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Well, this question might sound a bit funny, because I don't exactly know how to state it but, here goes....
Well, I'm a 13 year old girl and I really like this guy, but the problem is he's two years older than me, and has the perfect girlfriend. He is also older sister's best friend. Yikes. I haven't told many people about this, cause I'm actually kind of embarrassed (sp?). So what I'm asking is, what should I do? I'm barely ever going to see him, because he's in a totally different school then I am. Please help! Thank you :] (link)
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Hi, if he's already got a girlfriend then really he is taken. It doesn't really look likely that it would work out between the two of you, because he lives away from you and goes to a different school. I think your better off just looking for another guy you like really. Daniel.
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I defentally need some advise!Ok well theres this guy...i really love him and always have, ever since i knew Kimmy. She is 16 and just recentally moved from Mongolia, so obviously her and her family are oriental. The only problem is the guy im madly in love with is her dad, Sanneybobo. I mean its not like hes married or anything. Well he was. It was just a fling, i know he really digs me! Hes 57 and i am 16. Do you think its too much of an age diffrence or will the love we both share for each other shine trough? Please tell me what you think! (link)
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Hi, to be totally honest with you I think the age gap is far to big. There is 41 years difference! It might not be a problem for being friends but for a relationship I think it's far to big the age gap. You want to be dating people like 16-18, this guy is an adult while your still a teenager. Sorry, but Im going to have to say no on this one. Daniel.
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Hi yeah i have a little problem my sister is 20 and i am 15 and her boyfriend lets call him tim while they have a 1 year old together but i got the massive hotts for him what should i do ? like they are soul mates but hes danm sexxxie and i dont knoe what to do ? (link)
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Hi, you are probaly going to have to just ignore these feelings. This is your sisters boyfriend and the seat has already been taken. There are plenty of more seats with nice guys with them if you know what I mean. Besides this guy sounds as though he's a few years older than you. You will probaly find it easier to mix with people your own age and interests. There are alot of other guys around your age that I'm sure you will like. Daniel.
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i get alll shy and stuff when around a guy i like and i can talk over msn and the ohone fine but when face to face i get all shy and i just want to runn away from them help ! how can i solve this problem does this mean im insacure about my body immage im 16 f (link)
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Hi, your probaly just feeling nervous and shy. This is ok and normal but the only way to break through it is to get out more into the social zone. What exactly makes you feel shy? If it is your body image then really you don't need to worry about it. We all look different and we can't really change who we are. If your worried about first impressions and what people think of you then just think about it this way "I can't read minds, so how do I know what they're thinking?". People are always judging on a person because of their looks, but do they really know the inside you. The real you. Just because you look nice doesn't mean you are nice, and just because you look ugly then it doesn't mean your ugly inside. I suppose my point is that if your worried about what people are going to think, then don't. And if they think negative of you or say something that put's you down then they don't really know the positive you. Go out a bit more and socialize. The more you think about being shy, the more you will be shy. The only way you can stop being shy is to just socialize. I know it's really hard, but once you get talking to people and be around them the better you will beable to adapt to them. If you do start talking to people, then ask open questions. Open questions can give you are more detailed answer and can lead to a conversation. Then the more you talk to the person, the more comfortable you feel about being around the person. Just go out there and do it. You owe it to yourself for the best. Daniel.
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im 14 years old and f. im going into 9th grade, ive been going out w/ my bf for almost 10 months and we have dry sex is that slutty? (link)
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Hi, there isn't really such a thing as a slut. Thats sort of a teenage slang for a girl who has lots of sex. Its good to see that your having dry sex rather than normal sex at your age. But you are still quite young to be having sex really. Also be careful about having intercourse sex because you can catch things like STI's and stuff like that. Daniel.
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What is the difference between love and lust? and how do you really know if a guy loves you? (link)
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Hi, the difference is that lust is feeling sexual desire towards someone, were as love is more about caring and feeling deeper emotions for someone. A guy will love you if he cares and shows honesty and commitment to you. Love is better than lust in my opinion. Daniel.
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I want to whiten my teeth because they are a little dull. I heard that some whitening products can ruin and damage you teeth or your teeth enamel. My question is what brands or whitening strips or toothpastes do you reccomend? thanks. :]] (link)
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Hi, have you tried listerine? That is suppose to be a good make. Daniel.
