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I'm just an average person. I love to help people out :) it makes me feel better about myself. I've been in a lot of situations so I can most likely relate to a lot of your problems. I know what it feels like to not have anyone to talk to about your problems, which is why i'm an advicenator. I'm ready to help people and be there for everyone who needs advice or just a companion to speak out to. I'm always here if you need me, don't hesitate to drop a question or even just a vent/rant note about a problem to my advice column inbox. I respond to all of them regardless of the topic. I'm upfront and abrupt about my answers and never sugarcoat. Take my advice or not, but i'm just doing my job :)Played volleyball for over 10 years, also a coach. I love to try new things. Currently I'm trying the new sport of tennis and learning about my passion of photography.
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im 16 and scared to death to open my mouth that i cut myself about 3 different times .. i still hav cuts on my wristbut there not that bad ... do i still have to tell them i havent did it in like 2 mouths but i think about it sometimes.. i still cry myself to sleep .. i took pills to try to goto sleep forever but they didnt work ... do i tell them or not .. i think im ok now tho
yes tell them.
if you really want help, talk to somebody about it.
I don't know what issues you're dealing with in your life.. I remember being 16 and having a lot of problems too. I remember thinking that it was the end of the world when the guy I liked broke up with me. Being a teenager is hard. But thats no excuse for you to cut yourself and treat yourself this badly. Don't you want to feel good?? don't you want to be happy? don't you want to stop crying and stop being so unhappy? Well then pick yourself off your feet and start facing the world and better yourself. You won't better yourself by cutting yourself or not doing anything.. You better yourself by talking to someone you trust about your personal problems. Then you try to fix those problems and then learn from them and grow from it.
Like i said, i'm not sure what you're dealing with. But i'm almost always on advicenators so if you'd like to inbox me with any questions, i'll answer them and help you.
well about 3 weeks ago my friends held me down so this guy could kiss me i said no because i liked some one already and he kissed me anyways he told my friends he really liked me but then later he told one of them that it was because he liked me and because he wanted to get back at his ex and to top it off the guy i like saw and wont talk to me and got a girlfriend but he said he was going to ask me out but he saw me and this guy kissing and thaT ...... was my first kiss :(
aww I'm so sorry to hear that :( Your first kiss shouldn't be like that AT ALL. it should be special and with someone you like!
Well unfortunately.. there's nothing you can really do. What's done is done. You can try talking to the guy you like and explaining to him what happened and how much you like him.. but just keep in mind that he has a girlfriend now. So you don't want to start more drama by getting them to break up or whatever. Just explain to him what happened and then leave the situation alone. If it is mean't to be, then it will happen the right way.
I'm sorry again. Just ignore what happened and continue to live your life :)
awww , thank you sooooo much for that advice. everything you said there is sooo true. is true i think i just need to give him his own space because we do spend time together :D
you're very welcome :) and if you need any more help with anything, don't hesitate to inbox me again :)
Hi, I'm Gracie and I'm 13 and I noticed that whenever I'm done crying I get really sleepy and a awful headache. Why? And why do my eyes get red and puffyish?
I can explain why you might be getting headaches.. its because tears are pretty much salt water coming out of your tear ducts. Its almost like sweating.. water is coming out of you. Therefore, you need to make up for all of the water coming out and you need to take in the same amount. Meaning, if you don't drink enough water (especially if you cry or sweat) then you get dehydrated, which causes dizziness and causes headaches.
So after you've cried for a while, it helps if you drink a glass of water or 2.
You might get sleepy because (like the other person said) you're using a lot of energy to cry. When you're done crying, you might realize that you'll sigh and its just exhausting.. almost like working out and then being super tired afterwards.
Everyones eyes get red and puffy after crying for a long time. I'm not sure WHY it happens... but its normal :) If you want to reduce the puffiness, take a washcloth and run it under cold water and hold it over your eyes for a few minutes to make the swelling go down. As for the redness, there's eye drops at a regular pharmacy store that is meant to reduce redness. I've used them and the redness goes away within 5-10 minutes.
