant wait for the day that i can walk out in public without makeup on. anyone know how i cant get my skin evened out?! i will love you forever. (link)
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I think a dermatologist is the best person to consult. Get a referral from your family doctor and tell that doctor what you told us about self-esteem issues and what you have tried to do.
It may require prescription cream to clear it up or some other kind of treatment. This type of specialist deals with skin problems exclusively and has probably seen a lot of cases exactly like yours. Don't fret it can be dealt with.
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How old do you have to be to get a hotel room in new york city? I am 18. I want to go on a road trip with my boyfriend of 1 year. He's 19. We have never been to NYC before, and we hope to stay in a budget hotel for about 3 nights. (We both have minimum wage jobs.)
We both have debit cards, but don't have credit cards. I've heard that most hotels don't take you unless you're 21 and have a credit card. But what about if you're 18/19 and have a credit card? (link)
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I would suspect it would vary from chain to chain. Most of them want a credit card if you book over the phone or in advance. The reason being is that they can charge you for closing that room off to other paying customers if you never show.
They don't lose money this way. You then have to show up with the card holder and the card to be given room keys.
They also like credit cards in case you or people you are with totally trash the room and cause damages. They can charge your card for all of it or to the limit whichever comes first that way.
You can go to any hotel though the day you arrive in NYC and pay cash no problem. Budget hotels are great with people and depending on the area and how much business they do or don't get may have far more relaxed rules on age.
As far as I know it's always been 18 or what age they consider the age of majority and adult in a state or country. I doubt you'll have any problem but here's what I would do. Super 8, Red Roof Inn, Quality Hotels, Travel Lodge, Motel 6 are the major budget chains. Or find a roadside (and their not as frequent anymore) motel owned independently that's clean and doesn't require an over 18 rule.
Call each hotel chain above and tell them you're planning a road trip to NYC and would be staying 3 nights, give the dates and mention that you are 18 and he's 19 and intend on paying cash when you arrive and staying in the room together.
Ask if they have a policy on how old you must be to take full responsibility for that room. Tell them as college students you don't have credit cards. Maybe they'll let you reserve if someone (parents) puts it on their card for you PROVIDED they make sure that they don't have to be physically present when you get there or have authorization done in advance. Best advice ask the hotels this by calling their reservations line. You'll find something.
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Hi I'm liz I am 14 years old and I'm from ny and There's this boy in my class name don and I really like him but I'm not sure if he likes me becuase sometimes when someone ask him if he likes me he says no but when he is next to me he is flirty and he is always saying something funny and staring at me and making eye contact with me and making fun of me (link)
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Typical male behavior that is usually without fail they're way of showing interest but not taking any risks. Girls do that too but not as sly. What do you do? Well, invite him to join you and other friends for bowling, a movie, whatever and see if he wants to go.
That way no risk for you either of being hurt by showing your hand (true feelings) right off the bat. That's one way to know if he's interested in you because he'll only refuse the invitation if he's not.
You could also approach him and tell him that perhaps you're reading signals he's sending off wrong and wanted to know where you stood with him and if there's any interest. Bottom line, unless you talk to him you'll never know what's going on in that head of his when it relates to you.
It may be hard but then again if you really want something for yourself sometimes you have to go after it and take the risk. Everything he's doing from making fun of you, flirting etc. etc. suggests a strong interest he's trying to hide so you don't pick up on it and possibly reject him. That's what it's all about.
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So saturday night ..well basically sunday morning at like 4 in the morning I lost my virginity. I've been on birth control for probably 3 years to regulate my period and whatnot..set my alarm every night at 9pm to take it and I do every night. Things were getting hot and heavy and he asked if I wanted to do it. I was ready, so I said yes but asked if he had a condom and he did. It was completely dark, which worries me a bit if he put it on right. The condom stayed on the whole time, I just don't know if it broke or anything. He didn't say it did ..but I don't know if he would tell me it did because he wouldn't want to scare me. After we were done we talked for a bit and I was like you better not get me pregnant or i'll kill you, being serious but in a flirty manor. He said don't worry you're not i promise.
Now I think i'm just freaking myself out. I have this nervous feeling in my stomach and I know I'm doing it to myself because I keep thinking about it and I'm suppose to get my period next thursday and I'm trying to stay calm so I don't get so stressed my period will come late which will freak me out more.
What do you think the chances are I could be pregnant if for some odd reason the condom did break? Or what are the chances at all if i've been on birth control and we used a condom. (link)
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If you have been on BC for 3 years and religiously take your pills on time the chance is pretty remote even if a condom broke. That's the purpose of birth-control to be a backup along with condoms. You should be fine. Don't fret with what-if scenarios as you'll make yourself sick.