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I haven't had anyone invite me over in almost two weeks. I don't have many friends anymore, I used to be more of the popular sort, now I sit on myspace, all day, wishing I could be somebody else whose prettier, and has more true friends. My "friends" never invite me anywhere, and I don't know what to do when I invite them over. My house is boring, and I don't have money to go out anywhere. I just want my life back, I'm not like repulsive, I'm just, normal, people say I`m pretty, I'm funny and fun, but I know I can get annoying. What should I do? (link)
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Hi, it sounds as though your being hard on yourself a little. If you want friends and to be popular again then you need to create the opportunity. What I mean is go and talk to people, and perhaps join something that your interested in. Maybe you could go to some disco's and if your old enough go to a night club. Get out more and grab every opportunity you can of making friends. If you can't create the opportunity then it is unlikely you will ever have any friends. Daniel.
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I want to save myself for my wedding night. Is this generaly considered weird? At school people think its really strange and generally make fun of me for it if it comes up in conversation at all. I mean, its not something I go aorund shouting, but if someone asks what I think about sex before marriage because I'm a Christian, I will tell the truth. My friends were amazed that I went out with a guy I was completely in love with for 9 months and didnt have sex with him.
Is it that strange? And is it possible to save yourself for marriage? I've heard that it gets harder to wait as you get older, and it wasn't easy in my last relationship. (link)
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Hi, it's not strange at all, and is possible to save yourself before marriage. Personally sex should really come after when you've got married and have settled in a job. Then it makes it easisr to have a baby because your both a mum and dad and have money and a house to support your baby. Alot of teenagers don't realise that. Daniel.
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hey ya'll. 15 f. i want to know what exactly does ejaculate mean? also i want to know how to learn how to squirt when you come. cuz i read it in a book that some girls can do that and i wondered how you could do that and if you could teach yourself how to do it.
thanks (link)
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Hi, ejaculation really applies to when a males penis gets erected and sort of gets excited then leaks out semen (cum). You can't really force yourself to squirt alot, and really it mainly leaks out. Daniel.
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What would you do if you hated your body so much that you would't let your partner see it?
What are your thoughts? (link)
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Hi, for starters I wouldn't change myself just for my partner. And if my partner didn't like the way my body looked then that would be his/her problem. Daniel.
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Hey my name is rachel and iam 14 years old and my twin sister named michelle is 14 and she told me she was pregnant and i don't know what to do I know I should tell my mom,but iam afraid she'd never talk to me again iam so scared what should I do? (link)
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Hi there, the best thing you can do is perhaps be there when she needs to talk to someone or just respect her wishes towards telling her mum. Just support her, because pregnancy can be a difficult time. Daniel.
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Why is it always me that ends up with the no girlfriend at the end of the year I am 14/m and I am in a wheelchair and not sure if that is the problem or what but it has always seemed I end up not with the girlfriend and don't get me wrong I have had them but the last one I had was going on for 6 monthes but she just left me for one of my best friends and it was like a shocker to me and I just went into a deep depression (link)
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Hi, some people just don't get them the same as others. In alot of ways, it's the luck of the draw. There is still plenty of time yet. Daniel.
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Hey,
Im 15, and I still have not had a boyfriend, or hooked up with a guy...
it never really bothered me before but lately it has been.
My best friend since 4th grade (who lives in Texas) (I live in Philly) has had alot more experience with guys than me.
It makes me kind-of jealous, and i dont want to be like...behind her if that makes sense?
alot of girls at my school just give in and do any guy that is willing to do them. There's not alot of people who are in an actually relationship.
I hate my school. All the guys are a-holes.
and i have confidence in myself too i model, im sweet, im funny...
im just really shy.
now im just babbling.
To get to the point I dont want to just hook up with some ass hole who doesnt care about me. But.. i dont want to be prude.
Thanks.
-Anna (link)
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Hi, do you ever come across a guy or see a guy you like? Because if you do then just go up and talk. Otherwise you'll just have to wait until the right guy comes along. Daniel.
