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my dad wants to meet my boyfriend!!!
I've been dating this guy for a few months now and my dad wants to meet him. everyday he tells me he wants to meet him but i'm to scared for them to meet. how do i tell my boyfriend that my dad wants to meet him and what/how would be a good place/time for them to meet???
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As long as dad is not standing at the door with a shotgun or a baseball bat I don't see any reason to stress out over this. I'm a dad and while I do not have a daughter I have filled in for my nieces when required. They have both always brought their boyfriends by to get my approval and never worried that I would disapprove or embarrass them. I enjoyed teasing them before and and afterwards but never in front of the current boyfriend.
As to how to tell you boyfriend: The straight simple truth works best. "John my dad has asked to meet you." "Would you like to come to dinner next Friday?" That takes care of the how to tell him and the when.
If the boyfriend asks why, I would simply say dad is old fashion in this way and likes to meet my friends. If boyfriend says no to meeting dad my advise to you would be to find another boyfriend. It is really no big deal to meet a girls parents. I seriously doubt your father is going to ask him what his intentions are towards you. Dad is probably just like me; he wants to size him up for himself to make sure he is good enough for his little girl. After all even when you a grown lady with children of your own you will still be his little girl.
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awhh that's so sweet that you're dad wants to meet him :)
I tried endlessly for my dad to meet my boyfriend but my dad refused to hahaha. It took a lot of work for them to meet and it all turned out really well :) they actually had a lot in common and now they are practically best friends. My dad will call my boyfriend over to help him with something and i'll just walk downstairs and see my boyfriend there and be like "what are you doing here?" and he'll be like "oh your dad called me over" haha.
Its really nothing to stress out about :)
The easiest way for them to meet is to have your boyfriend come over to your house. He could pick you up from your house and go out to a movie or something, and while he comes over to pick you up, you just quickly introduce them and then leave with your boyfriend.
Or if you want something that lasts a little bit longer, ask your boyfriend to come over and have dinner with your family. Thats how I met my boyfriends family. Its formal, nice, and polite. It doesn't have to be fancy either. It could just be a simple BBQ.
Most importantly, don't make it awkward. Its only awkward if you make it awkward. Keep the conversation flowing, no awkward silences. Talk about your boyfriend and his hobbies, then ask him some questions. Just keep it casual and don't bring up anything random. Keep it cool and just relax. If you're nervous, then it rubs off on everyone else and they get nervous too. If you're relaxed, then everyone else will be relaxed :)
good luck and inbox me if you have more questions!
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Don't stress. I think its a great idea that your dad wants to meet the guy in his daughters life. Many dad's don't even wanna hear about the guy.
Sit your boyfriend down and tell him straight out, your dad wanting to meet him is not a bad thing . Your house or the resturant is a perfect place to meet.
Your dad is only looking out for you, if your boyfriend really loves you. He will have no problem meeting your dad. Take it easy on yourself.
Good-luck and best of wishes!
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