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Hey my names ali i'm 17 from new jersey. i'm usually really fast with advice so ask whatever you want and i'll answer as soon as possible!!
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I have 2 best friends who are leaving me out a lot lately, we used 2 b extremely tighht but now they're bein kinda mean. One of them is very controlling and the other is a follower so the follower follows the controller and they do stuff against me. I really hate it. I always feel like the second choice or the third wheel. What should i do... i rate high!

I had the same problem. What i did was is got other friends basically. I still talk to the 2 other girls, but now when i know they're having a sleepover or whatever i know have other friends to hang out with. It sucks feeling like the second choice, and what happened to me, if one of my "friends" were mad at eachother they would suddenly act like i existed. It sucks feeling that way. You don't need to totally forget about them, but look for other people to hang out with! Maybe sit down with different people in lunch or something, get to know someone else! &maybe they might get jealous and start including you more..hope it works out!
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I'm 15 years old & have been with my boyfriend for a few months. He's not a virgin and he's done sexual things with many girls. He told me he was ready to have sex whenever I was. I feel like I don't live up to his old girlfriends and that I'm such a good girl - being a virgin & unexperienced. I'm a little scared to have sex but when will I know I'm totally ready and mature enough to do it? Is it that wrong to not be sexually experienced at 15?

You should have sex whenever you feel comfortable and ready for it. It doesn't matter if you dont live up to your boyfriends 'old girlfriends' and he should care for you not just because ur sleeping with him. You'll know your ready to do it when u feel like you can handle all the responsibilities of sex. There are the emotional ties and the worries of an STD or unplanned pregancy. You must be willing and ready or sex is not what its supposed to be. It's not wrong to be sexualy experienced at 15. Do what you feel comfortable with.
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im a freshman going into catholic highschool. we normally have to wear uniforms, but we have orientation on sept 1 and we can wear our own clothes. they said they have to be "dressy/casual" yet approriate, like no skin showing and whatnot. does dressy/casual mean that you should wear nice pants, or can you wear jeans? and im into REALLY standing out, i like wearing stripes, polka dots, bold bright colors, jewelry, bows... what do you think i should wear on that day... without being "inappropriate"?

Dressy/Casual is not jeans! Sorry hun! You should wear a skirt, black pants, or khakis. If you wear a skirt, i'd assume it would have to be knee length. Wear a nice, flattering top. If you wear the black or khaki pants, go strips or polka dots. You can wear jewlery, juss dont wear a lot of something thats gaudy. Uniforms are awesome though, they are flattering on every body shape, and u wont have to worry about buying clothes and ur popularity status depending on your clothes. I wish we had uniforms at my school. Good Lucky at your new school!
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Hey Does anyone know how to get rid of dark circles under the eyes. I want to know about stuff that i can make at home. Or something that i can buy that doesnt cost too much

Any kind of concealor will work. Try using & then a powder over it. This should minimize the appearance of the circles.
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hey im having a really hard time finding a good quote for my school year book....i really want one from a famous person! so if u couls help me out that would be great!

i don't know if your into tupac or not..but he has some really great quotes and im using one for my yearbook this year. some of his are:
"Reality is wrong. Dreams are for real."
"The only thing that comes to a sleeping man is dreams."
"My Mama used to tell me if u can't find somethin to live for, you best find somethin to die for"
"Life's a wheel of fortune and it's my chance to spin it."

some others i like are:
"The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams" Elenor Roosevelt
"Winning isn't everything, but wanting to win is" Unknown
"If you want your dreams to come true, the first thing you have to do is wake up" Unknown

if you don't like any of those you can just ask and i'll look for more! hope i helped!
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hey guys! does anyone have any really cute unique babie names for (both boy and girl) that you like/kno of?! i need help thinkin of some very cute ones for my sister-in-law! i'm going to be a aunt! please answer quick.. ill rate high! :)

Girl names::
Chloe, Angelique, Bianca, Claudia, Daphne, Desiree, Sheridan, Gwen, Kendall, Mickayla, Myra, Paige, Zoe, Leslie, Kelsey.

Boys names::
Aidan, Ryder, Cameron (can go either way tho), Cooper, Dylan, Harrison, Julian, Trevor, Preston, Logan, Nathan, Mason, Bryce, Colby.

hope i helped! ask me if u want more names/any other advice.
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This might sound a lil weird.. but im 15 and i was wondering when is the best age to start having sex?

There's no right age to have sex. You can start having sex whenever you feel ready to have sex. If you want to have sex tomorrow, and are ready for the emotional issues and resposibilities, go for it. You decide when your own right age is.
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whats do most guys perfer a shaved or hairy vagina? im 17 very curious

Most guys like shaved..
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ok well my boyfriend wants to have like alot of sex you know and I'm not ready for that yet but once he pushed me when I said no and he yelled at me and just left I don't know why but I'm scared to say no to him and I'm doing sumthing with him tonight I need serious help

No one can pressure you into doing something you dont wanna do! He cant make you have sex with him & if he is pressuring you that much, you should dump him. Always say no if your uncomfortable/not ready. Some guys just suck and u deserve better then a guy who pressures you into doing things that your not ready for.
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wats a finger n a head mean??

