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freaking out after losing virginity
18F.
So saturday night ..well basically sunday morning at like 4 in the morning I lost my virginity. I've been on birth control for probably 3 years to regulate my period and whatnot..set my alarm every night at 9pm to take it and I do every night. Things were getting hot and heavy and he asked if I wanted to do it. I was ready, so I said yes but asked if he had a condom and he did. It was completely dark, which worries me a bit if he put it on right. The condom stayed on the whole time, I just don't know if it broke or anything. He didn't say it did ..but I don't know if he would tell me it did because he wouldn't want to scare me. After we were done we talked for a bit and I was like you better not get me pregnant or i'll kill you, being serious but in a flirty manor. He said don't worry you're not i promise.
Now I think i'm just freaking myself out. I have this nervous feeling in my stomach and I know I'm doing it to myself because I keep thinking about it and I'm suppose to get my period next thursday and I'm trying to stay calm so I don't get so stressed my period will come late which will freak me out more.
What do you think the chances are I could be pregnant if for some odd reason the condom did break? Or what are the chances at all if i've been on birth control and we used a condom.
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Peeps is pretty incorrect. Condoms are above 90% and when taken like clockwork as you described hormonal birth control is usually pretty much 100% effective. The variance is over a large group not by the individual. Many married couples have unprotected sex with just birth control for years and years and never experience a pregnancy they didn't plan for.
Condoms and birth control together, if the condom did not break it is not possible for you to be pregnant, the percentage is the chance they will break even with proper use, not some mysterious "it only works this percent of the time and you'd never know" number.
Birth control and spermicide is an alternate option some couples choose when there is serious commitment and monagamy. Spermicide and condoms are about even with proper use if babies are your only concern. My wife and I have been doing this for three years and have never even had a serious scare (thank god her period always arrives mostly on schedule).
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it's unlikely that you are pregnant. but i bet EVERY girl thought about getting pregnant when they lost their virginity, it's normal. some of my friends still worry about it even though they're using protection - because obviously it can still happen. but i wouldn't worry about it until it actually happens. you should be fine.
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Short and sweet:
Hormonal birth control pills are about 93% effective on preventing pregnancy when used properly. It sounds, to me, like you use it properly.
Condoms are about 86% effective on preventing pregnancy when used properly. (For the record: According to the US Food and Drug Administration, the usual latex condom is 86 percent effective in keeping a woman from getting pregnant. Uh, which clearly means that it is only about 86% worth of protection.) In all likelihood, it was used relatively right since it did stay on the entire time and he did not mention it breaking or leaking that he was aware of.
No method, none--not even doubled up or using many methods of birth control, is 100% effective on preventing pregnancies. We were made to reproduce. It happens no matter what you do sometimes.
The likelihood of you being pregnant is relatively low though. I wouldn't worry about it at all unless your period is actually late. Then, you should wait 1 entire week and then take a over-the-counter pregnancy test for an accurate read.
For note, nothing you do will protect you from STDs. Condoms are not full effective against disease transmission.
It is probably too early to be showing signs of implantation. Implantation usually takes about 7 days to happen within the womb. Then you hCG (aka pregnancy hormone) levels would go up and you would start noticing signs of nausea, irritability, breast tenderness, etc. Oddly, a lot of those symptoms are that of pre-menstrual syndrome, too, so you have to just wait it out sometimes to see what happens in a few days.
Chances? Low.
I wouldn't say something like "99%" or anything though.
It's definitely not impossible to be pregnant.
But your odds are pretty good that you're not pregnant.
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I know you are 99% not pregnant. I can't tell you how many times I've freaked myself out for NO reason and made it worse than it actually was. My best advice is try not to stress yourself about it too much or it will defiantly make your period come later which will make you more freaked out. Also, if it does come later there are many other reasons why it might now because you just had sex for the first time. That not even being the case and there still being a great chance your period will come normally I wouldn't freak out. You'd know if the condom broke and he would know too. I'm sure he would tell you seeing he doesn't want that to happen either. Even if it did which it didn't you being on birth control make it nearly impossible for you to be pregant, especially if you are not even ovulating. It sometimes takes months for couples to get pregnant when not using any protection. Making the chances slim to none you are using double protection. I'm giving you this advice to not freak out and not even think twice about it because you have NOTHING to be worried about. Because I've been in the same scenario as you and it's normal to make ourselves nervous when there's no reason to :)
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If you have been on BC for 3 years and religiously take your pills on time the chance is pretty remote even if a condom broke. That's the purpose of birth-control to be a backup along with condoms. You should be fine. Don't fret with what-if scenarios as you'll make yourself sick.
Right now the stomach issues you mention are either unrelated or the by-product of your anxiety. Wait until Thursday or the weekend and see if your period comes before freaking out. I'm sure you'll be fine as it sounds like you have protected yourself well and your partner did his part with wearing protection. Trust me, if it broke he would have told you and you would have certainly noticed it happening.
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