Being a teenager is the toughest thing any of you will go through..well except for a divorce or death of a loved one.
Adults just do not remember how hard this time of life is for you.
They forget how important all of these things that you ask questions about are.
Parent do not have all the answers either..they just muddle through life..just like you.
I am as old as dirt..and still have some of the things that happen to you..happen to me.
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Theres this guy, and he told me he loved me but i rejected him because i didnt know what to say. I didnt see him for a year after that, and over that year i realized that i loved him and missed him SO much. I swear i didnt go a single day without thinking about him. Now im going to school with him but hes not in any of my classes (but sometimes i talk to him in the halls) and i still love him. What should i do? Do u think hes mad at me for rejecting him? Do u think theres a chance he might like me even though I rejected him? And is there a chance he would ask me out again..even though i rejected him last time? (link)
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yeah..he is mad at you for rejecting him..but if you can take it..keep up trying to win him bakc..maybe in a few he will see that you really are sorry.
However if he is dating someone else thsi is not going to work..do not give up..ok..the best things in life are really hard..
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omg... all of my questions have been about ummm... ben... lol... ok well here is another... my boyfriend (ben) likes this other girl and i guess she likes him but she has a boyfriend also... so im really worried... should i dump him and get it over with, (although i kno she's not dumping her guy)... or... should i wait till it passes... i heard she is swithing schools... help me please!!
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wow..claire youc are so much about your b/f...that you are willing to dump him..to get him the gal he really likes.
I would wait until he breaks it off..maybe he does not like her..or the reverse...the fac that you want the best for him..makes YOU the prefect g/f!!!!
Ps hopes she switches schools!!
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Yeahhh... my boyfriend, who I like a lot, is a different race and my parents are racist. That caused some bumps in me just telling my mother that I liked him, and put drama on us already. And I don't see him much, and hes in one of my classes. He says that hae cares about me, and I believe that he does. But how do I know how much he cares about me with out asking him annoying questions? (link)
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super hard....see inter rwcial things..are hard..as society is still really weird about that. But..if your thing wiht your guy is meant to be.it will be able to stand that test of time. as far as your folks are..well theynwill always be reacist so you have to ignore them.
he might not show how much he cares about you as maybe his family is wigged out too. If you want to go out with him..ask him to meet you somewhere.
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ok my dad has a girlfriend... thats ok with me....but like everyone hates her me , my bro, everyone except my dad... i have told him about it so many times but he doesnt listen and he wont break up with her....am i supposed to hurt my dads feelings and lik not hang around her... the only problem is that my dad is lik never home, so i only get to c him wen i c her...i really dont think its fair....i need help this is ruining my life!
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i need serious help (link)
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you know what..it is not fair..to have to share youe dad wiht someone you do not like. But guess what..you will probaly date people HE does not lie, so you will be even on that.
you have to sit your dad down and say..you know what..i undertand that you need time alone wiht..so and so..but as your child..I need YOu more than your g/f who is an adult.
He needs to realize that as hi children YOU come first
Now whether he does not not..will show how much of an adult he is.
I am sorry to tell you..but ALOT of adults are SUPER selfish..and DO not deserve having aesome kids..like you.
maybe they will break up...if she has such icky traits..maybe your dad will get a clue too...
till then..hang in there!
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Ok i guess this isnt really a definite true answer to this question but rather ur opinion. What is True LOVE? (link)
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to me...it is not being able to live..w/o seeing this person. To wake up one day..and just feel that if this person was not around..your life would be so empty.
That even their bad habits..you like.
That just to hear their voice..brightens your day...that they make you feel super..about yourself..for they love you bakc...
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ok im kind of a shy person and recently i started making friends at another high school so im mainly with them. they are all so pretty...a lot of guys like them and they're so nice.i just want to fit in with them because when when im with them,i feel like the outsider. i want to b able to open up more...basically what i want to know is how to open up more!? plz plz help i really need it. (link)
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maybe you can copy their style a bit..or get them to help you do a makeover.
even teh most beautiful people think they are not..so it could be that you are just as great as they are.
To me..they must find something really cool about you if they are hanging out wiht you.
get their advice on hair and stuff..sometimes a new style and clothes...well make a big difference.