Right now the stomach issues you mention are either unrelated or the by-product of your anxiety. Wait until Thursday or the weekend and see if your period comes before freaking out. I'm sure you'll be fine as it sounds like you have protected yourself well and your partner did his part with wearing protection. Trust me, if it broke he would have told you and you would have certainly noticed it happening.
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So I have GAD (general anxiety disorder). I'm on Paxil CR right now for it, but I'm switching meds soon because this one cause me to become very depressed.
Here's my problem: I started school about a week ago. I have to get up every morning at 5:30 AM because I had to take an early pre-period class...the thing is, by me getting up at 5:30 I'm constantly exhausted and I feel like I'm not getting enough sleep. The earliest I'm ever able to fall asleep is around 10, but usually 11. I can turn off the TV, turn off the lights, and just relax but I still can't seem to fall asleep until around 10-11.
And this is where the anxiety comes in...all summer I had really severe anxiety attacks. I'd wake up in the morning, just go through the day feeling anxious until around 12 AM at night I'd finally fall asleep after having multiple anxiety attacks. I started Paxil CR in July..and at first I DID notice a difference but as of a few weeks, I've been feeling really depressed and anxious, which according to my doctor is most likely due the Paxil. So today I have an appointment with my doc and I will be switching meds. Anyway, when I don't get enough sleep...my anxiety is usually 20x worse.
Just last night I had a VERY severe round of anxiety attacks from the time of getting home from school, till around 11 when I finally fell asleep. I wasn't able to go to school today. I feel like a big part of this is because I'm just not getting enough sleep.
I don't know what to do. I can't drop the early morning class, because I have to take it. 5:30 is the LATEST I can get up in the morning. I'm just wondering if anyone has any relaxation techniques to help me calm down earlier in the night and be able to fall asleep earlier? Or if anyone has any other advice on what I can do about this anxiety and sleep.
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You need to see your psychiatrist NOW and have your parents call for you. You have to tell him/her all of this about school, bad sleeping patterns, severe anxiety etc still going on. Then and only then can they help you with adjustments.
The thing is, with medication it's a drag as it takes a long time to find the combination that works. It's not going to happen instantly which I know you're hoping for but will become better.
You NEED that psychiatrist to phone as well as send a letter to your school administrators telling them that you were recently diagnosed with a disorder, are having horrible reactions to medication and need some help and concessions made.
Have him/her point out that it's exhausting and a 5:30 a.m. wake up time for class isn't needed and even though you require the class on your transcript that concessions need to be granted.
For example there's no reason on Earth once they get this note that you can't do the work from home and complete all projects and assignments that way. If they won't allow it phone your school trustee as these people will bend over backwards to help ill students with documented illnesses that affect ability to function at school. If they don't they can be sued and they know it.
Get the doctor in contact for you with a letter and a phone call and I'm sure it will move mountains. Been there, done that so I know it's the answer. I hope you do alright soon with it. i'm here to support you 24/7 if you need further guidance. Just pop me a note on my column.
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dog is throwing up blood (link)
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We're not licensed vets but this isn't at all normal. There could be a variety of health reasons depending on the age of the dog and maybe even if it ate poison accidentally.
Bottom line your dog needs to see a vet. If yours isn't open right now consult the emergency 24hr clinic because your pet obviously sounds in trouble and needs intervention.
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I'm not proud of this, but I only found out recently that in an uncircumcised penis, the foreskin is supposed to slide back during an erection.
My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year and I've never seen this happen with him. And yes, I'm sure he's uncircumcised.
It doesn't appear to impair anything, but still. Is this normal? (link)
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Find out if there is any pain or difficulty moving it back at any other time. If it won't fully retract than there is a problem. The foreskin is probably too tight. All it would need then is an incision called pronounced door-cell slit to loosen it.
If it's cracked and can't be fixed with this method than in some cases a urologist (which he needs to see in both cases) may have no choice but a circumcision.
If the skin isn't ever retracted fully to clean the glans and under there will be a crusty yellow build-up called smegma to deal with.
You need to find out what's going on or have him see a urologist if this problem exists outside of sexual activity.
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how do you write a perfect speech to be middle school president?How do i do the posters? (link)
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The perfect speech will never be written. A speech that gets your ideas across and even a win can. All you need to do is be brutally honest and don't make promises you can't keep.
Show that you are using common sense and being practical unlike your competitors. You have to structure your speech much like you would an essay. Keep it to five or six small paragraphs.
In each one come up with a student's concern and your answer to it, show that you don't make promises you can't keep and that unlike your competitors know that the admin gets the final say in all circumstances. Point that out and that some of the big ideas others present will meet with resistance and or financial issues from the administration.
