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Q: Okay, I'll try to make this short. I've liked this guy for months and one day in math I got a question right and he started going on and on about how smart I was. Then another day in S.S, I graded his test and he didn't study and he got a 92. Then he held out his arms and said give me a hug, so I hugged him. Then in Language, he was talking and looking at me a lot more than usual.
13/f
to me, it seems like he does. if not, at least he's interested, because he's flirting with you. try talking to him more. :)

Q: i'm really shy and i have been for like ever.

i'm always known as just the "shy one" and i'm really sick of it. im not shy in front of people im comfortable around and people that im frends with, but im shy around big groups of people and just cant get over it!

i really wana b outgoing and everything even in front of people i dont really know and in front of large groups, but how?

please helpp!!!
Don't worry about what other people think of you. don't think about if everyone will agree with something you say, or waht they'll think of it. just be yourself, let loose and act as though you're with people you're comfortable with

Q: I've liked this guy who's in my grade for a few months now, and it doesn't feel like it's going to go away anytime soon. I feel like he would never like me back because he's pretty hot and I'm...not. I feel like I act like a bitch around him, but my friends tell me I don't. He sorta acts like he likes me, but I'm not sure. He lives kinda far away, so even if he does, what do I do? Here are the reasons why he may like me:

-He stares at me. He looks away when I look at him.
-He says really random things to me out of nowhere that have nothing to do with anything. I don't know if he does that to other girls or not.
-He seems to touch me randomly. He'll poke me, or one time he was complimenting my voice and he slapped me on the back.

I don't know if I'm imagining these things, or if he's just trying to be friendly. Help!
It seems like he's flirting with you, but im sorry to say that doesn't neccesary mean he likes you. don't put yourself down - if YOU believe that he's way out of your league, he'll believe it to. start thinking about all the GOOD things you had and why that would make a guy want to be with you. anyway, if he's flirting with you, that means he must find you attractive in some way. try to talk to him more and put yourself out there. develop your friendship (+flirting) so that you have a stronger bond. suggest things, like, "I really want to see this movee .. " and if he says, "Yah, me too" suggest that you should go together. all in all, take a chance & put yourself out there. something good mmight come out of it :)

Q: sorry dont know what catagory this was. this is kind of embarssing. im a 13/f. i've been on my period for 2 years. and after first period was over i took off my pad and in a couple of hours i'd have moist on my underwear. i dont think its pee. so i keep a pad on all the time. i have to buy pads all the time. i told my mom once. she said it was ok. but please help i cant keep buying more pads all the time. sorry its kind of a gross quesion.
The moist stuff on your underwear is discharge. Most everyone gets it, and some girls get it more than others. You don't have to wear pads all the time. Try just panty liners - they're thinner.

Q: i think my friend is a lesbian. what should i do without her getting mad at me?
Don't jump to conclusions - how embarassing would it be if you accused her of being a lesbian & you were wrong? instead, try to find out FOR SURE if she's a lesbian. after you know, and you're okay with it (you may be a little uncomfortable, but she's your friend, and just because she's a lesbian doesn't make her a different person.) talk to her & let her know that you ARE okay with it, and nothing will change between you guys. [if thats how you feel!]

Q: 13/f
1.hey! I'm having a surprized birthday party for my friend(lets call him bob-13/m). our birthday's are on the same day so i kinda feel left out but i REALLY want to do this for him does anyone know how to get over my jealousy?

2.what games should we play or what should we do?

3. My friend(lets call her ann) doesnt like my other friend Lynn. I want to invite both but i dont want drama! Ann is one of those ppl who freak out on ppl so im kinda scared to NOT invite her. and Lynn is a REALLY nice person but she has a knack for braging and thats why alot of people dont like her. but i do. does anyone know what i can do about this problem?

I SWEAR ILL RATE 5'S FOR EFFORT!
1. it's really nice of you to throw a surprise birthday party for your friend. to get over your jealousy, just remember that its still YOUR birthday, but this part of the day [the party] is HIS time to shine. you'll have plenty of time for your time to shine, && im sure people will still say to you, "Happy Birthday". or, you could always do it the day before or after his birthday not on the exact day so you won't feel like your special day is not what you'd want it to be.

2. you should have music so people can dance, thats what most people do at parties. or just chilling and talking, if you have like a foozeball table or pool table you could play that, too.

3. i would just invite both of them. it's not fair to you or "Joe" (who your throwing the party for) to not just because they don't lie each other. there will be enough people there that they don't have to hang out with each other - and if they start to cause drama, explain to them nicely that you want this to be a happy expierence for Joee and to please not start anything

Q: Ok, so i like this guy whom i think likes me too. but, the only problem is, i'm taller than him! and i think that is really getting to him and he's not acting himself b/c whenever we walk down the hallway he always has to look up to see me and i can tell he really doesn't like it. but it's not a big height difference, i'm 5'2 and he's like 5 foot. what should i do?
Your right, 2 inches isn't a big height difference. Also, I think alot of girls would be taller than him. You can talk to him, and ask him if the height difference bothers him. [btw, a "secure" guy wouldn't let this get to him :)] tell him that it doesn't make him any less "manly", and that if it doesn't bother you, it shouldnt bother him. if others make fun of him, its just because they are jealous &/or insecure about themselvse!!

Q: how do i nicely tell my guy friend that the girl he has a crush on doesn't like him in that way, without hurting his feelings?
You could say that that girl just wants to be single right now, that she just wants to be friends w/ him, she doesnt wanna have a relationship because summers coming soon, or she doesnt want to ruin their friendship by going out, etc. etc.

Or, if you want to be completley honest, you could tell him that the girl doesn't have romantic feelings for him, but that he's a great guy & anyone would be lucky to have him.

