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My bf fucked me in my ass and he also came in my ass. It did not drip down to my vagina. Can i be pregnant? Im really nervous! (link)
Hey

No the is no way you can be pregnant, unless his sperm come in contact wth your vagina.

I suggest you take extra measures next time. And watch out for this anal sex, cause the anus is a site for germs!

Stay safe and goodluck!


Why does my boyfriend not want to kiss me? (link)
Hey

I don't think its something to be worried about. Talk to him and find out what is really up. He might be to shy to kiss you, or maybe he does not know the right time to be kissing you.

Talk to him and try to understand his side.

Goodluck


if you have a condom on do you have to/should you pull out? (link)
Hey

You've asked a preTty good question.
If you really want to be extra careful, you can. But usually its 99.9% safe. Whatever gets expelled from you, should not be able to pass through to her.


But its also good and safe to take extra measures!

Goodluck and be safe


Hi im 14/F and I am wondering if its weird to have your first kiss at a public swimming pool? is that normal? (link)
Hey

The swimming pool is not a weird place at all. A first kiss can happen anywhere at anytime, as long as you are sure and really like the guy.

Hope I helped and goodluck!


hi im 14 and female.so i have 2 boyfriends now and please dont call me a slut or a whore cause i have 2 boys at the same time.i explain the story.i had a boyfriend (we will call him bf 1)and then on the last day of school after school my ex texted me and asked me out.i still liked him so i said yes.then i was trying to figure out how to get ahold of bf 1.i didnt know where he lived,his phone number,email,facebook,NOTHING.i had told him my facebook name and i didnt get a friend request from him.so now its getting close for school to start and i dont know what to say to him.i was thinking of saying we are over or avoiding him.Life is too difcult.Any Advice for Me? (link)
Hey

I don't think you should avoid him, that would stand out as RUDE. Get yourself time and talk to him.

Tell him what happened and what you want. Its gona be difficult but you hav to do it. Sort yourself out and get your life straight!

Good-luck and keep well!


I recently had a one night stand with an acquaintance. We have a lot of mutual friends and I have met him before but I wouldn't say we are friends. During all this the condom broke and I took plan B, unfortunately I was on some medication that the Dr. thinks might have interfered with it working. And as it turns out I'm pregnant. I really don't know what I am going to do about the baby. I am not sure I am ready in life to have a child etc. But my biggest dilemma right now is whether or not to tell the guy. He is moving in less than 2 weeks and I am just not sure it is worth telling him. Advice? (link)
Hey

I truly understand your situation. I honestly believe you should tell the guy, even if his leaving in two weeks. I think he has the right to know, even if he might reject you and the baby atleast you would have told him. Unlike living with the fact that you took the chance of been a father away from him.

I also think your doctor should have warned you about certain medications that interfere with contraceptives. In future, I would advice u take extra measures.


All the best in telling him.

Good-luck and hope I helped!


So theres this boy and i like HIM but recently, he grabbed my butt. I was excited but i want him to like me for Me and not my butt. What should i do????? (link)
Hey

Honestly, a guy who grabb's butt for no reason out of no where does not love you or like you.

A guy who likes a girl respects her by all means neccessary. Does not do anything that might embarrase her.
I suggest you talk to him, and find out what his intentions are.

Be confident and don't look desperate.

Best of luck to you!


so i've been crushing on this guy, and he has dated 2 girls since i've known him, they are both GORGEOUS. he is a christian, and an awesome kid....
sooo he asked me if i wanted to go to lunch with him, so we went and he paid for my lunch - we talked about everything (even his ex) and we don't even know each other that well. then he said "i don't usually go out alone with just a girl" talking about some girl that was trying to get alone time with him. and he was like, "but you... i've known you, so it's different." anyways, i loved talking to him anddd later that evening, he posted lyrics from a country song "yeah that came out a little country, but every word was right on the money" and he has NEVER posted song lyrics before on facebook. am i looking too much into this ? haha . was this a date? (link)
Hey

I don't think you are looking too much into it. For you to know if he likes you, that0 you have to find out from him. Talk to him but don't look desperate.