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Can anyone help. I am currently working for a firm which due to expansion is doing a re-structure within the office. All of us have been told that they will try and get similar jobs for us to take but there might be redundancy. I have been offered a job which pays £10 less then i am on and have taken away the company car. I started with the compnay when there was 13 people and now there is over 200. Can they do this to me as i feel totally let down by the company.
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I am sorry..it is i am sorry to say a way of life..a company gets bought and boom out goes the people. It could be that you will be not let go...if you can hiold out do..save every penny and keep interviewing...if you just started you may get a better offer. I would talk to HR and see how long you MIGHT have...but again...stockpile as much money as you can if you want to stay there as long as you can. you might want to contact a recruiter to ehlp in the job process.
O know this stinks..happens so everyone everywhere...
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13/f i have just moved in my 8th grade year which is still hard for me to get over but my parents rly don't seem to get it that i'm miserable in my new town. my grandmother lives in my old town and offered for me to live with her. and it sounds rly good sometimes my parents and i disagree alot and i know most teenagers do but they still treat me like i'm 5 and its hell forme to live with them. i don't know what i should do. all my true friends are in my old town and i'm there every weekend. if you think i should live with my grandma please tell me what to say to my parental units! please help i have been lingering this for a long time and i have def given my new town a chance i've been here for 5 months
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you ahve given it time..so they vannot acuse you of that.
If your life with your parwents is so bad tell them
Say mom and dad...I cannot live up to my potential here..our homelife is too stressful right now for me to continue to live here...I need to be in a stable home andf grandmother can provide that. I lvoe you..but right now..in order for me to do the bet I can..please..let me live wiht her.
but you ahve to keep up yourside..the best grades.a.nd being a really good housemate to your grandmother..ok
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ok im not really excited about christmas and i dont know why? i mean i feel like something is missing in my life or is it that im just getting older but i dont think that is true bc i like christmas and all but it just seems like it doesnt matta anymore. (link)
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I would volunteer at a kids shelter or homeles..see untill you REALLy have nothing..then you appreicate whatever you have.
A lot of people feel the same way you do. get involved in some organization that will let you give to others..I promise..you will feel better after you help others.
But..what is really going on in your life??Aounds to me like you ned a friend to talk to about what IS really bothering you.
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I'm 17 and my parents are divorced. I live with my mom. I've accepted the fact that I have to spend time with my dad and most of the time its not too bad. Lately things have seemed a little off. I don't want to spend time with him. I'm so stressed out when he's around. I love my brother to pieces but its worse when him and dad are together. They fight like kids and I have to seperate them. I hate being the adult. I'm the daughter and the sister not the wife or the mother. Personally I think when I leave I just won't tell him where I'm going and that'll be the end of it... but I know that would hurt him. (link)
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you are so right..you ae NOT the wife or mother..your job is to be 17...i would sit boh the parents down and tell them the truth..that being with your dad and borther right now is causing youa lot of stress.
To me you dad needs to get a life and stop arguing with his son..ok..the time should be spent doing and having a great time...if he cannot do this..then You need to skip time wiht him and he has GOT to repect that.
You are alomost an adult..you think he would welmomce and behave himself for the brief time he has wiht you.
well now you know..most adults are just big babies...NOT grown up.
Speak your mind..hold true to what YOU need...
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I am a 17 year old female and my exboyfriend is 16years old. My ex-boyfriend which is the 2nd guy I ever dated is my first love and he told me that I am his first love. Ever time we see each other we end up making-out even if one of us has a boyfriend or girlfriend. He also like to irritate me alot and he like to play a lot of stupid little games and its annoying. I tell myself that I'm over him but every time I see him I fall in love with him again. What can/should I do????????? (link)
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do NOT date anyone until you are over your b/f. Him too..you guys are being really unfair to your present dates.
jeez..date each other until you are sich of each other..and move on.
YOU are not over him..nor him you..but make it clear to him..until you guys run your course..youa re exclusive.
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im a 15 yr old chick and i absolutely love this guy (whos 18)with all my heart, and he likes me too we hook up all the time and its like were in a full on relationship except for he wont 'go out' wit me, he says he doesnt want to make it official because he doesnt want a hardout relationship. we recently had a fight and he said he didnt want to see me anymore, a day later hes saying im sorry im sorry i made a mistake will u forgive me!? but the thing is i have got really sick and i wont b able to 'do' anything for a couple of weeks, so then he says well.. were just friends then hey? im all better now and i still love him he came over last night coz were 'friends' now and before he left i told him how i felt about him and he said he still liked me too. i dont know if it should b like it was because every now and then he treated me badly, he stuffed me round all the time and i never knew where i stood with him, he wont commit but im not allowed to see other people so long as were seeing each other. im not happy with those conditions but i cant live without him, i wish he would change but he never will what should i do? (link)
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major head games..plus he is 18...