& make sure you're there for him if he feels down afterward. Let him know that you're there.

Q: ok so in music today my teacher, ms. meyer was like "i dont want anyone writing on music stands its vandalism its against the law.." and blah blah blah she gave us a whole lecture. and it seemed so like important. and then i thought of how during plays backstage or during play practices, kids write all over the wall with permanent marker and everything, i mean ALL OVER. i dont know why but i reaaaally felt i needed to tell the teacher, im usually not a "tattle tale". so she's like ok i'll find out who the people who did it are and approach them. then, heres the worst part. before lunch my friend looked like she was about to cry and im like whats wrong kate? and she's like "ms. meyer is going to kill me! she just found out about how people sign on the wall and she's going to yell at me when she finds out i was one of the people who did it and give me detention!" what should i do?? help!!!
Don't worry. First of all, your teacher probably won't tell everyone who told her. And if you can't bear the guilt, or somehow your friend Kate finds out, just say that you weren't really thinking that it would affect her, you didn't mean to get her in trouble, & then explain that the teacher sounded like it was really important so you felt guilty [even if you didn't] and you told her.

And believe it or not, detentions AREN'T that big of a deal, and they aren't the end of the world. A lot of "good" kids get them.

So if your friend finds out you told/you tell her you told, just make sure she knows you didn't mean to get her in troublee. If shes a good friend, shell understand.

Q: i want to go with my friend (hes a guy, im a girl) to our dance at the end of they year. alot of poeple have dates already. but he's already going with my sort-of friend. i really want to go with him though!!! anyone have any ideas on how to get him to go with me?
you should pay him to go with you and kidnap your "sort-of" friend and put her in the closet during the dance.

haha just kiddingg MARISSA LEE ANN T.

Q: wat stores in the mall sell abercrombie shirts? or where else can i find them besides on the internet?



thank youu
Abercrombie & Fitch
Abercrombie Kids
.. those are the abercrombie stores

Q: I asked my brother what 1st, 2nd, and 3rd base was but he said to ask someone else. I'm guessing it's not the most conversational thing to talk about. What are those things though?
it varies, but here is what me and my friends say.

1st - making out, kissing, frenching.
2nd - touching the girl's boobs.
3rd - giving a guy head, fingering the girl, oral sex.
4th [home] - sexual intercourse.

it depends though. some people have different definitions for it.

Q: Hey. Well, I'm 13/f and African-American...if that helps any bit. I have an outie belly button, but it isn't a big one-it's average sized, like kind of small-medium. I was wondering if that would look good in a bikini or 2-piece bathing suit. Thanks a bunch!
i think it would look fine. no ones going to notice it, plenty of people have outie belly buttons, and they don't look any different in biknis or two pieces then people with innies in my opinion. my friend has an outtie & wears bikinis all the time, and its not even noticable! if you want to, go for it! hope i helped you

Q: ok so i ahve a lot of zits and pimples on my face and i dont no at i should do i have already tried proactiv and alot of other stuuf wat should i do
wash your face at the beginning & end of each day - with regular soap, proactiv, whatever. dont touch your face with your fingers alot because your fingers have grease on them and stuff. also, chocolate, soda, and other foods cause pimples so eat more healthy - fruits, veggies, etc.

Q: What is a hymen? How does it break? Do you bleed the first time you have sex?
it doesn't just break the first time you have sex, but when it breaks you do bleed. a lot of girls' hymens can break when they ride a bike, put a tampon in, etc. it will bleed the first time you have sex if you haven't broken your hymen yett. that's why it's called "popping your cherry"

Q: ok this might sound a bit werid but i dont have a big behind. im not completely flat however, i do have a lil something but not much. i was just wondering if there were any types of jeans/pants i can wear that might accentuate my stuff. lol.
thanks a bunch

X0 EM
jeans with pockets w/ buttons on the back are supposed to make your butt look bigger. =]

Q: I'm going to a Kelly Clarkson concert in July. It's going to be hot. I have no clue what to waer though, I have been to liek 7 concerts but I don't know what to wear to this one. Any suggestions?
Hello Marissa.
wear nothing.

Q: ok well im a 13 year old girl and my stomach and back has dark hair how do i lighten it? and i dont want to shave it because then it will just grow back darker
i rate really high
yah, i know people with this problem. don't shave it because it will grow back darker & thicker like you said. you could try waxing it, [professionally or you could try Sally Hansen Spa Wax Kit. it was in Seventeen as a best product.] also, you could use a lotion that melts away hair, like Nair Cucumbre Melon Lotion for body [also in seventeen magazine]. you could also bleachh it.

Q: Is losing your virginity on prom night the worst thing ever??

cause me and my boyfriend are staying in a hotel with his bro and my best friend... but with 2 rooms?

Im a good virgin but i love my boyfriend... and i dunno if im ready...
i would say do whatever YOU want to do. don't go farther then what YOU feel comfortable with. some people think loosing your virginity on prom night is bad because it's what your expected to do or whateverr. but don't care about what other people think .. do what YOU want to do. if your not comfortable loosing your virginity, then DON'T. if you & your boyfriend are serious enough to have sex, your serious enough for you to be able to talk about it and say, "im just not ready yet." also .. dont feel pressure because of his brother & your best friend are doing something. above all just do whatever you feel comfortable with. and think of the consequences when having sex .. getting pregnant, STD, etc.

Q: does proactive really work? im asian and my skin is kinda oily.. soo do you think it might work? i know its different for everyone but i dont know
Most people that I know that have tried it, it has worked really well on them. some of them used to have a lot of blemishes and now have really cleared up. however a lot of them still do have blemishes and stuff. for most people i know that have tried it, it didn't completley clear their face up! but it does make it a lot better.

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