I'm sorry for whatever you're crying about.. i'm here for you if you want to talk about it :/ Just inbox me and i'll answer!
im 13/f and i really wanna know what the styles are for summer this year for teens thanks!
leather is really "in" right now. Leather bags, leather jackets, leather shoes etc.
feathers are also super popular. feather earrings, feather necklaces, feather hair extensions, hats with feathers in them etc.
Coral and Turquoise are popular colors that I see a lot of stores carry this summer.
Scarves are very popular too.
Look at teen magazines to get more ideas :)
So right now I have my period and I have REALLY bad cramps!!!!!!! Is there anything I could eat or do to make the pain go away so I can sleep??!???!!!!!
-Thanks!
What works for me is taking a heating pad and putting it on my stomach. The heat helps ease the pain a little. Also, take Ibuprofen or advil. I usually take 2. But if they are super bad, then i'll take 3. Try drinking some warm milk and eat a banana. Try laying down on your side and in the fetal position (curl up in a ball) and put a pillow in between your stomach and legs.
Besides that, there's not much you can do. I used to have REALLY bad cramps, like sometimes I would throw up or faint because they were so bad, but I got on birth control and it really helps soooo much. So if you are sick and tired of having cramps all the time, try getting on birth control. It is awesome because you know exactly what day your period will come, it reduces cramps, it reduces blood flow (mine used to be heavy but now its really light), and it also helps with stuff like acne, mood swings etc. Plus its also "birth control" meaning if you're sexually active then its really important.
Good luck and hope you feel better!
how do i prove to someone i want to be with them and show her shes evrythin ive ever wanted when shes with someone else?
you just gotta speak from your heart. Tell her how much she means to you, how you would do everything and anything for her. OR something like- i think more about you than myself. I would take care of you forever and i'm always worried about you and wondering if you're safe. i'm so protective of you because i love you. You could say something cheesey like- i cant eat or sleep because all i do is think about you. Or say something like- every little thing reminds me of you. i miss you.
Just be honest and if its meant to be, then it will happen :)
I need dorm bedding! I've been searching high and low for the perfect bedding, and its been very difficult. I've looked on the popular store websites and the stuff is either too immature for my tastes or too expensive.
The bedding has to fit a Twin XL bed and I don't want to spend over $250. I would really love a blue/brown combination or just something thats really stylish but not too bright or obnoxious (like tye dye or crazy zebra stripes)
If you have ANY suggestions, I would really appreciate it! Thanks SO much!
I just ordered my bedding from this website
http://www.rhl.org/store/ShopBy/Bedding/--Reversible-Comforter
You can either buy things separately, or buy them in a package. I got the Comfort Pak and its only 170 dollars for a bunch of stuff :)
The bedding comes in a lot of colors and designs. you can pick your own colors.
My mom told me that if you let someone play with your boobs, that the tingling feelig keeps them from growing. Is this true?
14/f
no hahaha.. if anything it makes them bigger because when you play with them, it stimulates the blood circulation and causes some growth.
I think your mom was just saying that to scare you away from the boys ;) hahaha my mom has said stuff like this too :)
hey :) I'm sorry if this is too long. I just need some advice. Thanks.
I hadn't seen my boyfriend since last Sunday. He told me to go to his house today and i went. I went at 6pm. we stayed there having a good time. Then his friend came over. After an hour passed his friend said he had to go to the park to be with his friends which are girls too. My boyfriend told me he was going to walk me so he told his friend to go with him. I felt very disappointed at this because i went to be with him but he decided to go to the park and just stay stay with his friends. When they were walking me my boyfriend friend turned in a street and he called him and told him to walk me to my house because he was going to the park with him too. I really don't know what to think. He pulled me over and he asked why am i mad, i told him i was okay. He said he wanted to be cool with me not arguing then he asked for a kiss and whatever i gave it to him and then left to my friends house because at least she had time for me. I really love him but i don't know what to do :( I'm just disappointed.
Hey
So I read your question, and let me get this straight. You went over to his house, but his friend came too. His friend told your boyfriend to come to the park with his other friends. Your boyfriend walked you home and then left to go to the park? is that correct?
Well it sounds like to me, you just really want to spend alone time with your boyfriend. There is nothing wrong with that. I completely understand.
But let me say this, there's nothing wrong with him wanting to spend time with his other friends too.