Show them that you aren't using candy, promises of dances, parties, gimmicks or anything else but common sense and smart decisions to earn their trust. Let them know that those who do that and get elected will disappoint and not be a good leader.
You have to show why you stand out for your leadership and your competitors are using cheap tricks and promises they can't keep to compensate for the lack of leadership or other qualities they don't have. Use what they've said and or promised against them and then like an essay tie it all back to who you are and the main reason you should be elected.
I was VP of student council for 3 of the 4 years I was at school and president for the final year. Nobody wanted to run against me because they knew where I stood, what I did in the past and where my loyalty was and my leadership was unshakable.
As far as posters go don't make them flashy, don't put familiar cartoon characters on them or promises. Put your picture on them list about 5 things you stand for in different colors, BOLD and underlined and a slogan that makes them think.
You slogan should be about your being level-headed and a leader. You can't plagiarize this "Common Sense For A Change." by Mike Harris in his Ontario election or "Common Sense Revolution." but you can use this an aide to create your own based on strong decisions and common sense.
The more you look serious and professional and taking it seriously the more you are apt to win when kids can see past the candy etc. that your competitors are shoveling without ever seeing how they can deliver half of it. Good luck!
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how much does a labradoodle cost (link)
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That's something that will vary by individual breeders and the demand in your city or area for those kind of pups. You'll find that if you investigate it further that the prices will fluctuate breeder by breeder.
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do u ave 2 ave sex 2 use a tampoon (link)
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Nope. They have no connection. People of all ages regardless of virginity can use them to manage menstruation.
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I just recieved my Olevel results via Internet and I got B's in both Math and Biology.
I know how I did and I'm accepting of my grade because I know I did the best I could have. But my parents aren't exactly B accepting people. It's either A or nothing.
Not to mention my sister has completed all A's in her olevels so now their going to say she did it but you couldn't!
I'm scared... I don't know what to say. Not that I can ever get a word in edgeways, they never let you speak..... If I do speak then I'm supposedly arguing.
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You and your sister are two different people and although it was the same level of test/work some people are faster or better at learning it than others. A B is NOTHING to sneeze at and equally as hard as an A is to maintain. Math is hard for some people as is Biology.
Your parents are unreasonable with their policy on As and actually are and can damage your self-esteem or get you so mentally wound up that you're scared to do anything at school.
You should tell your teacher that you're fine with a B, tried hard, and are looking to move forward but that your parents demand all As and it's seriously playing with your self-esteem. They can sit down with them and have it out over why you got Bs and how unreasonable they're being. You can't do that. He/she can.
Be proud that you did your best and continue to do your best at school. If your best isn't As all the time that's okay too so long as you know you tried hard. No matter what your parents say to you NOTHING can change the fact you worked your butt off just as hard for a B as you would an A.
Your sister is a different individual and her achievements have NOTHING to do with yours nor can they truly undermine yours no matter what anyone says. She's just better in those two subjects than you and likewise you do well in certain subjects she can't. Anybody who doesn't comprehend that needs to be set straight by your teacher.
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My friend and I haven't ever hung out outside of school. I am a 16 year old girl and he is a 16 year old boy. We see each other everyday for practice but now we're gonna hang out outside of school and we finally found time and we are hanging out the 21st and 22nd. I am excited to spend this time with him and we are going to be with other people, I am just afraid I might annoy him, I want him to have fun, but he's a shy guy. So, how do I let him get loose and joke around without being annoying to him? (link)
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If he found you to be annoying in any fashion he wouldn't be wanting to hang out with you. Just be your normal self as that's what he's expecting and likes in you.
Allow him to mingle with others a bit while you do the same with the others that are invited. Let him know that you are excited to finally hang out and really wanted him there.
That may help with his shyness. Just act like you normally do towards him and others and crack whatever jokes you choose and all will be fine. Tell him how much you value his friendship as that will go a long way to him being comfortable and opening up.
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My brother whonis now going into 7th grade used
to go to catholic school, it got too expensive and we can't afford it so we took him out and placed him in public. The catholic school won't release his academic records and we can't afford the catholic school we owe them 1000s of dollars. So can they keep him from attending school??! (link)
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There's no legal or other reason for them to withhold his academic records. They should have been sent automatically to any school he chooses to attend regardless of financial issues.
It's up to the current school to obtain his student record. It may take a while but they are supposed to be able to acquire it and may have already without any input or work on your part to do so.
If they refuse to release it have the school handle it for you. After that see a lawyer who can write a threatening letter about legal action that can be taken to the other school as the law says your brother has a right to an education no matter what and where he goes.
Mind you, they may try and get a lawyer to come back at you for the money owed but they have no right at all to hold up his records or delay his entry into another school. Seek legal advice.
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