Hi, what I will address won't mainly be asking for advice, but for the input of the columnists on advicenators on a very controversial issue of morals against faith in the latter of sex.
I know that among some religions that premarital sex is sinful and highly prohibited without any exceptions, but what are your opinions?
I myself am a Catholic-Christan, and believed in the "sex until marriage" thing when I was together with my boyfriend. But as we got to know each other over the years, we got into intellectual conversations about this topic and if it's argument is valid and reasonable. I'm not saying that our relationship prompted a shift in mindset on this issue, but knowing him and being with him for so many years along with witnessing other married couples made me think about this a little more thoroughly.
I started to think about it as I grew older, and I began to feel differently. The divorce rate in the U.S. is at an amazingly high rate, and more couples are breaking it off even after saving the sex until marriage "policy". On some occasions I even think that these breakoffs are due to the quality of the sex. If the sex isn't good, usually lovers leave and commit infidelity. Unless the couple is really committed to one another, they will keep trying to make the sex work out.
The way I think about this scenario now is that I believe that it is acceptable to have sex before marriage, under certain circumstances. Because a couple must establish that intellectual intimate bond with commitment, devotion, loyalty, etc. Even then does that take years to accomplish, and the time spent shows respect to each other that both partners are willing to stick it out this long and wait for each other to take action that is of great importance. Also after all that is done, the relationship goes to the next level in the stage of sex. Having sex before marriage lets the couple know how how much they really love each other and how much they are willing to commit to each other. In a sense it tests us on how much we value sex and what factor it plays in our life. And if we don't pass the test in avoiding adultery, it was never meant to be with that person, so how can a couple get married if sex and passion got the best of them to steer them toward someone else?
To conclude, although you could say I'm going against my religion, it doesn't mean that I don't have faith. A lot of the "rules" that we have to abide by sometimes do seem unreasonable, in order to understand love and all the goodness that it brings, I really don't think marriage is enough to keep someone faithful.
In no ways am I encouraging premarital sex, especially on advicenators with teeny-boppers running around having sex with their semi-erect penises, but what I am saying is that before sex comes commitment, loyalty, devotion, understanding, civility, and vice versa. But I do believe that before marriage comes sex. Why because marriage is the highest level that a couple can go through to show their love toward one another for all of eternity, and how can you reach the highest level without sharing everything of yourself to your soulmate, including your most prized possession?
I apologize if I come off a little bias, but that isn't my intention at all. I'm not promoting anything, nor am I objectifying "sex before marriage." Those couples who are able to succeed through this lifestyle, I admire you, I really do. Especially in a society that is centered around sex nowadays. But I would like to know the opinions of others to better understand this controversial subject.
Thanks and sorry for the long read! I hope to hear a lot of responses!
Well. Is there any real purpose as to why its so sinful besides the fact its been said to be a sin? Think about it. Whats the real reason backing it to make it actually a real point. Who cares. Its your life do what you want.
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When is a good time to tell your boyfriend of a year that the relationship is getting too serious and you're not realy for it?
When its a good time.
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The country that I live in is debating the Death Penalty. I Do not understand the understanding that the death penalty is ok. You are killing someone still aren't you? I realize that the people scentenced are usually murderers and other things along that line. I just want to know both sides of the story. I looked it up on Google and it is not what i am looking for. I want opinions on BOTH side.
Heres the deal.
A killer slaughtered 17 girls after raping them. Dismantling their limbs and such. Later he killed 4 cops trying to arrest him. He lit their bodies on fire.
Murderers are most defanetly people. Murderers are also phsyco's that deserve to die. You dont think that if someone did what i wrote above should still live? Maybe you're just stupid. If you think killers deserve to die. You're very smart and can put things together. An eye for an eye as they say.
A killer deserves to die. What if that killer escapes and is in a prison housed near you? What if that killer walks up to your door rings the doorbell you open it and he does what he did to everyone else to you?
What if he doesnt do it to you, he'll do it to someone else. Death is only deserving of a murderer nothing less.
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well i just became a vegatarian 2 weeks ago and all my friend does is joke about it she even made up a song up about eating meat and this pisses me off and gives me stomache aches and makes me want to burst out and she knoes but i still feel like its rude of her and i hate that feeling .. what can i do ?? .. thnx ... Love, MauraAnN
Make a song about how dumb your friend is.
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I was babysitting at a place over an hour away (I was spending the night there too), and I was charging my cell before I left, and I guess I forgot it was on and charging, so I had left it at home when I left (accidentaly) and it was charging until about noon the next day... maybe later, so if I estimated it would have been from 4p.m to maybe 12:30p.m, not quite 24 hours, but about 3 and a half hours less.
2 questions...
Is it bad to leave you cell on when you're charging (my cell will still charge)
And is it bad to keep it charging for so long (even if it was on accident) Thanks!
No
and
No
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My sister at a young age died of luekemia. I dont really uderstand where she got it from. But lately I've been finding random bruises on my boyd and i know my sister had random bruises and ashe was always tired and im always tired. Is there a possiblity that i could have it too?
Yes, you probably have it. get checked. dont ask stupid teenagers
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Does anyone know of a really easy-to-work digital camera? I've seen digital cameras these days and theres all these different buttons and stuff. I just want something simple and thats easy! Nothing too fancy..any suggestions would be great.
-Sherry
Well they're not all complicated. Even if they look it. Then again i use tech all the time so i understand many things about them helping me out on the learning curve. My sister recently got a digital camera that is pretty nice and a little of the expensive side. However she figured the thing out very fast. I reccomend a canon if you're going to buy a digital camera i've been around those a little more than the others and they are fairly simple to use.