So in your question, nobody is at fault here. It was just a little misunderstanding. He wanted to spend time with his friends, but you just wanted to spend time with him.
Let me point out a problem you have. You weren't honest with your boyfriend. He asked you why you were mad, and instead of being honest with him and talking to him about you, you refused to tell him and lied and said everything was ok.. but obviously it wasn't. So next time he asks what's wrong, I suggest you tell the truth and talk to him about it. The only way to solve your problems with him is to communicate with him about the problems. Problems won't fix themselves.. you both need to fix them.
So now, you should call him and meet up with him in person and tell him how you really feel. Speak from your heart. Tell him you were upset that night because you were hoping to spend alone time with him, and you were disappointed when he decided to meet with his other friends too.
But let me warn you.. you need to let him spend time with his other friends too. You can't hog him up. How would you feel if he got upset at you everytime you tried to hang out with your friends? Sometimes its okay if you guys hang out with other friends separately. Or if you don't want to spend time separately, ask him if you can tag along and meet his other friends. There's a certain point when you need to give him some space and let him be with his friends, and he needs to let you be with your friends. Then after a little space, then you need to have alone time together.
Try planning a surprise for him, make him dinner, go out to dinner, see a movie, go on a picnic, stargaze, go sightseeing, biking etc. That will give you 2 the alone time you need :)
Inbox me if you need any more help :)
Hello,
my name is Kailey and i am a 17 year old female. My problem i have is my Labia is alot bigger than it used to be, it is gross to me. i have no idea why it is this way. but it is making me not to want ot have sex with my boyfriend. i know guys make fun of them and to know that i am one of those girls they make fun of... makes me very depressed.
Hi Kailey :)
Being 17, you still might be going through puberty. I'm 18 and my boobs are only a A/B cup size.. so you're not the only one who is still going through body changes.
I know you've probably heard the cliche speech on how everybody comes in different shapes and sizes. But it is true. Your body is who you are. There's only 1 of you.. unless you're a twin, but even then your body is a unique thing. There are no 2 body's that are alike. yeah they might be the same height and shape.. but there are little characteristics about your body that are completely unique and that nobody else would have.
I know you've probably heard that other cliche that goes like- just be yourself and people will love you for who you are. Well thats true too :) If guys want to make fun of you because of how your body looks.. then they are not worth your time at all. Think about it this way- if they make fun of your labia.. imagine what else they could be making fun of... why would they just pick 1 thing to make fun of?? Guys like that aren't worth anybody's time. Unfortunately, teenage boys can just be horrible. The way I see it, why would I want to be around people who are going to judge me based on something I can't control (like the size of my labia)? You can't control the size of your labia.. you might as well get used to it.
Have you ever read Seventeen magazine?? Well one time I was reading an article in it, and it was all about how you should embrace your features, instead of hiding behind them and being ashamed of them.
I have a gap in between my 2 front teeth. Its not huge, but its noticable up close. I used to absolutely hate it. I would always ask my parents to take me to the dentist so he could fix it.. but my parents said no. As I grew up, I realized I should just get used to it. After I read that Seventeen article, I realized that instead of being ashamed of my body, I should be proud of it. Now whenever I take a picture of myself, I smile really big because I want the world to see my gap between my teeth :) I love it because it makes me unique :)
I know my teeth and your labia are completely different things haha.. but my point i'm trying to make is.. don't hide who you are. Embrace it. Some guys think big labias are gross.. well then just stay away from those guys because they aren't right for you if they make fun of you. Some guys absolutely love it, well there ya go :) Just be yourself and if a guy comes along and doesn't like it, keep your head high and just tell him to kiss your ass because its who you are and you can't change it.