To me..he sound like a bigtime loser who is just funning around wiht you..cause he can.
Tell him to shape up or get the heck out. To me..being alone iw way better than wiht someone who treats me poorly.
No dude is worth that..ok...self respect come first.
DUMP him...find a worthy guy.
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i recently dumped my boyf amd still had feeling 4 him yestaday uptown he was flirting with me and we ended up going out again but he got this otha girl pregnant and now he ses he has a daughter but they've split and we luv eachother but sumtimes I don't believe what he ses about having a daughter and he seems pretty desperate if he has a daughter cause uptown we were cuddling on the grass and he kept getting erections and trying to show me luv but wen i tryed 2 kiss him he turned his face away and sed i dont know if I'm ready yet what does this mean? (link)
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ok..he has a child..a LIFELONG committment...that will come before you...and do you really want to go down that road??
Plus he split form his baby's mama...come on..what if theis happens to you..will he dump you then??
Of course he gets aroused...he is a guy..but if he turns his head away from a kiss..that menas he is not feeling that intimate wiht you. See kisses mean a lot to some people..
He is not ready yet..give him and YOU some time to really think this out...his priortiy should be that baby..that did NOT ask to be born...
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ok here it goes..
my best guy friend and i went out for roughly a month, then he broke up with me. Well he's gotten over me and gone out with all these other girls, but i still have feelings for him and he has no idea whatsoever. i want to tell him, but then again i don't because i'm afraid that it might mess things up. and just a couple minutes ago, he read my profile and it has a quote in it that says "if two past lovers can remain friends then they were never in love or they still are" and when he read, that he imed me and goes "thats not true, i loved you until i saw you as a friend" i dont know, something about him saying that made me feel weird. i really really like him, but i feel like i can't do anything about it. This might be a confusing question, and it might be hard to understand what im asking, but if you do please help me.. (link)
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talk to him..at least then you feeling will not be a secret.
Why did you break up??who broke up with whom?
The worst thing that will happen is that he does not want you the same way you do.
To me..it is better to at least be honest with him...
Maybe in the future he will come back..but that will not happen unless you are honest with him.
Again I wonder what made you break up in the first place...
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ok my I dumped my boyfriend a couple of weeks ago and now i really like him but he acts weird he flirts with me one minuite then round his friends he doesn't wanna know me but I think he still likes me but he keeps saying he's got his other girlfriend pregnant and I'm sick of hearng iit because I think he's lying what should I do I'm really confused please help me (link)
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if he did get his ex pregant..woah i would be so far away from him that ..well anyway...
if he is acting weird to you...duh..YOU BROKE UP WITH HIM..to me..that he is event talking to you is a miracle..Be careful..he may want a bit of revenge for the DUMPOLA you did on him.
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Aright well I was with my friends last night and one my other friends that wasn't with us, started sayin shit about me, she is pissed off at me because we were out one night with sum other friends and ur crush my best friend was there (before I go one she said that she aways wanted me to be honest with her)aright well she started to get really annoying and i told her the truth about how she was actin like a damn fool. The only reason that she wanted to be there was because her crush was there and I told her that to her face bein honest and now she is really pissed off at me, and she told my best friend that lives in California that I was addicted to smokin wich I wasn't I only smoked once andand now my best friend won't talk to me because she thinks that Im addicted to smokin and she won't talk to me until I quit, wich I have. What the hell should I do. This bitch is tryin to make my life a livin hell!!! (link)
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No one ever wants yout to be honest with them. I do not care what they say...the ones that profess they want honestly..are the ones you should keep your mouth shut too.
If she is preading stuff about you..she is not a true friend..i would just blow her off...and all the mean stuff she said about you. People will know the truth,..it might take a while..but the truth always comes out.
Dump her big time and move on..she sounds like super bad news!