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I have a 5 year old male miniature dacshound. His problem is that he pees inside the house on the carpets when we want him to go pee outside. He is potty trained but still goes to the carpets like he does not care. We smack his bottom whenever he does and sometimes spray a dog and cat sour spray in his mouth to basically tell him "no" but nothing seems to get through his head. If I don't get to controlling his actions soon my parents are seriously considering sending him to the pound. What should I do?
Every time he takes a crap or piss on the carpet if you catch him in the act. Kick him in the side as hard as you can. Dogs are dumb they dont get why they're being sprayed after they did the act, even if you showed them the diareah stained carpet. They're to dumb to put 2 and 2 like that together. Get a shocker collar too. Those will work great.
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for a myspace page, how can u change the font color and make a backround? can someone give me like.. step by step directions?
"no i wont give you head lol"
DAMN! :(
Well it might use a certain code for colors for instance if you want the color blue you do this
[color=blue]Whats up idiots[/color]
Or if you want to put an image
[img]http://www.advicegayness.com/gay[/img]
To get the correct image you have to right click on the picture and go to properties and copy that pictures url link.
Thats just one type of code. I dont know if it will work on a myspace page, for the fact i dont use my space. This code will help however on any forums you happen to go on. If in fact you visit forums.
If that didnt help. You just learned another type of code to use on other sites. Enjoy.
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My best friend is 16 now but she has been getting abused by her dad since she was old enough to walk. I saw him punch her in the face one time and bang her head against a wall. I am really scared for and her sister because I have seen him hit her too. She's asked me not to tell but Im scared that if I keep quiet that one day he might really hurt her. We tryed calling the police on him one time but they wanted to press charges against us and not him. I dont know what I should do and I dont know how I can help her.
The police are dumb shits to want to press charges against them. The dad should be shot. Tell your friend to pack a knife. Next time the dad lashes out and tries to kick her ass hes gunna get a knife to the throat. Its called survival of the fittest. That person is not her dad. Hes a beast. He deserves to be killed. And a knife is the perfect way to have a very painful and sad death.
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Well here is my problem ..
I went out with this guy for like 2 months .. We broke up .. It was b/c of me .. :-( I got so nervous around him .. He'd try to hold my hand and i would shake .. I felt so stupid .. That was almost 7 months ago ..Well I still like him SO much .. But he doesn't know that i still like him .. I think that he has a clue but i haven't confirmed it .. Well one of his friends likes me and i kinda like him .. But i don't get nervous around him .. I want to go out with him but i don't want it to look like i am "using" him to get to the other guy that i still like ALOT .. Any advice would be good !!
Thanks so much ..
Choose one. Thats great advice.
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I have this friend,(E) and every time I turn around, I hear that she was trash talking me!! Well me and my two other friends, (L) and (H), and they keep telling me she was talking trash about me! I have known (E) since 4th grade, and she is my friend so why does everyone tell me she trash talks me?? Who should I believe? I rate high!!!!!
Well when you're friends with someone for a great amount of time and become close. They will feel comfortable to say something slightly wrong because the friendship is much more close and they will say a lot of things that you wouldnt expect your friend of two months to say.
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Me and my friends, (L), (S), and (E) are planning to perform in a lipsync. The song (S) picked out is highly innapropriate!! We all agree except her. We still haven't told her. We don't want to hurt her so what do we do?? I rate high!!!
You tell her shes outta the lip sync.
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i am currently living in africa and i am feeling very very depressed as time goes by. i've been taken from the friends i love and i am slowly going into insainity. we moved cause my mom thought that the rest of the family hated living in texas, which wasnt true at all. i have left the girl i love behind and cant stop thinking about her, and now i am the most lonesome man on earth. i cant make friends here as they are all immature and just plain stupid. every weekend i am cooped up at home because we aren't aloud outside unless we are going to the store, anothre persons house, or skool. i'm am going insain. i need help before this is the last thing anyone hears from me!
Yeah africa is also a pretty crappy place to live in the first place. Watch out for AIDS!!!
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I am not sure what i have but some times when im scared, doing nothing, or exercising my heart beats fast and i can feel the pressure of it and i when that happens i look down at my shirt and you can see my chest vibrating from my heart. Im afraid that this could be serious, either if it is or not i would like to know what it could be and how i can treat it or do things to help it.
thnx to whoever responds.
This is a very seriouse and very dangerouse conditions you ahve.
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Hey I was wondering how do you make a collage(on the computer)? Like with all your pics and stuff. Do I do it on paint? Can anyone give me step by step instructions on how to do it?
no.
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pleas help me i get so mad over the dumbest things like the way my mom talks or when some one chews gum or a sound i dont like i get so mad some people say i need anger manegement or they say i have OCD another thing is i cant stay focused when my teacher says something i just star off in to space or when some one is talking rite to my face i just star off and then i just say really fast what?or huh? and have to ask them to tell me agan because i wasint paying attition my mom nos because i have ben getting low grades im sorry if its so long but i need help!pleas!!!!!!
You're attention problem is mostly likely
Attentino Defecit Disorder or better known as
ADD
You may wanna get that checked by a doctor.
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i have a boyfriend and he nevers calls or any thing with his old girlfriend he would call every day but when i call hes never home and we never hang out with his old girl friend thay would always hang out but his friends say he really likes me but then one only ONE of his friends say he doseint like me wut should i do dose he like me?:(
We dont know. We're not him. But probably not. Leave him.
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can u get kicked off advicenators w/o notice b/c of a perverted question you asked/
No. Why what'd you say.
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On my advice colum, where it says Welcome and then your username .. well is there any way I can change that? Thanks! I rate !
No. I rate tooo!
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