Good luck


My boyfriend always ignores me. He complained I was clingy and we argued for about three days over it. And then made up. But still, I felt weird when we hung out, scared almost. I was scared to say or do certain things in case I came off as clingy. We went through the day just fine. And afterwards he didn't even call or text and every time I give him space he doesn't bother to answer.

I mean first the relationship was perfect. And then it just went downhill... He said we'll fix it but he isn't doing his part and whenever I text or call to talk about it, he ignores me. My mom said to ignore him even if he ends up contacting me, but I just wanna get it over with. Should I break up with him or go with my mom's plan? (link)
Hey

I think you should take your mom's advice. Sit back and see what happens. Mothers know what's best for their children.

So Good Luck and stay strong.


I've been dating this guy for a few months now and my dad wants to meet him. everyday he tells me he wants to meet him but i'm to scared for them to meet. how do i tell my boyfriend that my dad wants to meet him and what/how would be a good place/time for them to meet??? (link)
Hey

Don't stress. I think its a great idea that your dad wants to meet the guy in his daughters life. Many dad's don't even wanna hear about the guy.

Sit your boyfriend down and tell him straight out, your dad wanting to meet him is not a bad thing . Your house or the resturant is a perfect place to meet.

Your dad is only looking out for you, if your boyfriend really loves you. He will have no problem meeting your dad. Take it easy on yourself.

Good-luck and best of wishes!


I smell like ass even after I take a shower, why? (link)
Hey

I suggest you try using a different soap and body sprays.
Try taking a bath instead of a shower, take time washing yourself. Also bath 3times a day, that should do the trick!

Good-luck!


What Happens When Your Period Ends In The 50s?
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Hi

When women reach meno-pause. Their periods stop or are nt as reguarlar as before. They might see their periods after certain months.

At that stage no reproduction can occurs. If it does, it maybe a hazard to the mothers health or the unborn baby.

Basically when the stage of meno-pause hits in, you became like a little girl, just before puberty hits in.

Hope I answered your question and helped!


i was wondering if it is ok to leave my dildo in my vagina for a long time ? like would it hurt me if i left it in there while i slept? i just like having it in there it is about 2inches wide at the most....thanks for the help! (link)
Hey

Really don't think that's the best of ideas. You will only cause harm to yourself. Things like that are sources of infection, so avoid sleeping with by all means necessary!

Hope I helped.


My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months. We were living together for a month in New York before he decided to move down to Puerto Rico to be with his grandma. I went down with him, because I found out I was pregnant. While we were living there, I miscarried the baby. He was there for me and helped me in any way he could. After about a month of living in Puerto Rico, I decided to come home to New York. We promised we would talk every night on the phone, and do everything we could to make this relationship last until I came back down there. He doesn't want to come back to New York because he hates it here. Lately though, he's been getting annoyed with me I think. I tell him that I love him and miss him every time we talk and he tells me to stop saying it so much because it bothers him. Which hurts me, but I can understand since he isn't really the lovey type all the time like I am. Then he always seems as if he's in a bad mood when we talk, I always have to bring up things to talk about and sometimes I run out of things to say so we sit there silently until he tells me he's got to go. Tonight we talked for a few minutes and he was in another bad mood. He was telling me how he's tired of life down there and is thinking of coming home to live with me again. He then told me I shouldn't call so much, only once a week. I tried to make him feel better by talking about the job offer I got. He didn't say much about it, then told me he would talk to me later. So I said "Okay, I love you.." and he said "Okay bye" and hung up :( He's never done that before and it hurt.. alot to say the least. I don't know what to do, or how to help him. I try to give my advice on what he should do but he doesn't really listen to me. I feel like our relationship is falling apart and it's killing me inside. He's my best friend and our relationship used to be so strong, I don't know what I'm doing wrong to cause all this. What should I do? :( (link)
Hey dear

Calm yourself down, you are doing nothing. I'm really sorry for your loss.

I just think your boyfriend is missing you so much that he can't bear to just talk to you on the phone for a few minutes.

I say u need to re-connect with him. Sit down and think about the first time you guys met. Why you fell in love.