Fingering is where a guy uses his fingers to sexually pleasure a girl. AKA stick his fingers into her vagaina to simulate what sex would be like.
Head is where a girl sucks a guys penis.
That's basically it. If you have any other questions, ask!
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i really like this boy and i kinda think he likes me cuz one day he told his bestfreind that he kissed me(which was true but wen we were like 8 n now were 14). but im kinda big and so is he xept hes big cause he plays football..neway..skools comin up soon n i was thinkin bout askin him out but i wanted to no if there was any way i could see if he liked me first..thanx!

Maybe you could ask him if he likes you, or have one of your friends ask for you! Have one of your friends IM him (if you don't have IM, call him?) and ask him! Hope i helped!
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is 135lbs at 5' 3" fat 4 a 14yr old grl?

Nope! If you're comfortable with yourself, thats all that matters! If you're not, you should go on a diet and excersize! Just cut out all the fatty foods!
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I have light blue eyes and blonde hair and mediam skin ... what is the best type of make up for me ... eyes, blush, etc .. THANKS

Ok hun, here are some tips, you can use them exactly or in the broad sense:

Blush: I'd go for a pinky color thats a kinda darker. A light pink mite slightly wash you out, so a darker pinkish/peachish would work. Color EX: Covergirl blush: Rose Silk (Found in any drug store)


Eyes:
-Shadow- >I'd go for browns and goldy shimmer colors especially for daily use. Use a light shimmer color all over your lid and then use a darker brown for the crease of your eye. use a brush (can buy them in drug stores) and only use the dark color in crease
EX: Covergirl, Cafe Au Lait - 3 colors, use the lightest one for all over and either of the 2 others for the crease depending on the effect you want.
-Liner- > Line top and bottom for a dramatic look. Use a twist up eyeliner for a good long wear and its easiest 2 apply. i personally love pencils, and when using a pencil, run it through a flame of a match or lighter to make it glide on easier
EX: clinque is awesome, but you can get any kind (covergirl, lancome, revlon) of twist ups in any drug store. for pencil i STRONGLY RECOMEND: revlon wet dry eyeliner -- it works better the the sephora brand but it tends to be like 5 - 6 dollars.
-Mascara- > Read the labels! If you want volume get a volumizing one. If you want length, get a lengthening one. Try one with a primer and then the mascara.
EX: Volume XXL maybeline(i think) or the revlon one with the primer and the macscar (I forget the name)

I hope this can help you! if you have any other makeup issues, ask me!
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okay i was supposed to get my period on friday and it's now monday... i've never been late before could it be the stress of going back to school or something? because i'm a little freaked out that something might be wrong

The only reason you should be worrying about this is if you had unprotected sex recently. Other then that, it could be stress, a change in diet, or just your bodys natural cycle changing. Don't worry about it!
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But I have been getting this dishcharge for over a year and why havent I started yet??

Well, every girls body is different. Some girls only get discharge for a month while others have it for a year or more. Do not be worried that you dont have your period! The only time you should be worried is if you are 16 and you havent gotten it yet. If you still feel upset about it, you should talk to your doctor about your discharge. He/She could probably explain it better then I can. hope this helps you!
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i think i might have a crush on my best frineds boyfriend but u dnt wanna say anything but wut should i do?

Keep it to yourself. You have to think: would you rather have a boyfriend and loose your best friend? I know its hard, but you can't act up on it!
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ok well i went out with this guy for like a year, but the down part were went out off and on, like we broke up 10 times...stupid i no....but like every time i talk to him, i start to like him again, but i dont want to go back out....i dunno what to do...HELP!

I had the same problem..the best thing to do is (unless you guys are like really good friends) is just to stop talking to him in general. It sounds bad, but it helps a lot. Like on IM, even when i'd see his screen name i would get feelings again. So yeah i just blocked him and basically forgot about him. If you are good friends with him or want to be, just try to forget about him. Maybe look for a new boyfriend or something. Hope i helped!
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the guy i am interested in told me that the only way he would consider going out with me is if i have sex with him 1st. i like this guy but i am a virgin i just dont know if it is worth it. what shoul i do? :(

Don't do anything before your comfortable with it. If you dont wanna have sex, don't. If you do, go for it. This guy is a loser for even pressuring you into having sex with him. A guy like that is not even worth your time. I'd say, move on and find someone else whos actually worth your time.
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my parents only gave me 100 dollars to spend for school clothes. and i really need both pants and shirts any ideas on how to get alot of the stuff i want for that price. thx. much appreciated!!

Hmm 100 dollars isn't that much, but you probably want to look in sales! Charlotte Russe was having a good sale when i went today, i got a top for 6.99. check target and department stores too! You could also try to ask your parents to give you some more money, if not try to get some like babysitting and stuff. Hope i helped!
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if someone asked u if u evr had an orgasm , and u hav . wuld it b weird to say yes? wuld they like make fun of u or sumthing.

No! Orgamns are the best part of sex. Guys like to heard that you've orgasmed. It makes them feel like they have done their duty. Sex is no fun without an orgasm. Say yes! No one will make fun of you! They'd probably make fun of u (if at all) if u hadn't orgasmed. And it probably wouldnt even be considered making fun of.
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