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dad problem
I'm 17 and my parents are divorced. I live with my mom. I've accepted the fact that I have to spend time with my dad and most of the time its not too bad. Lately things have seemed a little off. I don't want to spend time with him. I'm so stressed out when he's around. I love my brother to pieces but its worse when him and dad are together. They fight like kids and I have to seperate them. I hate being the adult. I'm the daughter and the sister not the wife or the mother. Personally I think when I leave I just won't tell him where I'm going and that'll be the end of it... but I know that would hurt him.
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I NO EXACTLY NO WHERE UR COMING FROM !!! i am goin through the same thing... my dad acts weird too wen he is around, but my bro and dad dont fight my mom and dad fight though, but i do have to act "mom" wen im at my dads house dont just walk away , talk to him and tell him how u feel
i feel so bad there r so many ppl lik us i hope this helps
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talk to both of them about it...it will help!
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it sure is nice to see that you care about ur dad and brother. just tell your dad where u will be. i dont want u and him to be one of the father/daughters that figh a lot. talk to him every once in a while.
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It sounds like the divorce has been really hard on your entire family and you feel like your shouldering most of the weight. Divorce in the family can be a great cause of stress and irrtability. Please don't blame yourself. It sounds like you need someone to talk to whether it be a trusted adult or someone at school. It's not fair that so much of this burden falls upon your shoulders. Stay strong-i know its hard to but this is your family and people you love so its worth it! Best of luck keep me updated!
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i don't know your dad but i'm pretty sure he's not trying to hurt you on purpose. as many times as you heard it and as much as it seems hard and like a drag u should talk to him about it instead of just leaving. if u leave and never talk to him or whatever ur gonna regret it later family is important
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you are so right..you ae NOT the wife or mother..your job is to be 17...i would sit boh the parents down and tell them the truth..that being with your dad and borther right now is causing youa lot of stress.
To me you dad needs to get a life and stop arguing with his son..ok..the time should be spent doing and having a great time...if he cannot do this..then You need to skip time wiht him and he has GOT to repect that.
You are alomost an adult..you think he would welmomce and behave himself for the brief time he has wiht you.
well now you know..most adults are just big babies...NOT grown up.
Speak your mind..hold true to what YOU need...
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besides the fact that there is no question i just want to tell you that omg you have a really tough live MAD PROPS FOR BEING THE ADULT!! anyway given that this is an advice site and i am supposed to give u advice i wanna add that you should do wat u wanted to about the whole moving out situation but tell your dad b like hey dad i am gonna move out for a few weeks, month, ect okay i just need to cool it for a little while srry even if he says no just go!!
HOPE I HELPED!!
x ♥ x ♥ Michelle
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There isn't really a questino to answer here, but I'll do my best to give you some advice, being that I have somewhat of the same situation. Being almost 30 it still isn't easy.
What you said is the heart of realizing that there's nothing you can do. You aren't the wife or the mother and you shouldn't have to be. I would suggest trying to talk to your mom and dad about how you feel when being over at your dad's.
I know you don't want to hurt anyone by telling them how you feel. And it's a hard thing to do. But your mental health should come first. Your parents need to be the adults in the situation. You're still a developing individual. They need to realize this and probably won't until you talk to them about it.
Good Luck and Best wishes.
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