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First off I really appreciate your first advice but in that advice you said that I should cherish our last days together and that I can still talk to my boyfriend rather than trying to forget him,but just talking to him isn't enough.what about when i need a shoulder to lean on and I need him there immediately.Calling him doesn't cut it for me but I do understand cherishing our last days together and I will do that (link)
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Hi, the only other option is to live with him or near by. Of course that isn't whats going to happen, and because it's pritty much impossible to see each other on a regular basis then really your better off being friends or E-mailing and phoning each other. It is hard to have a long term relationship when you both live so far away. There isn't alot you can do, because you can't give him a hug, because he's so far away. So your better off perhaps becoming friends and ringing him and giving him E-mails. Thats the only thing you can do to keep in touch with him. I can understand were your coming from, but really long term relationships usually don't work out to well because both partners simply can't see each other on a regular basis unlike other couples. If your both old enough you could perhaps live together, but yeah the only thing you can both do is phone each other or E-mail. Long term relationships usually don't work because of this. Daniel.
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Hi, i'm gonna start off saying that i'm 14 and i'm going into grade 9, i'm not that populare in my school but i'm conseterd a normal. well anyways, i have a whole bunch of mental disbiletys(spelt wrong but w/e) i have a serous Depreshion, Buy-Polar (it's a mood swing thing), Anger Problems, ADD, and some other one were i blank out lots. well i dont take any perscripton druggs for these things.. and i feel so horable everyday.. i was an abused child.. so i'm not that smart cause my head was always bashed into things. and well i cant always deal with this.. i've tryed suicide lots.. but it hasent worrked.. i was to die but yet i want to live.. i see a terapist but he isent helping.. do you guys have and ideas of something i could do to get my mind off my disorders.. or some movie about how to deal. any little thing can help... Thank You so much. (link)
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Hi, you could go on google and type in something like ADD and find out about it. Also you could go and see a Psychiatrist. They specialise in mental health issues. If things get really bad then you will need to tell someone what is making you feel so bad or down. There must be a reason why your feeling this way. Get to the point of that reason and work on it step by step. Talk to a Psychiatrist about maybe starting medication. Talking to people helps, if not alot. Go to the library and get books on it. Daniel.
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lately ive been wanting to have sex with my boyfriend of 4 months but i know im not ready for it..at times i think i am but sometimes i think im not, im afraid that one of these times im going to think im ready and actually have sex with him. how do i stop doing this? or should i jsut do have sex with him? (link)
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Hi, you sound unsure. Never do something that your unsure of. You have also got alot to take in account e.g. age, contraceptives. Daniel.
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When is it like the 'ok' age to have sex? My friend, I believe shes rushing into it way too quick. Since shes only 14. She hasn't done much yet. But, I'm worried about her. Health wise, & 'reputation wise' What age is the ok age? & what should I say to her, & her boyfriend/best friend [there on & off. as a couple. -__-] about it? (link)
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Hi, it depends were you live, but in most places the age of consent is 16 and over. Daniel.
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Is it possible to fall in love with someone who you have only met once? :) (link)
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Hi, yes it is possible but then again more commonly you can have lust for him/her. Daniel.
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Ok here is is my question: I went to prom with this guy and hes totally amazing and we've been hanging out for a while. Well at the afterprom i got really tired and he got a little tipsy. (id been hearing that he wanted to ask me out from friends) well while i was almost asleep he softly kissed me a few times. i was so amazed! but then he later on in the night he whispered to me that he loves me, and he said u may not believe me but i do. I didnt say anything back and he seemed a little disappointed and hurt- i didnt knw whether to believe him- but i love him too!. Anyway when i asked him about it the next day he like changed his answer and said that he doesnt knw what love is and that saying i love you is like saying i like you. But i really want to knw if he loves me or not, b.c ive been hurt before and i dont want to express my feelings without being sure. He really seems like he loves me, he kisses everyone of my fingers and then my hands, he sung "your beautiful to me" lol, he calls and texts me just to say hey, he holds my hand all the time! and when he asked me out he announced it to the room of friends of ours! What am i supposed to think? and what are some signs he loves you? (link)
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Hi, it does sound a wee bit like love. But it could also be lust. Heres the difference:
LUST: sexual desire for, fantasize about you, feel horny towards, wanting sex, like your looks
LOVE: strong affection for, likes you because he feels affection and likes you for who you are, feels romance towards you
Note: lust is usually when someone hasn't known someone for a while were as love is the opposite.
Some signs that he loves you is:
Looks you in the eyes
Shows romance
Gives you lots of hugs
Shows affection and tells you he loves you
Plays lovely nice music
Smiles and enjoys your company
Although he may feel lust. I suppose lust is all the sexual desire and stuff like that were as love is deep affection and liking. Daniel.
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