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What exactly is an orgasm?
How does it feel?
And What can i do to get one?
Okay well i'm 18/f and i'm not even sure if i ever
gotten an orgasm.
I've only had sex with one guy we dated since i was 15 and have been dating since. We started having sex after six months of going out and we did it at the park cause we had nowhere else to. And afterwards we just had sex and stuff it kinda hurt but felt sort of good.Then we would have sex at his house and stuff and it would feel good but i don't know if i ever had an orgasm. Someone once told me it was like a climax feeling, but i've never felt that. My friend told me she first got hers when her boyfriend went down on her. But i'm traumatized because one time at the park i told my boyfriend to do that and he was about to go down and had one look at my vag and didn't do it:(. My vag is not dirty or anything i always clean it and its not hairy or anything like that. And i always go down on him all the time and i tell him how it's not fair and he never said anything until recently he said he would do that but i think it's just because i bring it up. Is it possible for him not to like the thought of eating a girl out? I mean he loves sex and everything else but i don't know i feel bad i wish he did that. But how can i have an orgasm is that the way to make most girls have an orgasm? how exactly does it feel? And what can i try to have one?
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All it amounts to is a series of involuntary muscle contractions or spasms if you will in the pubic region of varying intensity causing smaller to larger amounts of pleasure. Most women won't experience it through sex alone. For many it takes clitoral stimulation.
As far as your boyfriend goes perhaps he has no clue what to do and that has him stopping or maybe he's insecure about it or has some hang up unrelated to you ie it being messy or something or that he can hurt you or anything irrational. Best thing to do is to either ask him directly about it or refuse him certain things until he reciprocates.
Either way, he'll get it or tell you what's up. As long as you're clean and no sign of infection or smell and are taking care of yourself as you noted than it's with him not you. You have to figure out what's stopping him and I would suspect it's no experience or inexperience or a bad episode with someone else.
Talk to him. You have to communicate on this and sexuality in general especially if you're engaging in such activity. This happening may be a good thing as it forces you to do that.
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And orgasm is the climax of sex. You can't describe what it feels like, and your partner is the one who can get you to have an orgasm. (By being very good at sex)
It is very possible for a guy to not like the thought of eating a girl out. Most guys I know would never even think of doing the deed. Guys think going down on a girl is not like going down on a guy at all. Guys don't find going down on a girl the slightest bit appealing. Even though it seems fair to us girls that if we're going down on them they should return the favor.
As far as having an orgasm, before sex try more foreplay to turn you on so you're more prepared. During sex try different positions, and have your boyfriend go at different speeds.
Hope this helped, Good luck!
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