Oh one more thing. I play volleyball and have to wear tight spandex.. well I have a cameltoe. I think its hideous and I always wear pantyliners to hide it. but my boyfriend absolutely loves the cameltoe :) now I'm starting to embrace it because I know he loves it and it makes me feel better about myself :)
Be proud of who you are. Labias are part of the girl package. You can't get rid of them, so embrace it :)
If you need anymore help, don't be afraid to ask me. I'll be here for you :)
He texted me back 5 min later saying he was down :) thanks again!
awhh see? there ya go! haha :) congrats i'm proud of you! You're welcome :)
Don't hesitate to let me know if you've got other questions on your mind now or later :)
so i've been crushing on this guy, and he has dated 2 girls since i've known him, they are both GORGEOUS. he is a christian, and an awesome kid....
sooo he asked me if i wanted to go to lunch with him, so we went and he paid for my lunch - we talked about everything (even his ex) and we don't even know each other that well. then he said "i don't usually go out alone with just a girl" talking about some girl that was trying to get alone time with him. and he was like, "but you... i've known you, so it's different." anyways, i loved talking to him anddd later that evening, he posted lyrics from a country song "yeah that came out a little country, but every word was right on the money" and he has NEVER posted song lyrics before on facebook. am i looking too much into this ? haha . was this a date?
I'm not sure if he likes you.. but he's showing interest.
The only way to truly know is to talk to him and find out in person. you don't have like interrogate him or anything haha. Just tell him he's a great guy and you really like him. and then see what he says. If he doesn't say anything about you, then just be like- what do you think of me? or am I great friend?
It also might take some time for him to warm up to you and express how he feels around you. so be patient :)
lastnight i had a dream of my ex boyfriend. just me and him were hanging out in my room (as friends) with nothing sexual going on. we were play fighting and just talking about funny things. it felt so real, and it made me miss him alot more.
i never got to see his face much in the dream, but i heard and recognized his voice, so i knew it was him. i'm trying hard to get over him but all i want is to be with him again.
why am i having dreams of him?
my guess is that you're not miss HIM... but you're missing the memories you 2 shared.
Put it this way, if you could erase the past, forget about all the memories you 2 have had.. would you date this guy? Pretend like you have no clue who he really is. you don't know his personality or anything. Would you date him?
Perhaps I could be wrong though.. maybe you really do miss him. Dreams have meanings. Maybe you're having these dreams because you really do miss him.
Try talking to him again and see where things go from there. Maybe you still miss him, or maybe you won't feel anything anymore. The only way to know how you feel about him, is to talk to him about it. In person.
Hey
I don't know what to do. On the 20th of June me and my fiancee had unprotected sex. Now I have not seen my periods. Can I be pregnant?
if you missed your periods, then yeah you could be prego.
the only way to know for sure is to take a pregnancy test. If you want better results, go to Planned Parenthood because they do pregnancy tests and then you can talk to a doctor/nurse about what to do after that.
If you have unprotected sex without any form of birth control (condoms, the pill, patch, shot, etc) then take PLAN B. Its available at most pharmacy stores and its over the counter. It costs about 40 dollars. You have to take it within 72 hours of unprotected sex and it reduces the chance of pregnancy by 70%.
If you and your fiancee aren't planning on having a baby any time soon, I would suggest using birth control. Go to planned parenthood and get some. Depending on your income, the prices vary. I don't have any personal income so I got mine for free, they also gave me 2 packs of Plan B just in case :)
Be safe or Be sorry.
so,i met this guy & i've been talking to him for a 1 year and some months.we hang out with my friends,his friends and what not.after a couple months,i had feelings for him but he shut me down when he said he wasnt looking for a relationship.so i just put all feelings aside & thought we'd be just friends.i left home for 7 months and i was still in contact with him.he told me about the other girls that hes been screwing around & stuff.i was more like his confidant at that point.but when i returned home he asked me to be his girlfriend.rest assured i said NO because he told me he wasnt looking for a relationship and now he is.so he told me about a girl who is completely & utterly in love with him.she had an abortion because it was his baby & she would keep it if they were together.she cuts herself whenever he says he wants her to leave him alone.she spreads lies about me & tells him im sleeping around.but i dont even know her. he tells me that he stopped seeing her but he turns around & contradicts himself.he wants to be with me but my gut tells me he wants to be with her too.he still talks to her,goes over and sees her and then he comes back to me & says HE LOVES ME.she gets under his skin & he gets under hers.i tell him he should just be with her but he says he doesnt love her the way he loves me!i have STRONG FEELINGS for him but i dont wanna deal with girls hating me because of him.he told me that im the first thing and last thing on his mind,im the one person he looks forward to seeing,hes never asked a girl to stay and just be with him..WHAT IN THE WORLD DO I DO?..
this guy doesn't know what he wants...
he's going back and forth between you and other girls. That shows he has no clue what he wants.
