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LOST & CONFUSED
so,i met this guy & i've been talking to him for a 1 year and some months.we hang out with my friends,his friends and what not.after a couple months,i had feelings for him but he shut me down when he said he wasnt looking for a relationship.so i just put all feelings aside & thought we'd be just friends.i left home for 7 months and i was still in contact with him.he told me about the other girls that hes been screwing around & stuff.i was more like his confidant at that point.but when i returned home he asked me to be his girlfriend.rest assured i said NO because he told me he wasnt looking for a relationship and now he is.so he told me about a girl who is completely & utterly in love with him.she had an abortion because it was his baby & she would keep it if they were together.she cuts herself whenever he says he wants her to leave him alone.she spreads lies about me & tells him im sleeping around.but i dont even know her. he tells me that he stopped seeing her but he turns around & contradicts himself.he wants to be with me but my gut tells me he wants to be with her too.he still talks to her,goes over and sees her and then he comes back to me & says HE LOVES ME.she gets under his skin & he gets under hers.i tell him he should just be with her but he says he doesnt love her the way he loves me!i have STRONG FEELINGS for him but i dont wanna deal with girls hating me because of him.he told me that im the first thing and last thing on his mind,im the one person he looks forward to seeing,hes never asked a girl to stay and just be with him..WHAT IN THE WORLD DO I DO?..
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this guy doesn't know what he wants...
he's going back and forth between you and other girls. That shows he has no clue what he wants.
I had a headache just from reading your question.. I only have 3 words to say after that. This. Is. Drama.
Stay away from drama!! It makes you upset and angry. You're much better off without drama in your life.
If I were you, try not talking to him for a very long time. Like don't talk to him for months. Ignore him because he isn't going to do you any good. If anything, he's probably just going to cause more troubles for you because of all these girls he's been sleeping with. I would not want a guy who is like that...
Focus on yourself. Take the next few months to just think about yourself. Think about how you can better yourself. Don't think about guys or any distractions like that. Find a new hobby or sport and just focus on that. Who knows? maybe you'll find a guy doing those things during that break :)
Then after a few months of not talking to him, see how he feels. He's confused right now on what he wants. After a few months, maybe he will figure out what he wants and he'll let you know.
Oh and 1 more thing.. if he had a baby with that one girl.. well that just shows that all he wants is to sleep around with girls and get them knocked up. Do you want that to be you??? That could be you... you never know. I find that a very unattractive quality in guys..
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