Review on all the memories, good n bad times. Go down there and be with him or convince him to come up here. Re-candle the love you have for each other.

You love him and I think he needs you!

Good luck, take care and be strong!


My girlfriend is 12 years old and im 13...weve been dating for about 7 months and when were like making out i feel her ass and i can feel that shes wet..but the only problem is...shes 12 and hasnt gotten her period yet..can i still finger her?...and if so whats the best way? im hanging out with her tomorrow... (link)
I really dnt want to be rude or sound nasty, but what you are planning to do is way over your head. You should not be thinking about fingering her, she is only 12years old.

What's de rush? Do u really love her? If yes, don't put her through hell she might end up hating you bigtime.

You way too young, try something your age: like movies!

Hope I helped!


(I know the subject is very melodramatic)
I'm 15 and last year my head teachers son an I got really close from when we went to Thailand. He is a year younger than me and from after that point we were inseparable. I started to have feelings for him so he told me he was going on a date and I got jealous and said something mean about the girl. I apologised immediately but then after that he kept on ignoring my texts and didn't want to meet up with me any more. Eventually, he told me to leave him alone but I didn't really think it would be permanent as I had other things on my mind. When I realised I missed him I tried to contact him over and over again but he just shut me down until he finally told me that he wanted nothing to do with me and many other hurtful words. Ever since then I cry every day feel depressed and I even think I'm developing an eating disorder but I know the only thing that can make it right is him. I have been like this for like 6 months now and I just have to contact him. But I don't know how? If I call he will probably hang up, if I text he won't reply, if I go to wear he hangs out he might just embarrass me in front of his mates.And the worst part is I don't even know if he has changed his mind HELP! (please do not tell me to move on!) I just want to be his friend. (link)
Hey

First thing you did wrong was say something mean about the girl, though you apologised immediately. It maybe that it hurt his feeling, because you were his friends.

Friends support each others decision, though you might not like them, you advise your friend not make the decision for them. You be true to them. You be loyal, honest, and trustworthy.

Some people need time to get over the hurt and pain other people have caused them. Maybe he felt that you would against every decision he took.

The only thing you could do is try and make him see that you made a mistake and you only wanted the best for him. Just try that, don't give up on him yet

Hope that I helped

Best of luck to you!


So me and my sister were fighting as I wall saying once a brat always a brat for you and she said I'm never gonna get married bc she and I and my whole family knows deeep down inside that I'm sorta fat and awkward but I took it to heart so I left and cried I'm kinda depressed bc I'm never happy and I lost my bestfriend so I have noone I could trust I spend some of my days crying in my room bc I don't have a bf andi was close to having one but he was just a player but he is the only one who made Me happy and we didn't even kiss but he seems like he never has a gf he always flirting I'm 15 f my mean sister17 and the guy I will always think about 16

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Hey
You know your sister is not supposed to be judging you, she should be like a big sister comfort you and give you really good advise but she is not.

I say don't worry about her, stop crying and drowing yourself in self pity. Have comfidence in yourself. Trust yourself, re-build your self-eesteem. Your bestfriend left you,so what. Go out and make new friends, you are still young and have a lot to offer the world.

You are beautiful, don't care what others think about you, weight does not matter, beauty comes from inside. As for the bf, take it easy you will find a really sweet guy.

So good luck, go out there and make your mark in the world. Remember don't let your mean sister put you down!
Please do keep me updated.




listen last time i asked a question and i got some good answers now im back about the same guy now everything is worst. he says he loves me and that he wants a kid and a family. im already 2 months but the problem is that his ex girl of three years AND HIM STILL LOVE EACH OTHER HE LOVES ME AND LOVES HER AND IM CONFUSED....HELP! (link)
Love triangle

Thing is I would be confused too. I'm thinking the best way to sort this whole mess out is to sit him down and tell him how you really feel. Get from him the answers so that you know where you stand with him for the sake of the baby.

Please don't hurt yourself by loving someone who's in love with there ex. People who do that don't deserve good people like yourself.

Best of luck and congragualation on the baby!




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