I had a headache just from reading your question.. I only have 3 words to say after that. This. Is. Drama.
Stay away from drama!! It makes you upset and angry. You're much better off without drama in your life.
If I were you, try not talking to him for a very long time. Like don't talk to him for months. Ignore him because he isn't going to do you any good. If anything, he's probably just going to cause more troubles for you because of all these girls he's been sleeping with. I would not want a guy who is like that...
Focus on yourself. Take the next few months to just think about yourself. Think about how you can better yourself. Don't think about guys or any distractions like that. Find a new hobby or sport and just focus on that. Who knows? maybe you'll find a guy doing those things during that break :)
Then after a few months of not talking to him, see how he feels. He's confused right now on what he wants. After a few months, maybe he will figure out what he wants and he'll let you know.
Oh and 1 more thing.. if he had a baby with that one girl.. well that just shows that all he wants is to sleep around with girls and get them knocked up. Do you want that to be you??? That could be you... you never know. I find that a very unattractive quality in guys..
22/f
me and my best friend (also a girl) have been friends for like 8 years. lately i have had some confusion on weather or not i'm bi but am starting to think more so that i am. well she also is attracted to girls and fools around with them and believes that she might be bi. thing is i feel like i may like her more than friends...idk if i should try talking to her about it or not. just confused about the whole thing.
I would talk to her about it in person.
I don't know what else to say besides this... any day could be your last day. live life to the fullest and don't have any regrets. If you keep hiding in fear, then one of these days, you're really going to regret not speaking out sooner.
Good luck and speak out with your heart
I've been dating this guy for a few months now and my dad wants to meet him. everyday he tells me he wants to meet him but i'm to scared for them to meet. how do i tell my boyfriend that my dad wants to meet him and what/how would be a good place/time for them to meet???
awhh that's so sweet that you're dad wants to meet him :)
I tried endlessly for my dad to meet my boyfriend but my dad refused to hahaha. It took a lot of work for them to meet and it all turned out really well :) they actually had a lot in common and now they are practically best friends. My dad will call my boyfriend over to help him with something and i'll just walk downstairs and see my boyfriend there and be like "what are you doing here?" and he'll be like "oh your dad called me over" haha.
Its really nothing to stress out about :)
The easiest way for them to meet is to have your boyfriend come over to your house. He could pick you up from your house and go out to a movie or something, and while he comes over to pick you up, you just quickly introduce them and then leave with your boyfriend.
Or if you want something that lasts a little bit longer, ask your boyfriend to come over and have dinner with your family. Thats how I met my boyfriends family. Its formal, nice, and polite. It doesn't have to be fancy either. It could just be a simple BBQ.
Most importantly, don't make it awkward. Its only awkward if you make it awkward. Keep the conversation flowing, no awkward silences. Talk about your boyfriend and his hobbies, then ask him some questions. Just keep it casual and don't bring up anything random. Keep it cool and just relax. If you're nervous, then it rubs off on everyone else and they get nervous too. If you're relaxed, then everyone else will be relaxed :)
good luck and inbox me if you have more questions!
I HATE drama, i see no point in it! i have these friends Kayla and Brianna. Brianna has been dating this guy named Tiger for about 3 months now. Kayla wrote a note to Tiger and made Brianna and Tiger break up. The DAY they broke up Kayla started going out with him. They both wanted me to pick sides. i hate picking sides because both of them are my best friends!! is there any way to help the situation but stay out of the drama?? I hate them being in a fight because i have to hang out with only one of them every day! i cant ever sit with my friends at lunch! no even my boyfriend!!
I agree with you on 1 thing.. drama sucks. Stay out of it as much as possible. I dont know how old you are.. but if you are in high school or going into high school, my best advice is make friends with GOOD people and stay out of drama! I learned the hard way. My friends weren't that great people and there was lots and lots of drama throughout my 4 years in high school. I've learned my lesson. I need to pick better friends who won't cause drama.