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Hey im 14 and this guy is 16 .. Soo we hang out all the time but my BEST friend hates him and thinks hes bad and stuff.. but whenever his around me hes really sweet my friend just says .. Oh he just wants a piece of ass and all this other stuff.. and i think my friends parents are itimated that he can drive ( because he drives me places). Were not going out by the way but everyone thinks we are becuz we act like it. hes a drinker too =/ liike he has this rep that he always goes to parties and gets drunk and throws up everywhere ! .. so yea =/ what should i do? should i stick with him.. i mean i like him but my friends hate him =/ PLEASE HELP (link)
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i am thinking your friend wants him..but I could be wrong..again..i would sit them both down and say hey you are my freind and you are my b/f..i care for you both..but you have to get along. If you both care for me..you will tolerate each other when we are all together.
Alos..your g/f CANNOT say anything bad to you..that is not fair..she needs to keep her thoughts to herself.
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my friend has a boyfriend and they have been going out for like 10 or 11 months and last night she cheated on him for her friend..she likes her friend a lot and he was just kissing her to well..kiss her, he doesnt like her. her boyfriend happens to be my friend too and he loves her and everything..what should she do..i think she might have told him by now.. (link)
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stay out of it..if you tell and she is ok with it..then b/f will hate you(if she breaks up with him)..if she is not ok with it you will lose her too. I am sorry but this is between her and her b/f..if you try to help..you will be the one everyone hates...
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I hate life like you wouldnt even believe. My dad left when i was a baby and my mom is on meds and living with a bf or maybe just some guy she has sex with and so ever since i was young i have been forced to live with my grandmother. My mom and aunt are on meds for depression and stress and they both claim its cuz of my gma which doesnt surprise me cuz she makes me insane, i wish i was dead like every 20 seconds. ever since i had sex she has been talking about eh guy for ever and its really hard for me cuz i really like him and she is the reasion why we are not together and all she ever does is tell me how worthless i am and how im stupid and how the only job i will get is selling my self even tho my grades are ABBBCC and she tells me that i am really low and just basicall puts me down every chance she gets. and i believe that is why i have no self confidence what so ever. and i believe that is why i had sex with my bf because he was the only guy who ever made me feel special and beautiful. but thats besides the point. everyday she reminds me of my mistakes and its getting old and i just want to shoot my self so i have been drinking and taking pills to make me feel alright and what not and well my question is this what can i do so i dont feel like shit 24/7? just a second ago i was going to go out cuz one of my friedns called me and she said oh you look easy enough, so how manny boys do you think you are going to fuck and so i riped my shirt and threw it at her adn said 100 get in line bi***
any ideas or insight would be much appreciated
thank you (link)
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so you canot live wiht your mom or aunt for they are..um..crazy..jeez..this is a tough one...
But first of all you are NOT worthless..to me..YOU will be way better than your loser granny who drove TWO people crzy and your mom and aunt who medicate themselves to death. You know what is right behavior and what is wrong..and how DARE they even put you down when they have donw such a SH*** job of their lives..
Anytime ANY of them..even dare to say one word to you..say to them..what and YOU did such a great job.and walk away.
But do not buy inot thier diseases by having sex and drinking..by doing that..YOU are confirming to them...that you are just LIKe them.
So you best at school..get a job..go to college..have a GREAT realtionship..wiht GREAT people..that alone will show them what a AWESOME person you are.
Youa re not a loser..you are going to have a WAY better life..than they could ever imagine....
LIVIMG good...is the best revenge...
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I am 14/f and my cousin who is 12/f will not leave me alone...i see her everyday and she calls me like 5 seconds after i see her on my cell phone and she wont shut up...she wont leave me alone on the internet and she keeps talking to me and my friends....it bugs the hell out of me.... and she copies everything i do and everything i wear....when i told her that she has to let me have some space she started crying and told her mom that i told her i hated her...which i never said. Her mom came over and told me that i had to be nice to her because she had no friends. What should i do to keep her from annoying me with out making her cry and making me look like a bad person? (link)
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she thinks of you like an older sister...to me..even though this would be really annoying...it is kind of cool..that someone would find you so AWESOME they would want to copy what you do. She will grow out of it.
If it is too annoying..try and get her to find her own style..take her shopping..act like her taste is really great w/o picking out anything yourself..she is insecure..once she realizes that she is ok..she will stop copying you.
encourage her..in her own taste..she will stop..if not..well heck..i wish someone copied what I did now!!
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