It sounds like Kayla is a drama starter. She's also very selfish and has no respect for other people because she broke up her friends relationship just so Kayla could have what she wanted. That's very low and a horrible horrible thing to do. I would stay FAR away from kayla as much as possible. If she did that to Brianna, there's a big possibility she would do it to you too. Unless you want more drama, then stay away from Kayla. She's not a true friend and doesn't deserve to have a loyal friend like you :)
I don't see why you should stop being friends with Brianna. She didn't do anything wrong :) So if I were you, stay friends with Brianna and help her out. She's probably feeling a lot of pain right now. Be a good friend and help her out. Make her feel better. Be there for her, because when you're in trouble, she will help you out too!
Now I don't mean this to come off wrong, but picking sides is a very very immature thing to do. The last time i "picked a side" was when i was in 4th grade.. I'm 18 now. There's no way you should "pick a side". thats so immature. If both of them ask you to pick a side, just say you're more mature than that and don't want a say in any of this.
Its THEIR problem... you shouldn't have to be in the middle of this. Tell them to leave you alone and just back out of it. They started it, they need to finish it by themselves. Don't get in the middle of it. Be a good friend and let them know that you're here for them if they want to talk to you, but you shouldn't pick sides.
Good luck and I hope you find better quality friends...
Inbox me if you have more questions.
14/f
Ok, so the other day my friend and I were hanging out at my house. This friend is jealous because she liked my boyfriend before he asked me out and wants to ruin our relationship. While we were hanging out, she started texting my boyfriend pretending to be me. She was saying really weird things, so I got my phone and texted my boyfriend that all those texts were from her. So then, she takes my phone and starts pretending to be me! I don't know what she told him because she deleted all my sent mail. I asked my boyfriend later and he wouldn't tell me because what she said was too mean. As if that's not enough, this friend knew that once she left I was just going to tell my boyfriend it had all been her. So, I walked her to the door when it was time for her to go and asked to have my phone back (my dad was in the room; he witnessed the whole event.) She told me she left it outside where we had been. I looked out the window and didn't see it, then turned around to find her PUTTING MY CELL PHONE INTO HER BAG. I asked "What are you doing??" and she laughed like it was all some joke and gave the phone to me because my dad was right there. She then asked me to come outside to look at her motorized scooter. I fell for the trap and came out with her. She grabbed the phone from my hand, hopped on her scooter and took off down the block. I started yelling after her and even stared crying! I ran inside and got my mom. We both came out, me in tears and my mom got very mad at my friend and got the phone back. She didn't apologize, so I texted her a few days later and we had a conversation about it and I said to her "we need some time to cool off" cuz I'm not allowed to see her anymore (not that I want to.) All would be fine except we are going to the same high school this fall and we're both trying out for the tennis team and may have the same elective. What should I do when I'm with her in the fall? I'm a really nice person and don't want to be a bitch but she's crazy! I don't want to be friends with her! How should I handle her when I see her again if she tries to talk to me?
wow! that's really weird and crazy...
well karma for her. and good for you for not wanting to be friends with her.
I think, if you don't want to be friends with her, then you don't have to be friends with her. Nobody is forcing you to be friends with her. Yeah you guys are going to the same high school and try out for the tennis team, but that doesn't mean you need to be glued at the hip with her.
Just ignore her. She is not a true friend. She doesn't respect you, because she's trying to break you and your boyfriend up (that also shows that she's an immature little 14 year old selfish brat who doesn't care about other people's feelings). There's no point in continuing to be friends with her.
If you see her, just look past her like she's invisible and keep on walking with your head high :) Girls like her will end up with NOBODY because of the way they act. If you just keep your head up high and have good morals, then it will pay off and you'll be happy :) don't worry about her. let her suffer.
If she tries to talk to you, be polite and say "hi" but then say you have to go.
Let me remind you 1 more thing- you've already fallen into one of her traps (the one with the scooter).. don't fall into any more of her traps anymore. If she puts on the "sorry" face and has those puppy dog eyes and starts asking you to forgive her, thats a trap. Say NO and walk away because she doesn't deserve to have a good loyal friend like you :)
Good luck and inbox me if you have more questions!